Extreme Promiscuity

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    Aug 31, 2014 7:54 PM GMT
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    Upfront: I am no prude and I have had casual hookups in the past, so I'm not looking down on people that do. But I've always been super turned off to guys who seem to just live solely for sex. There really is no bigger turn off for me personally. It seems many of these guys are also engaging in very risky sexual practices as if nothing is more important that getting as much cum up their asses as possible. I realize much of this is sexual addiction or better yet....sexual compulsiveness, but how can guys live like this and not at some point realize their lives are just passing them by?

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    Aug 31, 2014 8:11 PM GMT
    Just a fraction of Craigslist ads I saw today. A large portion seem to be "cumdumps":

    http://neworleans.craigslist.org/cas/4645472617.html
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    http://neworleans.craigslist.org/cas/4640004218.html
    http://neworleans.craigslist.org/m4m/4632700011.html
    http://mobile.craigslist.org/m4m/4642775429.html
    http://lafayette.craigslist.org/cas/4636731451.html
    http://mobile.craigslist.org/cas/4637504751.html
    http://lafayette.craigslist.org/cas/4634080197.html
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    Aug 31, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    Never. As long as there are others like them, they will continue. Plus, there are lots of hookup apps and other technological means to enable their addictions for a long time.

    This all reminds me of that guy that died of a heart attack alone in bed, with a log sized homemade dildo up his ass. Such a sad way to go.
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    Aug 31, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    ... but how can guys live like this and not at some point realize their lives are just passing them by?...


    For some, that is their life. Not hooking up and finding a new piece of ass every week or two is the opposite of living for them.

    Call it sexual addiction, low self esteem, narcissistic personality disorder...whatever.
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    Aug 31, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    The modern gay-rights movement was born in the free-love 60's and promiscuity now seems to be an essential tenet of it.
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    Aug 31, 2014 8:22 PM GMT
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    Upfront: I am no prude and I have had casual hookups in the past, so I'm not looking down on people that do. But I've always been super turned off to guys who seem to just live solely for sex. There really is no bigger turn off for me personally. It seems many of these guys are also engaging in very risky sexual practices as if nothing is more important that getting as much cum up their asses as possible. I realize much of this is sexual addiction or better yet....sexual compulsiveness, but how can guys live like this and not at some point realize their lives are just passing them by?

    Discuss...


    The issue is complicated to explain. It partly has to do with men wanting the most dominating one to feel pleasure. In the straight world that doesn't exist except in bondage also. I think as a male what I am realizing is that it comes down to what our bodies were really made for. THE PURPOSE of sex you cannot deny is to reproduce. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS SO HARSHLY BIBLICAL in the gay community but I don't disagree that male whales mate with eathother to find the most dominant that will mate with the female. It's part of our cycle our bodies were built to do. But it all has to do with YOUR conscience. Whatever is right for you comes from INSIDE... Not from me or the fucking political parties. IT IS YOUR FUCKING JOURNEY and live it the best you can in figuring out this weird physical philosophy.
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    Aug 31, 2014 8:32 PM GMT
    They live like that usually catching as many STDs as possible, then wake up one day being sad and old.

    And cut the crap you all who defend promiscuity saying "its imposed by heterosexuals". A slut is a slut, it doesnt matter if its straight or gay, so dont use the "heteronormative" bullshit as a green light to whore yourselves with no guilt. If youre gonna be a slut do it but dont try to justify it as a normal or healthy behavior because it's not.
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    Aug 31, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    pazzy saidanother question. are we talking about men in general including straight men or are we just focusing on gay guys? i notice how folks seem to focus on gay guys that are promiscuous and seem to ignore all the straight guys that sleep around, bragging about how they slept with 1,000 women or have 20 odd kids with 20 different women. why are gay guys stigmatized for doing the same shit straight guys do? there's plenty of straight guys that engage in raw sex, catch and spread diseases, have kids they know they won't take care of and etc.


    True, but I have never seen it to the degree I have with gay men. And the risk factor is MUCH greater with a gay man than a straight man.
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    Aug 31, 2014 9:10 PM GMT
    pazzy saidanother question. are we talking about men in general including straight men or are we just focusing on gay guys? i notice how folks seem to focus on gay guys that are promiscuous and seem to ignore all the straight guys that sleep around, bragging about how they slept with 1,000 women or have 20 odd kids with 20 different women. why are gay guys stigmatized for doing the same shit straight guys do? there's plenty of straight guys that engage in raw sex, catch and spread diseases, have kids they know they won't take care of and etc.


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    Aug 31, 2014 9:18 PM GMT
    So funny...those Craigslist ads/photos...as awful as they were, like a train wreck, I couldn't look away!
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    Aug 31, 2014 9:49 PM GMT
    To each its own my dear Scruffypup, just live and let live!! this world is big enough for all kinds of people.

    The way I deal with it is quite simple really! if for any reason I have to deal with such element on a daily bases, I just keep my distance and mind my own business! I may have had very few sexual partners in comparison with the norm, but that is because all those sexual encounters were within long term sexual relationships! and that is good enough for me!
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    Aug 31, 2014 11:47 PM GMT
    HydesOut2 saidSo funny...those Craigslist ads/photos...as awful as they were, like a train wreck, I couldn't look away!


    That's only a tiny fraction of the ads in New Orleans right now. It's Southern Decadence weekend and this is the quality of tourists we have right now. icon_neutral.gif
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    LEANDRO_NJ saidTo each its own my dear Scruffypup, just live and let live!! this world is big enough for all kinds of people.

    The way I deal with it is quite simple really! if for any reason I have to deal with such element on a daily bases, I just keep my distance and mind my own business! I may have had very few sexual partners in comparison with the norm, but that is because all those sexual encounters were within long term sexual relationships! and that is good enough for me!


    Where did you get the idea that I don't want to allow them to live? icon_confused.gif This is a forum and forums are for discussing stuff, right?
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    Sep 01, 2014 12:53 AM GMT

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    LEANDRO_NJ saidTo each its own my dear Scruffypup, just live and let live!! this world is big enough for all kinds of people.

    The way I deal with it is quite simple really! if for any reason I have to deal with such element on a daily bases, I just keep my distance and mind my own business! I may have had very few sexual partners in comparison with the norm, but that is because all those sexual encounters were within long term sexual relationships! and that is good enough for me!


    Where did you get the idea that I don't want to allow them to live? icon_confused.gif This is a forum and forums are for discussing stuff, right?


    Scruffypup, they are only a danger to themselves! how about those who fall victims because of their promiscuity, you may ask!? we live in an information age, where EVERYONE knows the consequences of hooking up, regardless of how nice someone may seem at first impression. Having said that hooking up with a stranger, no matter how much or less often is done, even with someone you have dated for a while, is in my opinion a very dumb and risky thing to do.

    My intent is not to disagree with you, but if you already know someone who is overly promiscuous, what good does YOU questioning or in criticizing their sexual preferences or practices!? I've learned a long time ago that whatever people do, even if I don't agree or understand their actions, that my opinion is NOT going to change them. I am ok with people doing whatever, so as long as it doesn't directly affect me or the people I love and care about. If others fall victim of someone else's sexual practices, they are the fools. We live in a well established information age, where EVERYTHING you need to know is at your fingertips.
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    Sep 01, 2014 1:36 AM GMT
    I was discussing this with a straight friend recently. We were on a bus and could see full stop what the two guys in front were doing on Grindr. I then tried to explain hook-up culture.

    Recalling my own hook-ups and whatnot, I felt extremely "used" and cheap. The people weren't users, rather I felt degraded by the "system", for lack of a better word. I haven't had an interest in hooking-up ever since, and whenever I feel horny, I end up feeling cheap when I reflect on the rituals: the forward/shameless "flirting", dick pics, and the very clinical metrics we use to assess each other.

    As for promiscuity/sex practices, they seem to be more important and visible parts of gay culture. Straight people have bondage, leather, BDMS, and so on, but it's not publicly visible. Currently, I see the potential for a strong backlash as gay and mainstream cultures converge and have to co-exist in the open. WHen gays were closeted and invisible, no one really cared what went on at 2 AM in "that part" of town. Now, it can be awkward when a co-worker or kid's algebra teacher is seen in a pair of assless chaps during Pride.
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    Sep 01, 2014 1:55 AM GMT
    Amelorn saidI was discussing this with a straight friend recently. We were on a bus and could see full stop what the two guys in front were doing on Grindr. I then tried to explain hook-up culture.

    Recalling my own hook-ups and whatnot, I felt extremely "used" and cheap. The people weren't users, rather I felt degraded by the "system", for lack of a better word. I haven't had an interest in hooking-up ever since, and whenever I feel horny, I end up feeling cheap when I reflect on the rituals: the forward/shameless "flirting", dick pics, and the very clinical metrics we use to assess each other.

    As for promiscuity/sex practices, they seem to be more important and visible parts of gay culture. Straight people have bondage, leather, BDMS, and so on, but it's not publicly visible. Currently, I see the potential for a strong backlash as gay and mainstream cultures converge and have to co-exist in the open. WHen gays were closeted and invisible, no one really cared what went on at 2 AM in "that part" of town. Now, it can be awkward when a co-worker or kid's algebra teacher is seen in a pair of assless chaps during Pride.


    It's being my experience that Internet Gay culture is more about sex then the Gay culture I've come to know in the real world. Most of my gay acquaintances, whether it be friends or dates, most are genuinely looking and do find a connection with other gay men beyond that of sex.
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    LEANDRO_NJ saidTo each its own my dear Scruffypup, just live and let live!! this world is big enough for all kinds of people.

    The way I deal with it is quite simple really! if for any reason I have to deal with such element on a daily bases, I just keep my distance and mind my own business! I may have had very few sexual partners in comparison with the norm, but that is because all those sexual encounters were within long term sexual relationships! and that is good enough for me!


    Where did you get the idea that I don't want to allow them to live? icon_confused.gif This is a forum and forums are for discussing stuff, right?


    Scruffypup, they are only a danger to themselves! how about those who fall victims because of their promiscuity, you may ask!? we live in an information age, where EVERYONE knows the consequences of hooking up, regardless of how nice someone may seem at first impression. Having said that hooking up with a stranger, no matter how much or less often is done, even with someone you have dated for a while, is in my opinion a very dumb and risky thing to do.

    My intent is not to disagree with you, but if you already know someone who is overly promiscuous, what good does YOU questioning or in criticizing their sexual preferences or practices!? I've learned a long time ago that whatever people do, even if I don't agree or understand their actions, that my opinion is NOT going to change them. I am ok with people doing whatever, so as long as it doesn't directly affect me or the people I love and care about.


    That sounds a wee bit hypocritical considering you posted to this thread solely to "question and criticize" my thread. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 01, 2014 4:06 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    LEANDRO_NJ said
    Scruffypup said
    LEANDRO_NJ saidTo each its own my dear Scruffypup, just live and let live!! this world is big enough for all kinds of people.

    The way I deal with it is quite simple really! if for any reason I have to deal with such element on a daily bases, I just keep my distance and mind my own business! I may have had very few sexual partners in comparison with the norm, but that is because all those sexual encounters were within long term sexual relationships! and that is good enough for me!


    Where did you get the idea that I don't want to allow them to live? icon_confused.gif This is a forum and forums are for discussing stuff, right?


    Scruffypup, they are only a danger to themselves! how about those who fall victims because of their promiscuity, you may ask!? we live in an information age, where EVERYONE knows the consequences of hooking up, regardless of how nice someone may seem at first impression. Having said that hooking up with a stranger, no matter how much or less often is done, even with someone you have dated for a while, is in my opinion a very dumb and risky thing to do.

    My intent is not to disagree with you, but if you already know someone who is overly promiscuous, what good does YOU questioning or in criticizing their sexual preferences or practices!? I've learned a long time ago that whatever people do, even if I don't agree or understand their actions, that my opinion is NOT going to change them. I am ok with people doing whatever, so as long as it doesn't directly affect me or the people I love and care about.


    That sounds a wee bit hypocritical considering you posted to this thread solely to "question and criticize" my thread. icon_confused.gif


    Hypocritical? I would be more of a hypocrite if I wouldn't express my opinion, now wouldn't I!?
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    Sep 01, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    some people have shitty lives and it makes them happy. sad, but true.
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    Sep 01, 2014 7:48 AM GMT
    David3K saidThey live like that usually catching as many STDs as possible, then wake up one day being sad and old.

    And cut the crap you all who defend promiscuity saying "its imposed by heterosexuals". A slut is a slut, it doesnt matter if its straight or gay, so dont use the "heteronormative" bullshit as a green light to whore yourselves with no guilt. If youre gonna be a slut do it but dont try to justify it as a normal or healthy behavior because it's not.


    I have to say, I kind of actually agree with this.
    Albeit probably could have used a bit more grace (that's just my own personal taste though) but regardless I see your point.
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    Sep 01, 2014 10:55 AM GMT
    silver_phoenix saidLike in the pic, it is always the fuglies who are into the hardcore Treasure Island Media sleaze.

    May be on the craigslist, but if you go online on some other regular dating/hook-ups website or visit some sex club, you'll also find many good looking well-built guys with similar interests. Some of them may have better standard in terms of for what kind of guys they'll be a "cumdump".
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    Sep 01, 2014 1:01 PM GMT
    silver_phoenix saidLike in the pic, it is always the fuglies who are into the hardcore Treasure Island Media sleaze.


    You'd be surprised. There are some very good looking guys who have absolutely no respect for their bodies. And their looks are what allows them to stay so sexually active with so many different guys. Good looks and emotional health are not necessarily synonymous.
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    Sep 01, 2014 2:40 PM GMT
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    There are some very good looking guys who have absolutely no respect for their bodies. And their looks are what allows them to stay so sexually active with so many different guys. Good looks and emotional health are not necessarily synonymous.

    This is true. I never had good looks. And was into my late 40s by the time I came out, making me look even worse. But I was extremely active sexually, the most I'd ever been in my entire life, and I'd like to believe my emotional health was on very firm ground.

    My method? Knowing I lacked good looks & youth, I substituted an outgoing and friendly personality. If I couldn't lure guys into my bed with my looks, I'd use charm, ans sexual talent. And no, that doesn't mean being "easy" and accepting anyone. You ALSO had to pass some tests before I'd open my bedroom door to you.

    I realize that sounds as conceited as if I were to say I did have knockout GQ looks. But in life we work with what we've got, shoring-up weaknesses and creating strengths. That approach certainly worked for me. icon_biggrin.gif

    Regarding respect for my body, I respected it when it performed as I wanted. I could order up a steel-hard erection with a snap of my finger into my early 60s. Now THAT'S something to respect.

    Then I got prostate cancer, and I lost that ability. "Hello, Dick? Are you listening? I need you hard now. Hello, hello? Are you there?"

    ::: SLAP, SLAP :::

    "You're not paying attention! Are you asleep again? Wake up! I need you! NOW!"

    That's when you lose respect for your body. When it no longer obeys you. Whether it's getting a hardon on command, or being able to jog around the block. Whereas respect based on doing "dignified" things is an arbitrary and personalized concept to me, that applies very little to my sexual activities. As long as it gives me pleasure, I do it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 01, 2014 3:20 PM GMT
    ...not all "sexual activities" nor fetishes, or obsessions are right for everyone....so don't participate in them and don't worry about it.
    The "bedroom practices" of the "extremely promiscuous" are of no more concern, than say gay sex should be to the religious, bigoted homophobes.... icon_cool.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif
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    Sep 01, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Sporty_G said...not all "sexual activities" nor fetishes, or obsessions are right for everyone....so don't participate in them and don't worry about it.
    The "bedroom practices" of the "extremely promiscuous" are of no more concern, than say gay sex should be to the religious, bigoted homophobes.... icon_cool.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif



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