Natural to be ashamed of urges? Or is it normal?

  • Markz0ne45

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    Sep 06, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
    I am ashamed not really of my sexuality, I am really just ashamed of my sexual behavior when I am by myself. I am confused about my personality. Example, I am in Fort Luaderdale till tuesday and my cousin is literally my opposite... He isn't gay, but he demeans women and it pisses me off. He is always checking every women out even if they have a boyfriend. I know we're men and that's who we are and I have thought about my male friends sexually and I have done the same with women. But there needs to be some degree of respect for people. People aren't objects, they'r living people and animal life is not an object. We as humans are blessed with the Creator's design and intellect to behave better, but we also have that animal sexual nature. I am not against sex, I am just saying that I need to be in a relationship and the sex needs to be meaningful. I never had a boyfriend before, hell I never made it to first base yet.
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    Sep 06, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
    that's misogynist view in a nutshell in your cousin.

    fighting against that is exactly what (true) feminism/equalism is working on.

    though i dont know how what your cousin did relates to how you're ashamed of your sexual urge.
  • Markz0ne45

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    Sep 06, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    Well it's because I need to respect others and I want a relationship more than sex. So being horny all the time isn't always good.
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    Sep 10, 2014 4:42 AM GMT
    Your question about is it natural to be ashamed of our sexual urges? Hell no!! That is taught by society, family, religion, the legal system, etc. Do you think dogs naturally think about what's right or wrong when they become horny for another dog? No, they want to fuck. lol. Just read Sigmund Freud's, or any intelligent educated zoologist's works bro.
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Sep 10, 2014 2:21 PM GMT
    Urges keep the human race going.

    We have urges to eat, urges to work, urges to sleep...sex is no different.
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    Sep 10, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
    Markz0ne45 said... We as humans are blessed with the Creator's design and intellect...
    maybe the OP's fail is he puts a religious spin on everything. He might disconnect religion as the reason why we "behave" and relay on the more better generic civil laws and social codes.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 10, 2014 2:48 PM GMT
    This guy's a religious nut who bows and scrapes to silly books and old men trying to control his every action. There's nothing wrong with urges. Acting on them is fault.
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    Sep 10, 2014 4:09 PM GMT
    I'm on the fence when it comes to objectifying people lol, If I'm around someone who is on cock watch constantly it disgusts me. My brother and his friends do it all the time and they are not the type of people you want objectifying your package >shudders<

    But I am such a shameless peeve when it comes to ass, I have such admiration for ass a big ass can't be ignored and must be praised and applauded.


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    Sep 10, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    pazzy saidi feel you, man. that's one of my biggest problems too. so scared to even express myself like that anybody where i pretty much put up a front. instead of just being open about it where i'm like dating and etc willing to share that aspect of myself to someone else as i have the thoughts about doing it, i just run from it out of fear when the opportunity arises. icon_sad.gif funny because i too am a inexperienced virgin that hasn't dated anybody before, let alone kissed. so used to being this way that it's just normal for me though in reality, i'm holding myself back. for me, there's something about sex, dating and etc, that makes me feel uncomfortable and shameful, it's weird. being gay has a bit to do with it BUT there's more to that. there's some people that take pride in dating, having sex, losing their virginity and all that. i used to be excited about that when i was a teen. now as an adult, it's like.... it would feel weird.

    but yeah, i don't think that shit is cool either with the sleeping around, playing with people's hearts, disrespecting them and shit of that nature. that's why i don't really care too much of the idea of having hookups because it seems like some empty shit. i do understand that dating, sex and all that isn't some rosy picture where it's some secret garden of romance, things will go perfect, and some fantasy island trash. there's going to be issues of course that comes with that.


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    Sep 10, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    No. It is not natural to feel ashamed of your sex drive. More likely it's bad toilet training. Blame your mother.

    As to requiring sex to be meaningful, there's no one to blame for that. That is completely natural and it simply means that you're a girl.
  • Markz0ne45

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    Sep 11, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    I like how I am being told it's unnatural to have some respect for people. Look I'm a deist, I have organs in me and all of nature is obviously created. I don't need a book or scientist to say otherwise.

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    Nov 27, 2014 2:00 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThis guy's a religious nut who bows and scrapes to silly books and old men trying to control his every action. There's nothing wrong with urges. Acting on them is fault.

    I might say acting on urges is only a fault when they come at the unwilling or unwitting expense of others. But when done with the consent of others, urges are great. And when 2 people have the same urges, and satisfy them together, same sex or opposite sex - fireworks! icon_biggrin.gif