FIRST TIME WITH A MAN


  • Aug 31, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    I seriously am considering it but at first I just want to suck his. I am 18. Any opinions
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    Aug 31, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
    Overthinking it is very unlikely to help. If you are sexually compatible just go with the flow and use a condom =]
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    Aug 31, 2014 7:58 PM GMT
    Life is a journey only YOU ALONE can experience. Just control your hormones after the fact that you won't rape nobody or molest no kid. Just do it at your age but PLEASE use protection. It's a hormonal thing or rather I should say a hormonal SEARCH. It can even last a lifetime. But pay attention to the feelings you have after and pick up the messages your mind is telling you. You can do anything you want in this world as long as you don't abuse anyone.

  • Aug 31, 2014 8:04 PM GMT
    I am 18. When I do have sex which probably will be within a month. First I don't want anal my first time. Second it definitely will be a man over 35.
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    Sep 01, 2014 2:03 AM GMT
    Man, having sex with another man involves serious asshole lubrication. Get prepared (with condoms, of course)

    Tommy

  • Sep 01, 2014 2:10 AM GMT
    Why do I have to do anal only first date? Can't we just cuddle and Jack each other or maybe suck but not do that at first?
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    Sep 01, 2014 2:16 AM GMT
    do what you want, just cuddle make out if you want.

    be up front what your expectations are, sounds like you may not like it at all. Find someone cute, in a nice situation so the event is a positive memory.

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    Sep 01, 2014 2:23 AM GMT
    I dont think I can handle anal. Maybe ever. But we can just make out and suck right? Does anal ever not hurt?
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    Sep 01, 2014 5:25 AM GMT
    reading your profile and ever mentioning the word CUDDLE, make your first time special, and someone you have spent some time with. Dont be drunk, dont do it in a hurry, and ideally, do it in a bed and in the morning after you have slept with him all night. You will remember your first time forever, make it a good memory, and remember, if it isnt his first time, you are just a drop in the bucket, which is why it might be best to do it with someone slightly experienced close to your own age.
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    Sep 01, 2014 6:44 AM GMT
    Apparition saidreading your profile and ever mentioning the word CUDDLE, make your first time special, and someone you have spent some time with. Dont be drunk, dont do it in a hurry, and ideally, do it in a bed and in the morning after you have slept with him all night. You will remember your first time forever, make it a good memory, and remember, if it isnt his first time, you are just a drop in the bucket, which is why it might be best to do it with someone slightly experienced close to your own age.


    I agree with Apparition here: don't be drunk, don't be in a hurry, do it in a bed with someone you have (or will) sleep with, and do it with someone closer to your own age.

    And, as someone mentioned on a different thread here, try to scratch up the money to get Gardasil (the vaccine against human papillomavirus or HPV, which is a cause of anal, oral, and cervical cancer).

    Maybe you can call Cambridge Health Alliance's LGBT line to see if there is any way you can get financial help for Gardasil, or whether you can get covered through CommonHealth, the Massachusetts program that helped 96% of Mass. residents get insured, even before ACA ("Obamacare").

    By the way, what IS your insurance status, given that you are living with your uncle, and perhaps starting college in January? If you don't know it, you should check it out.

    As someone who is 18, you don't need your uncle's permission to get Gardasil, you just need a way to pay for it.

  • Sep 01, 2014 11:11 AM GMT
    I don't know anything about these vaccines. I have a insurance plan with my uncle but it doesn't start till October 11th because I have to wait 3 months for insurance. I haven't said anything about a guy putting his mess inside my butt yet. I haven't even picked out a guy I want to have sex with yet. I know it won't be a guy my age but most likely a middle age MAN but I will look into what u wrote about. All I know is I can NEVERRRRR let my Uncle or Aunt know about anything Homosexual.
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    Sep 01, 2014 11:46 AM GMT
    Norglfunf saidI dont think I can handle anal. Maybe ever. But we can just make out and suck right? Does anal ever not hurt?


    YES you can just make out and frot and suck each other.

    And YES anal can not hurt. It can feel amazing actually!
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    Sep 01, 2014 7:31 PM GMT
    YesIWantOne saidI don't know anything about these vaccines.

    Go to this link and read it for information about HPV and Gardasil.
    http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vpd-vac/hpv/vac-faqs.htm

    "I have a insurance plan with my uncle but it doesn't start till October 11th because I have to wait 3 months for insurance."

    Why not wait until you've had the vaccine? Once infected, HPV can stay with you for the rest of your life, and you won't even have any symptoms. Yet, it can eventually cause cancer of the throat (oral sex) or rectum (anal sex).

    "I haven't said anything about a guy putting his mess inside my butt yet."

    I really hope that there will be a condom between you and his "mess" (whatever you mean by that term - his penis? his semen?).

    You're only 18, you've never had sex, and you don't seem very informed about the risks. Get in touch with the Cambridge Health Alliance (many Cambridge and Somerville locations), BAGLY (Back Bay), or other groups.

    The Boston AIDS Action Committee has an office at:
    359 Green Street
    Cambridge, MA 02139
    617-437-6200
    It's not just for people with HIV, obviously. They will help you avoid getting HIV, and also give out free condoms.

    Since it sounds like you've already been involved with gay youth in the "street scene" (those guys who called you names and treated you like a piece of ass), you might also want to check out:
    Youth on Fire
    Drop-in Center for Homeless and Street Involved Youth
    1555 Massachusetts Avenue
    Cambridge, MA 02138
    617-661-2508