Please no BS. I am a 18 closet gay male. I moved to Massachusetts to get away from my dad and I didn't want him knowing I am gay. I now live with my uncle, my aunt and their 2 children. I work for my uncle but I plan on going back to college in January. I definitely want a few dates and possibly a man in my life but living with my uncle is a challenge since nobody knows I want a man. That being said do any of u have suggestions or Were u like me at 18. I can't afford a apartment and go

  • Aug 30, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    Any suggestions would sure help in my decisions
  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 901

    Aug 30, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    Wow. You could have just posted a normal posticon_eek.gif

    Look, having your own place is a good thing on many levels.

    But lacking one has hardly ever stopped a determined 18 y.o. to get going, and have some fun.

    A few guys in your age group have their own living arrangements, and may be happy to host.

    Check on the clubs in the area. Not all places are seedy and dirty.

    Stick with the reasonable expectation of privacy, enjoy your private, intimate life, and let your family mind their business.

  • Apparition

    Posts: 4030

    Aug 31, 2014 8:39 PM GMT
    most sites have a box for "can host" "cant host" go to HIS house.
  • WApilot

    Posts: 192

    Sep 12, 2014 12:41 AM GMT
    I'm gonna be harsh, so either take my advice or don't, it's your life.


    Now if that's not a realistic solution in your current life, don't expect to make some innocent guy to knowingly come into your dramatic life. Be true to yourself, love yourself enough to be honest. How the hell do you expect someone else to love you if you can't love yourself?

    I'm 26 now, out and proud. When I was 18, I was in the closet. Trying to be in the closet and having a boyfriend is extremely difficult and mentally taxing. Before you attempt to enter into a relationship with someone, you need to make sure your life is somewhat settled. Imagine having a boyfriend, who is out of the closet and having to hide him from your family or have him go back into the closet for you... You're asking him to live a double life.

    So if you want advice. Remove yourself from the financial hold of your family as soon as practical and then come out. If they accept it, great, if they don't, then at least you have your own life to live without the fear of being homeless or abused. I came out to my parents while I was in the military, over the phone about a week before my 23rd birthday. I wasn't under my parent's roof and I was financially independent. It was a lot easier to come out then. My parents are okay now and loves my boyfriend. My mother calls him her "son-in-law".

    So, be honest with yourself, be independent AND then you can have a boyfriend.

    If you happen to hook-up with guys, be safe, use a condom or at least make sure the guy you're having sex with has been tested and clean. Have fun and hopefully you'll find happiness.