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    Sep 07, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
    The situation didn't happened and it was a product of my imagination.
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    Sep 07, 2014 5:56 PM GMT
    Don't shade a whole race of people because of one insecure, dumb ass.
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    Sep 07, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    What were his exact words? I'm channelling my inner Judge Judy.
  • Koaa2

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    Sep 07, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    Not all white guys would have reacted like that. It is always easy to generalize groups of people and how they behave.
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Sounds like you were being an ass to him first. Maybe you deserved to be chewed out?
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:04 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidDon't shade a whole race of people because of one insecure, dumb ass.


    I agree, that guy was just out of line. I've been told by guys I was attracted to that they're not into white guys, and sure it sucks, but does he think that acting like an ass will make you see how wonderful he really is? lol
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:04 PM GMT
    Being saidI told him that I wasn't attracted to white guys


    That part right there would offend anyone. Don't be surprised that he got upset.
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    seems to me you are just shaming the whole race, especially your last sentence.
    Looking at this situation it does not make much sense, If you were not attracted to him personally, you wouldn't write ''why do white men have such big egos '' even if you are not attracted to the whole write race, you wouldn't shame the whole race for having big egos, because first attraction is always physical while you are being just judgemental for some reason.

    seems to be you have issues with all of the white race and that kind of makes you racist


    another thing is why do you have to give snarkly remarks, you can simply say I am not attracted to you or whites in general politely
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:17 PM GMT
    jmusmc_85 saidSounds like you were being an ass to him first. Maybe you deserved to be chewed out?


    I politely decline him until he became unbearable that I told him the truth.
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:21 PM GMT
    You're calling HIM a racist when you open with "I'm not attracted to white people"??

    You discount the possibility of attraction purely on the color of someone's skin, but the guy who clearly finds you attractive enough to dance with and chat with you at the bar... HE's the racist?

    That, children is was we call "hypocrisy"...
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    Wait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol
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    Sep 07, 2014 6:50 PM GMT
    Being saidWhy do white men have such big egos.
    Because we're white. Duh!

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    Sep 07, 2014 6:52 PM GMT
    I think I've made my stance on this issue pretty obvious from the forums I've created but ill out it out there again. I don't think there is anything wrong with having a preference, but saying it to that guy like that was very inappropriate in my opinion. It also sounds like you were acting kind of rude from the beginning. Unfortunately he was just as immature as you, and decided to fight fire with fire. Both of you should have said "no thank you" or something like that and kept it moving. Then people have the nerve to wonder why nobody will approach them. I'll be looking forward to thread of that nature created by you in the near future.
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    Sep 07, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
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    gooddaytoday saidWait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol



    this is what actually annoyed me about this thread. some of the same guys in here calling the op a racist because he has "prefereneces" are the same motherfuckers i could have swore saying in other threads that they would never date a nonwhite guy because they have "preferences", swearing up and down that they're NOT racist. WTF. all of a sudden, they're trying to flip the script and not apply that shit to themselves. HUH? when nonwhite guys complain about that shit, saying how offended they are, they as well as other folks are like "shut up", "stop complaining", "they're not a racist", "why are you offended?"

    so basically according to SOME guys in here, if a nonwhite guy doesn't want to date a white guy or has "preferences" where white guys don't fall into it, they're a RACIST but if a white guy does the same shit to a nonwhite guy because he has "preferences", it's okay. folks are full of shit and got the nerve to call people hypocrites. if the op is that and you do the same thing, you are just like him so don't even bother to trash him or look down on him when you do the same shit.

    and yeah, you do have some white guys running around thinking that every guy is supposed to want them because they're white especially nonwhite guys. they're like "you must like me or i'm desirable because i'm white". i've seen this shit lots of times even on this site. we have some nonwhite members on here that actually think that if a white guy or several white guys like them or thinks they're cute or whatever, that means that they've made it and that there is no such thing as racism and whatever the fuck. all using white guys to validate themselves.


    even though the op was WRONG for generalizing all white guys and shit for being that way, he DOES have a point when it comes to some white guys out there that are rolling with a HUGE ass ego because of their skin color.

    and it also makes me go wtf as well is how folks are basically saying that it was okay for the other guy to react the way he did calling him racial slurs and etc. yet let that be a black guy or an asian guy and the op be a white guy, folks will be like "the black guy shouldn't get mad. he should get over it." fucking hypocritical ass lames. ya make absolutely NO sense.


    no it doesn't make much sense.
    when people are not attracted to certain race it is due to physical features, that doesn't mean those people cannot be friends, respect, treat everyone equally etc

    But when an individual writes down ''why do white men have such big egos'' it has nothing to do with preferences, that is a unbiased judgement to the whole race

    that is if somebody would would say why do black men stink? so that wouldn't be racist? You are wrong
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    Sep 07, 2014 7:30 PM GMT
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    Being saidWhy do white men have such big egos.
    Because we're white. Duh!

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    Sep 07, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    So what if you're not into white guys? Just say you're not interested and move on. Don't dismiss an entire race based on one guy's actions. That makes you a racist.
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    Sep 07, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
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    gooddaytoday saidWait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol



    this is what actually annoyed me about this thread. some of the same guys in here calling the op a racist because he has "prefereneces" are the same motherfuckers i could have swore saying in other threads that they would never date a nonwhite guy because they have "preferences", swearing up and down that they're NOT racist. WTF. all of a sudden, they're trying to flip the script and not apply that shit to themselves. HUH? when nonwhite guys complain about that shit, saying how offended they are, they as well as other folks are like "shut up", "stop complaining", "they're not a racist", "why are you offended?"

    so basically according to SOME guys in here, if a nonwhite guy doesn't want to date a white guy or has "preferences" where white guys don't fall into it, they're a RACIST but if a white guy does the same shit to a nonwhite guy because he has "preferences", it's okay. folks are full of shit and got the nerve to call people hypocrites. if the op is that and you do the same thing, you are just like him so don't even bother to trash him or look down on him when you do the same shit.

    and yeah, you do have some white guys running around thinking that every guy is supposed to want them because they're white especially nonwhite guys. they're like "you must like me or i'm desirable because i'm white". i've seen this shit lots of times even on this site. we have some nonwhite members on here that actually think that if a white guy or several white guys like them or thinks they're cute or whatever, that means that they've made it and that there is no such thing as racism and whatever the fuck. all using white guys to validate themselves.


    even though the op was WRONG for generalizing all white guys and shit for being that way, he DOES have a point when it comes to some white guys out there that are rolling with a HUGE ass ego because of their skin color.

    and it also makes me go wtf as well is how folks are basically saying that it was okay for the other guy to react the way he did calling him racial slurs and etc. yet let that be a black guy or an asian guy and the op be a white guy, folks will be like "the black guy shouldn't get mad. he should get over it." fucking hypocritical ass lames. ya make absolutely NO sense.


    no it doesn't make much sense.
    when people are not attracted to certain race it is due to physical features, that doesn't mean those people cannot be friends, respect, treat everyone equally etc


    But when an individual writes down ''why do white men have such big egos'' it has nothing to do with preferences, that is a unbiased judgement to the whole race

    that is if somebody would would say why do black men stink? so that wouldn't be racist? You are wrong


    i didn't say that and you're misunderstanding my point. i actually said that he was wrong for that. agree with you on the bolded. that's what i've been for eons because i've seen folks straight up being prejudiced as fuck using their "preferences" as an excuse.

    what i was saying was how i think it's weird how some folks are basically ready to call dude out for being ignorant, having preferences and whatever because he isn't white BUT if a white person were to say the same shit on here and that has happened MANY times on here, folks would give no fucks and would even cosign him saying they do the same thing. they would be ready to defend the guy, tell the other guy that got offended at what that person said to get over it and deal with that shit. it's like how do we throw someone under the bus then give other people a pass for being the same way he is. i just think that in itself is weird especially seeing OTHERS who do the same thing shit on him.

    he does have a point about some white guys having an egos. i think you're misunderstanding what he's saying about some white guys having egos. he's basically saying that there's some white guys that are bigoted where they think they're better than nonwhites because they're white or entitled to a certain thing or way of life because of their skin color. when those particular individuals don't have their way, they have a fit. they're like "i'm white. how can you deny me? i'm entitled to this." i've seen this straight up.

    it may not have applied in this case with the OP but it does happen though.


    nonsense, that is not what he was saying, he was basically rude to that guy and then wrote a racist remark
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    Sep 07, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    pazzy said
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    gooddaytoday saidWait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol



    this is what actually annoyed me about this thread. some of the same guys in here calling the op a racist because he has "prefereneces" are the same motherfuckers i could have swore saying in other threads that they would never date a nonwhite guy because they have "preferences", swearing up and down that they're NOT racist. WTF. all of a sudden, they're trying to flip the script and not apply that shit to themselves. HUH? when nonwhite guys complain about that shit, saying how offended they are, they as well as other folks are like "shut up", "stop complaining", "they're not a racist", "why are you offended?"

    so basically according to SOME guys in here, if a nonwhite guy doesn't want to date a white guy or has "preferences" where white guys don't fall into it, they're a RACIST but if a white guy does the same shit to a nonwhite guy because he has "preferences", it's okay. folks are full of shit and got the nerve to call people hypocrites. if the op is that and you do the same thing, you are just like him so don't even bother to trash him or look down on him when you do the same shit.

    and yeah, you do have some white guys running around thinking that every guy is supposed to want them because they're white especially nonwhite guys. they're like "you must like me or i'm desirable because i'm white". i've seen this shit lots of times even on this site. we have some nonwhite members on here that actually think that if a white guy or several white guys like them or thinks they're cute or whatever, that means that they've made it and that there is no such thing as racism and whatever the fuck. all using white guys to validate themselves.


    even though the op was WRONG for generalizing all white guys and shit for being that way, he DOES have a point when it comes to some white guys out there that are rolling with a HUGE ass ego because of their skin color.

    and it also makes me go wtf as well is how folks are basically saying that it was okay for the other guy to react the way he did calling him racial slurs and etc. yet let that be a black guy or an asian guy and the op be a white guy, folks will be like "the black guy shouldn't get mad. he should get over it." fucking hypocritical ass lames. ya make absolutely NO sense.


    no it doesn't make much sense.
    when people are not attracted to certain race it is due to physical features, that doesn't mean those people cannot be friends, respect, treat everyone equally etc


    But when an individual writes down ''why do white men have such big egos'' it has nothing to do with preferences, that is a unbiased judgement to the whole race

    that is if somebody would would say why do black men stink? so that wouldn't be racist? You are wrong


    i didn't say that and you're misunderstanding my point. i actually said that he was wrong for that. agree with you on the bolded. that's what i've been for eons because i've seen folks straight up being prejudiced as fuck using their "preferences" as an excuse.

    what i was saying was how i think it's weird how some folks are basically ready to call dude out for being ignorant, having preferences and whatever because he isn't white BUT if a white person were to say the same shit on here and that has happened MANY times on here, folks would give no fucks and would even cosign him saying they do the same thing. they would be ready to defend the guy, tell the other guy that got offended at what that person said to get over it and deal with that shit. it's like how do we throw someone under the bus then give other people a pass for being the same way he is. i just think that in itself is weird especially seeing OTHERS who do the same thing shit on him.

    he does have a point about some white guys having an egos. i think you're misunderstanding what he's saying about some white guys having egos. he's basically saying that there's some white guys that are bigoted where they think they're better than nonwhites because they're white or entitled to a certain thing or way of life because of their skin color. when those particular individuals don't have their way, they have a fit. they're like "i'm white. how can you deny me? i'm entitled to this." i've seen this straight up.

    it may not have applied in this case with the OP but it does happen though.


    nonsense, that is not what he was saying, he was basically rude to that guy and then wrote a racist remark


    did you read what i wrote? i said that he was wrong for what he did. i just didn't understand how there's some people in this thread that are saying that he's wrong BUT doing the same shit he's doing and think that it's acceptable and those that are offended by it don't have the right to be when they do. what he did is basically the same shit what folks do on grindr with the "no blacks", "no asians" and etc.


    it just makes me question what they're REALLY saying. are they saying that it's okay for a white person to do that shit BUT wrong for any nonwhite person to do the same shit? that's why i said they make NO sense.


    I am only referring to the op, ok, I got your point. Of course it's crazy and stupid if some white guys think they are a treasure just because of their skin color, that makes them so degrading and pathetic
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:14 PM GMT
    Chaos saidWhat were his exact words? I'm channelling my inner Judge Judy.


    Two guys are drinking in a gay bar, how much?.....one gets "handsy" and the other gets "snippy".

    Non story! Grow up. (I love Judge Judy)
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:19 PM GMT
    gooddaytoday saidWait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol



    Nobody called the OP a racist.
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:23 PM GMT
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    Chaos saidWhat were his exact words? I'm channelling my inner Judge Judy.


    Two guys are drinking in a gay bar, how much?.....one gets "handsy" and the other gets "snippy".

    Non story! Grow up. (I love Judge Judy)

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    Sep 07, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
    gooddaytoday saidWait, we're calling OP racist now? I thought the RJ collective have decided that it's just preferences icon_lol.gif

    Gays who have been the scene for too long have come to expect that whites can attract minorities who are better looking than them. A white friend of my ex approached me in front of our mutual friends last weekend as if we're old buddies, except I forgot his name, at which he half-jokingly sulked "you don't remember me cuz you're only into Asians!"

    When I assured him nothing could be further from the truth, it got more awkward as he began asking me what don't I find attractive about him lol


    So true, some white guys act so surprised when a ethnic guy isn't into them lol
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    How come guys keep approaching guys who show no interest in them? Take a hint, and go try with someone else. It looks very desperate.
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    in the end this is all just a BS