Introvert or Extrovert

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    Sep 06, 2014 12:59 PM GMT
    I've been thinking a lot about personality types lately and previously I thought I had far more of an extrovert personality but it turns out I'm actually more of an introvert with some extrovert tendencies.

    What do you think are the pros and cons of each personality type and do you ever wish you could change yours i.e if your a quiet shut in do you ever wish you could be more outgoing ?
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    Sep 06, 2014 1:24 PM GMT
    I wish( as a mostly extroverted person) I could be someone who when they want to see a movie will go and see said movie even if that means going alone, but I just cant do it and a true intro-vert would have no probs with that most likely.
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    Sep 06, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    lookinforcars101 saidI wish( as a mostly extroverted person) I could be someone who when they want to see a movie will go and see said movie even if that means going alone, but I just cant do it and a true intro-vert would have no probs with that most likely.


    Challenge thyself icon_wink.gif It'd be an interesting experience I guess.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 06, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    I enjoy the best of both worlds! I was tested and am right on the line between the two. I can be very outgoing and have no issues (at all) with taking the initiative with other people in public settings, but I do enjoy quiet, reflective time in my house or working in my yard.

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    Sep 06, 2014 2:06 PM GMT
    I'm an extrovert, I used to be a little more introverted when I was younger and it led to a few awkward instances of blanking people in the street etc. I am much happier as an extrovert. I talk to people all day as part of my job, then I talk to my gym friends at the gym. After that I go home and talk to my introverted housemate (who is usually tired of talking by then haha).
  • conservativej...

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    Sep 06, 2014 2:58 PM GMT
    It is better to be "well-balanced" knowing when either personality type is not appropriate for the moment. :-) An active career is the world's best aid in managing one's personality.
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    Sep 06, 2014 3:04 PM GMT

    I'm going to guess that the majority of people responding to this will be extroverts. As in my introverted style I pondered not responding and just observing others responses.

    I personally feel like I am extremely introverted, but there could be other aspects that lend to that opinion. I tend to stick to my small group of friends that get me, though I do wish I were even the *slightest* bit outgoing, but alas I am not.
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    Sep 06, 2014 3:33 PM GMT
    lookinforcars101 saidI wish( as a mostly extroverted person) I could be someone who when they want to see a movie will go and see said movie even if that means going alone, but I just cant do it and a true intro-vert would have no probs with that most likely.

    I don't know that this has anything to do with whether one is introverted or extroverted. I am mostly the latter, but have no qualms about going to dinner or a movie solo. Why does the idea make you uncomfortable? Are you concerned with how it might appear to others?
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    Sep 06, 2014 3:46 PM GMT
    I actually feel that I am balanced between the two and am an ambivert. I can be very personable and friendly with a crowd of different people. I also do find comfort and solace in having time to myself apart from people.

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  • KaZT

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    Sep 06, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    I am introvert one so I'd like to meet extrovert mostly;)
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    Sep 06, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    I'm an introvert who forces myself to be in more extroverted situations but then actually enjoys them.
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Sep 06, 2014 5:30 PM GMT
    I am an extrovert who is in hiding lol. I used to be extroverted, but I got depressed and started staying home etc. I am new to the gay world at 35. Oh man, the gay world is definitely different. There are so many hot guys on this site, I don't know if I should be talking to them, they are way out of my league. icon_smile.gif

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    Sep 06, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    lookinforcars101 saidI wish( as a mostly extroverted person) I could be someone who when they want to see a movie will go and see said movie even if that means going alone, but I just cant do it and a true intro-vert would have no probs with that most likely.

    I'm introverted and I don't like going out alone.
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    Sep 06, 2014 5:41 PM GMT
    I test as INFJ and I'm comfortable with that. I was raised in a very socializing family so I've those skills to engage as required; though, even when I throw a party I need to escape it for some down time to recharge. My friends, who I've kept for more than 50 years, are used to that by now.

    The only time introversion has been detrimental is the last few years as I attempt recovery from a series of deaths of loved ones and some terrible betrayals. Trying to get a new life going, I did become a bit of a shut-in, which is not how I lived my prior 50 years. I'm not reclusive, even now, as all my new neighbors know me and I've made friends with some of them, but I'm struggling to function again at my normal level. Also I've done some bodily damage to myself by shutting myself away from this cruel cruel world. All currently undergoing repair.

    This transition likely would have been easier if I was more extroverted or even if I simply didn't care about people. But the combination of being extremely empathic, easily butthurt and naturally introverted, which can be good qualities on their own, combined at a bad time to make life a little tough. Oh well, that's life.

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    Sep 06, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    Introverts think before they speak. Extroverts are expressive. I wish I was more outgoing but I often need a push from someone else. And alcohol, that always helps lol.
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    Sep 06, 2014 6:08 PM GMT
    INTJ
  • SENCGuy1

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    Sep 06, 2014 8:11 PM GMT
    Same as tmac; INTJ
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    People often misconstrue introversion means being shy or antisocial whilst extroversion the opposite.
    It actually has nothing to do with that.

    Introversion itself doesn't mean shyness although you can have people who are introverted who are also shy.
    Introversion basically means that to recharge you need to be alone and have time to yourself.
    Their energy expands with reflection and dwindles with interaction.
    There are plenty of people who are introverted who socialise very well, it's just that overtime they get drained and have to spend time alone to recharge themselves.

    Extroverted people are just those kinds of people who feel recharged when they are around people.
    You can have extroverted people who are quite shy, they love being around people but they might not necessarily socialise or interact with them.
    To recharge they need to be around other people, that is where they thrive. That is why commonly extroverted people are sociable as they are gratified and enjoy spending time with people.

    Like what someone else posted, not many people are actually just one thing.
    It's very common for people to be ambivert who are not exclusively introverted or extroverted.
    They are moderately comfortable with groups and social interaction but also relish time alone and away from the crowd.

    For me I would say I'm mostly on the introverted side.
    Since I work in the health field it requires me to able to function well in a social setting because I interact with people directly all the time. I enjoy it and come across quite sociable to my colleagues and patients that come in.
    However whenever I can have time alone I always prefer it and as soon as I get home from work I really value my alone time.
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    Introverts are deep mysterious dangerous waters.
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    I would say it depends on what my blood alcohol level is.
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:40 PM GMT
    Introvert here for as long as I can remember. Since I was little kid I was always shy but I could always get along with everyone, just always prefered to have 1-on-1 friendships rather than group. I don't really know why, just always been like that. I am attracted to extrovert personalities though relationship wise.
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    I'm INTP and I love being an introvert I don't like people and I get to have lots of quality time, less bull from people, and most of my good relations tend to be with people who are real and loyal. However I find myself lonely a lot of the time and lacking some deep connections with other (I'm afraid to develop deep connections however.) and I don't have a large network either.

    Extroverts from my experience I for a large amount can say that everything is reversed.
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    Sep 06, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    Most people are a mix of both.

    People who strongly identify as extroverted or introverted usually just take it as a crutch for their behavior.. good or bad.

    I'm introverted, but in the sense that prolonged social engagement makes me tired.

    It doesn't mean I'm going to a movie alone, going home petting my
    cat and writing in my journal. Those are not "introverted" activities.. They are just activities.
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    Sep 06, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    I would consider myself an introvert.

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    Sep 06, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    I'll go with what jrad said above--ambivert.

    Love being out and about with people. On the other hand, without my quiet down time I would not be able to function.