Legal Enough

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    Jan 13, 2009 5:33 AM GMT
    What does it really mean for one to take care of oneself? I'm trying to find my own answer and listen to answers from others.

  • Laurence

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    Jan 13, 2009 8:20 AM GMT
    When you can support yourself financially, pay your own bills and rent(mortgage), cook, clean and manage all aspects of your life, then you can say you can take care of yourself.

    You are going through that period of gradual change from being a child (having all things done for them by their parents) to being an adult (hopefully capable of looking after themselves). It suaully doesn't happen overnight.

    I left home to go to college and never went home. I have looked after myself ever since, without having to ask my parents for anything.

    However the great thing about familiies is, that although I've never had to rely on my parents, I do know that if I needed to I could go live back at home if I needed to.

    My advice. Don't rush to grow up and be too independent. Enjoy this period of freedom from the worry of bills, bills, bills. You'll soon live alone (or wiht friends) and be able to come and go as you please. But this freedom will come at the cost of having to take care of yourself.

    Lozx
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 13, 2009 12:50 PM GMT
    I grow in a very strict and a conservative country. I have a very strict disciplinary parents. As a teenager I cant wait to grow up and leave all this "cant do this , cant do that". My liberation come when I fly over to United States to go to college. I never live with my parent again (except for one month looking for job after I come home), and always take care of myself. I dont even like to live with housemate. But of course , taking care of myself mean hard work and paying all kind of bill.
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    Jan 13, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    Laurence saidWhen you can support yourself financially, pay your own bills and rent(mortgage), cook, clean and manage all aspects of your life, then you can say you can take care of yourself.

    You are going through that period of gradual change from being a child (having all things done for them by their parents) to being an adult (hopefully capable of looking after themselves). It suaully doesn't happen overnight.

    I left home to go to college and never went home. I have looked after myself ever since, without having to ask my parents for anything.

    However the great thing about familiies is, that although I've never had to rely on my parents, I do know that if I needed to I could go live back at home if I needed to.

    My advice. Don't rush to grow up and be too independent. Enjoy this period of freedom from the worry of bills, bills, bills. You'll soon live alone (or wiht friends) and be able to come and go as you please. But this freedom will come at the cost of having to take care of yourself.

    Lozx
    Thanks Laurence. I keep trying to take that into consideration. I sometimes feel that I should be doing more for myself, but I'm not in a position to move away from anytime soon. As crowded as it can be at home, its still the place where I can get a warm meal, hot showers, and four sturdy walls to keep me safe.
  • imperator

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    Jan 14, 2009 6:26 AM GMT
    tryingtolive saidWhat does it really mean for one to take care of oneself? I'm trying to find my own answer and listen to answers from others.



    Personally, I think one is an "adult" when willingness to own-- and be responsible for-- your own free actions finally becomes more important than the 'security' of living under parents/guardians' terms and rules and auspices. I lived with my parents until I was 27 because I valued the security there more than my freedoms for a long time icon_confused.gif I was waiting until all my debts that I'd racked up when I first got a credit card to be paid off, waiting to save up a few months safety-net cash, waiting for this and waiting for that, even though I didn't get along very well with my dad. And when I did move out it was before any of those "waiting for" conditions had been met; the tension between the old man and I got to a breaking point where freedom-- to make it on my own or to fail miserably and die in a ditch if necessary-- mattered more than my comfortable sense of security. But it's worked out well enough so far, approaching two years later.

    I'll suggest this much-- if you do start looking to move out on your own, think carefully about the question of roommates. Living with 7 other people (all younger except for my partner) for the first year and a quarter, and now living with my partner and two roommates (one younger and one older) since September, I can say from my experience so far that I was meant to live alone icon_confused.gif Going from the parental-dictatorship to a roommate-democracy can bring a whole host of new problems, given the average state of modern electorate.
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    Jan 14, 2009 6:31 AM GMT
    I'm turning 20 this coming february 24th and I have been living on my own pretty much with some assistance from glbt family and have been holding onto a job and paying all of my own bills since may's end. I'm still a kid but I'm also not in any rush to grow up personally.