My Father Stepped Back Into My Life After 22 Years

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    Aug 29, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    Twenty two years ago I had just met my Father for the first time as an adult. However I didn't stay long and took off telling him I wanted nothing to do with him. He found me recently in his iPhone and contacted me. I've tried looking him up a million times but couldn't find him. He said he saw my Facebook account and that I have chronic kidney disease and he wanted me to know if I need a kidney he has two. I have been learning so much about him lately. He went to music school for six years (his parents were very wealthy) and can read sheet music and play piano and accordian. He use to be a Harley Davidson biker but in the early eighties he got into a horrible accident that burned over eighty percent of his body. My dad was a rebel. He has been telling everything about the family I always wanted to know. It's REALLY strange adding my Father to all my Case Worker's emergency contact lists but it feels so good. I told him what I have done sexually and he didn't comment on it nor was he offended by it. But he did tell me I was the last one to carry on the family name but he is not upset that I didn't because he too believes this isn't a world right now to bring a child into. He tells me he loves me every time he calls. I am so blessed.
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    Aug 29, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    jerred saidTwenty two years ago I had just met my Father for the first time as an adult. However I didn't stay long and took off telling him I wanted nothing to do with him.

    Your RJ profile says you are 23. Your chronology doesn't make sense, nor is the rest of your narrative very coherent.

    I think you need to go back to square one and try rewriting it.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:01 PM GMT
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    jerred saidTwenty two years ago I had just met my Father for the first time as an adult. However I didn't stay long and took off telling him I wanted nothing to do with him.

    Your RJ profile says you are 23. Your chronology doesn't make sense, nor is the rest of your narrative very coherent.

    I think you need to go back to square one and try rewriting it.


    I am 43 years old. I don't reveal my personal information because I honestly believe it is none of your business. Words around here should mean more than who I am. And don't tell me about my coherent because I speak from the heart. I am not on here for hookups. To be honest my Mother called me Jerred all my life although that is not my real name. I was named after my Father. Your judgements are rubbish.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:08 PM GMT
    You know what shocks me is you can't find the beauty in what just happened in my life. How often do fathers step back into their sons lives like this. I will be HONEST why he wasn't in my life and why my Mom wanted nothing to do with him by the time I was six months old... He was a heroine addict all his life. I don't condemn him for that anymore. I will never hate him for what he went through.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
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    jerred said

    I am 43 years old. I don't reveal my personal information because I honestly believe it is none of your business. Words around here should mean more than who I am. And don't tell me about my coherent because I speak from the heart. I am not on here for hookups. To be honest my Mother called me Jerred all my life although that is not my real name. I was named after my Father. Your judgements are rubbish.


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    You people are so ethnocentric. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:22 PM GMT
    This site is such a negative place to be. It brought me way down many times. The heart means nothing around here. It's all about "coming out" or "dicks" or comparing yourselves to the straight community. Well there are pieces to the puzzle that I have. But you don't want them. All you want is to see a world in which gay guys are accepted but one where gay guys take over the world. Can't happen nor will it. You make the most of it but without hurting others.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    Idiot
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:34 PM GMT
    kevex saidIdiot


    It's so sad what you people are inside. The things you lack are seriously not going to be missed here by anyone. Enjoy your prejudisms.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:37 PM GMT
    So, we're supposed to believe this current story is true, although the facts stated in the RJ profile, like age, and likely its member pic, are now admitted to be false. Forgive me for having some skepticism. How do we tell fact from fiction? Is there a secret code word the OP uses so we know when the truth begins?
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:37 PM GMT
    I was rather suspicious, reading all the melodramatic details in the opening post.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidSo, we're supposed to believe this current story is true, although the facts stated in the RJ profile, and likely its member pic, are now admitted to be false. Forgive me for having some skepticism. How do we tell fact from fiction? Is there a secret code word the OP uses so we know when the truth begins?


    It's simple... Read the words. HOW THE FUCK if you are a human being would not know everything I have said is the truth? It's because you don't give a fuck about human emotion. All you want to know is my age and photo on this site because you think by doing so that validates the truth of what people say yet you guys really say NOTHING around here that makes any sense. Real Jock is not GOD. It is a site that advertises itself as a health website but quite frankly is EXTREMELY unhealthy. What it really is is a hookup site. That's the only reason you want my photo and age. If you are that dense to not read what I have said and KNOW it is the truth then you really are part of a world that will be shut down the same way it happened with the Greeks. Enjoy your short stay here.
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    ahh
    Stewart the reaper

    thought that was you

    you bring Unnamed with you?
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    Aug 29, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidahh
    Stewart the reaper

    thought that was you

    you bring Unnamed with you?


    So hilarious... I was NEVER the reaper. That came from Surfermag.com. It was someone pretending to be me. I know who it was too. You guys HATE the truth though don't you? I don't know who Unnamed is. The only person I have ever met on this site was Paulflexes and he is a great guy.
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    Aug 30, 2014 12:17 AM GMT
    Here is a real photo of me back in the very late eighties. That is not my real Father by the way... He was my stepfather from the time I was six months old. That is my Mom and that is my girlfriend to the right. Isn't she beautiful? She still is.

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    Aug 30, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    I take that back... That picture was actually in the early nineties. In the eighties I had long hair.

    Here is me in the very late eighties...

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    Aug 30, 2014 12:30 AM GMT
    My birthname I was named after my Father because his Mother threatened my Mother in the hospital saying the name Stuart is passed down from the middle names of women and first names of sons from the royalty of Scotland. Although my Grandmother was both Scottish and New York Sioux indian. I am really proud of who I am and where I came from. My Grandmother on my Mother's side was full Italian BELIEVE IT OR NOT. hahaha

    That is her in the last photo.
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    Aug 30, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    Oh yeah, My Mother called me Jerred anyways. I was even enlisted in school throughout my growing up years as Jerred.
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    Aug 30, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    My Mother named me after a soap opera character... So funny because she never knew how to spell it. Love my Mother to death.
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    Aug 30, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    You should really consider removing your main photo. It is not appropriate to pretend to be someone else. How do you expect other people to take you seriously if you can't be honest with them?

    If you don't want to use a photo of yourself, fine...but don't use a photo of someone else either. You can maintain your privacy without being dishonest.
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    Aug 30, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    There are no Sioux in New York. They were originally from the upper Midwest and Great Plains.
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    Aug 30, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    Family is very important , your real father is a part of it , it is bloody nice for you to have find that missing piece .. Enjoy his company and nurture this new found love .
    Cheers
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    Aug 30, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    Jerred! I am soooo happy for you that you reunited with your father and have found a point for the initiation of forgiveness, healing and a new relationship! Definitely, by all means take care of yourself! Be careful of any careless sex. Enjoy sex, but make it meaningful and as safe as possible! Does your dad have CKD as well or are his kidneys perfectly healthy?

    Also, PLEASE do not pay ANY attention to these guys here or anywhere else who make meanspirited comments!!! lol They are hurting really really badly deep within and are most likely fearful of the prospect of never having true love, loving themselves. No need to respond to them. Just smile at them and be nice to them even if they're mean to you. That doesn't kill you and in fact your kindness just may keep them from committing suicide. icon_biggrin.gif

    God Bless!
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    Aug 30, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    caramelopelon saidJerred! I am soooo happy for you that you reunited with your father and have found a point for the initiation of forgiveness, healing and a new relationship! Definitely, by all means take care of yourself! Be careful of any careless sex. Enjoy sex, but make it meaningful and as safe as possible! Does your dad have CKD as well or are his kidneys perfectly healthy?

    Also, PLEASE do not pay ANY attention to these guys here or anywhere else who make meanspirited comments!!! lol They are hurting really really badly deep within and are most likely fearful of the prospect of never having true love, loving themselves. No need to respond to them. Just smile at them and be nice to them even if they're mean to you. That doesn't kill you and in fact your kindness just may keep them from committing suicide. icon_biggrin.gif

    God Bless!


    Hello. Thanks for the kind words. No, my Father has perfect kidneys. Also, I have been abstinent from sex since 2006.

    Can't remember if I mentioned it in this post but my Father was a heroin addict for most of his life. We don't talk about that though. Mostly we are catching up on the things that have happened with our families.

    Peace.
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    Aug 30, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidThere are no Sioux in New York. They were originally from the upper Midwest and Great Plains.


    I will have to get back to him on that. Maybe she just happened to be a Sioux indian living in New York. That might have been what he meant.
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    Aug 30, 2014 9:32 PM GMT
    neffa saidFamily is very important , your real father is a part of it , it is bloody nice for you to have find that missing piece .. Enjoy his company and nurture this new found love .
    Cheers


    Thanks brother.