Have you ever denied first time sex?

  • Markz0ne45

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    Sep 07, 2014 2:42 AM GMT
    I wanted to share an interesting story, now that I'm settled down. In early 2013 I was going out with this old high school crush of mine. I actually know why I didn't like him, and why I was deluded into liking him. In 9th grade he was a junior( go back in time to 2007) and I loved his looks and personality. But when we dated after high school, he got weird. He thought the US should be a communist regime and he had these bizarre fetishes. He was basically a player, but the way he went about seducing me was just creepy.

    So one night, I am in his trailer. His trailer is messy and it has no warmth to it. I basically was asking him about fooling around, he started to come up and attempt to kiss me. I got really really hard from the thought of having sex with him. But something in me, I think it was fear, I simply left. He wasn't happy when I left at all. I literally passed it up, I don't regret it. But at the same time, I was being a wimp and I don't want to do this to another person. I have a thing for being dominated and he was literally all horned up, I could see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice. But low and behold, I left.
  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 875

    Sep 07, 2014 8:20 AM GMT
    Nope. Have never done this.

    The HS is over. So, I do not play these games anymore.

    No one is any better off by being left to hang high and dry...

    But I am not too tolerant of weirdness either. So, if I see red flags popping out, I move on long time before going to his trailer or my bedroomicon_smile.gif


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    Sep 07, 2014 9:17 AM GMT
    Yes, on few occasions.
    Once, I met up with this guy through an online app. I go to his house,and we started making out. But I didn't seem to be totally into him. I told him that it's not working, and I left.
    On an another occasion, I met another guy in a bar. We move to his place. Then he asks about my ethnicity. When I told him my ethinicity, he said that he is not usually into guys from my ethinicity, but I was attracting enough for him. I left.

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    Sep 07, 2014 10:39 AM GMT
    morphic saidYes, on few occasions.
    Once, I met up with this guy through an online app. I go to his house,and we started making out. But I didn't seem to be totally into him. I told him that it's not working, and I left.
    On an another occasion, I met another guy in a bar. We move to his place. Then he asks about my ethnicity. When I told him my ethinicity, he said that he is not usually into guys from my ethinicity, but I was attracting enough for him. I left.



    What a douche this guy must have been.
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 09, 2014 5:49 AM GMT
    I don't understand what you're asking. Your question and story don't jive in my head.

    If you're asking if I've ever taken someone's virginity.....then no. I'm attracted to older guys, so that's never been an issue.

    If you'r'e asking if I've ever stopped a hookup before it really started....then yes. One time a guy physically pulled the condom off and attempted to ride my raw. I left. Another time after making it very clear what, precisely, what happen (I was 16 and a newbie) the guy tried to pressure me into doing things I'd previously on chat turned down. I didn't like the coercion. I left. Another time the guy did not look like his pics. I left.

    In each instance I always say "I just need to run to my car really quick," and then I drive away. Works like a charm. But it takes some real RED FLAGS for me to stop a hookup. Happens to us all. A communist with weird fetishes? I'd have left before I arrived, nobody has time for that BS.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:33 AM GMT
    Svnw688 said

    But it takes some real RED FLAGS for me to stop a hookup. Happens to us all. A communist with weird fetishes? I'd have left before I arrived, nobody has time for that BS.

    A guy I was about to meet up after talking online, had Putin as his whatsapp image. He had sent me his whatsapp number, but I hadn't added him until I was about to arrive at his house. I added him to ask how to get from the underground train station to his house. I blocked him on all possible websites/apps. Sadly, he was a well built good looking russian guy.
  • Nitro

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    Sep 15, 2014 4:55 AM GMT
    morphic said
    Svnw688 said

    But it takes some real RED FLAGS for me to stop a hookup. Happens to us all. A communist with weird fetishes? I'd have left before I arrived, nobody has time for that BS.

    A guy I was about to meet up after talking online, had Putin as his whatsapp image. He had sent me his whatsapp number, but I hadn't added him until I was about to arrive at his house. I added him to ask how to get from the underground train station to his house. I blocked him on all possible websites/apps. Sadly, he was a well built good looking russian guy.


    Wow, that's quite a strange story
  • Decisive

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    Sep 15, 2014 8:56 AM GMT
    I personally haven't really stopped any situations but circumstance has.

    I had been talking to this guy for a while online. We had been exchanging pics and whatever and tried to meet a few times but something always came up before we would finalize any plans.

    Finally we set up a time for me to come by before he had to go to work one morning. I was a little nervous but super horny from all the sexual anticipation we had built up. (He had a pretty nice cock that I wanted to hold and he was all horned up waiting for me to get there and take care of it).

    Low and behold though on the way there my timing belt broke on my car...so, I tell him and he wasn't very happy about it. Honestly, "I can't make it my car broke down" sounds like a lie that a flake would tell. Ultimately I think it was a sign seeing as we had tried a few times before but could never get on the same page. We never talked again.

    Some hookups just aren't meant to happen.
  • PRDGUY

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    Sep 15, 2014 9:56 AM GMT
    As "Silver..." said above is never cool to leave someone hanging. in regards to people I've never met or never hooked up w/b4- no never as I always arrange a 'meet and greet' while letting it be known that we will decide going forward based on that.