Curious glances at the gym may not "yield" a gay man

  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 07, 2014 8:11 PM GMT
    So I have one of those kind of fun little things going right now at my gym. Very nice looking guy, about 30, remarkably curious and checks out what's up whenever we happen to be there at the same time.

    Last week my photographer was there..sitting in the waiting area until the gym closed to take a few promo shots for the 2nd season of my webradio weekly fitness program and he even noticed the guy checking things out and asked me about it.

    I am of the belief that all of us can be curious, including straight men and that glances or curiosity doesn't automatically mean the guy is gay. My photographer wanted to know if he was a gay friend of mine and I explained him as "just curious".

    I'm not saying he isn't gay, but I'm one of these guys who figures "anybody can be about anything" and unless you know for sure, don't jump to conclusions.

    Thoughts?
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:16 PM GMT
    well, I think that humans are curious are strange things or things haven't encountered before.

    maybe he thought you're a celebrity or something for having a cameraman next to you? ROFL
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:23 PM GMT
    I don't assume a guy is gay if he checks me out. With the recent trends of crossfit, physique contests, and the bromance thing, it seems what was considered homoerotic in the past is somewhat normal now.

    Until he wraps his mouth around your cock, that is. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    Just like women look at other women.
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:29 PM GMT
    I hate all of this checking out at the gym, is a fucking gym, I go there to exercise not to have some guys looking at me trying to figure out am I gay or not, that is stalking.

    Of course I do look at some guys myself, you cannot not look at other people, otherwise you would have to look at the ceiling or floor but I do it discreetly and trying to not make anyone uncomfortable
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    Sep 07, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    This is pretty much where the "no homo" thing came from.
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    Sep 07, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    So yesterday at the Y I pulled into a handicapped parking space next to the entrance, hung up my temporary placard and walked to the entrance across from me. I couldn't help but notice a really cute 22 year old guy walking towards the entrance from the side and carrying a vase full of flowers.

    I'm in the end stage of losing weight after blowing up on cortisone and feeling confident since I'm now only 15lbs from ripped so it's the first time I'm in a wifebeater and snug gym shorts in months and I was looking good if I do say so myself. The kid picks up the pace nearly intercepting me and says, as if he knows me, "How are you feeling?" I stopped short. "Fine," I said, smiling, noticing the flowers were a bit wilted and the vase water dirty despite his intent on ENTERING the building. "You have really interesting teeth," he said out of nowhere. "Yeah, a couple are crooked," I said. "Oh, they're not crooked." he replied. "They're SHARP."

    Not sure how to respond (I never do, in retrospect I should've said "Good thing I don't bite" but I wasn't that quick on the draw) I said something a bit non-committal because I wasn't sure why this really, REALLY handsome and YOUNG kid was so interested in talking to me. Then he mentioned something about being a bit hungover and I figured it was BRO-time instead of GO-time. But he kept locking his eyes on mine and continued this weird friendly little conversation about how he was named after Bruce Lee AND Moses and who was the bigger badass? We introduced ourselves by name, I said it was nice to meet him, and I went in to do my workout and he went in to do God Knows What with those flowers (I didn't ask, maybe I should've given him another opening like "Who are THOSE flowers for?" but again I was caught off-guard AND have no game, gaydar and am famously oblivious to come-ons).

    So I've been revisiting the meeting in my mind and can't help but wonder whether he was gay or straight and whether he was flirting with me and I missed another opportunity. At this point I still don't know but it's fun speculating.

    And if it weren't fun speculating there wouldn't be zillions of threads on this subject! It ain't called "wishful thinking" for nothing.
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    Sep 07, 2014 11:54 PM GMT
    I think you should do your photographer.
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    Sep 08, 2014 12:22 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI think you should do your photographer.


    You say that to EVERYone...
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    Sep 08, 2014 12:30 AM GMT
    Young guys are often very curious about older men.

    Their questions might include the following:

    "Are you afraid of Death?"

    "When do you have to start trimming your ear hairs?"

    "Where'd you get that shirt?---I didn't know A&F made stuff for old people!"


    The Young are naturally curious.

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    Sep 08, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
    A look is just a look until there's thought and an action put behind it.
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    xrichx saidThis is pretty much where the "no homo" thing came from.


    basically..

    paulflexes saidI think you should do your photographer.


    it's the obvious answer to all of this icon_smile.gif

    Alpha13 saidI'm dating a curious frat boy, jock whom I thought was straight.


    GJ!
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    Sep 09, 2014 3:03 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidSo yesterday at the Y I pulled into a handicapped parking space next to the entrance, hung up my temporary placard and walked to the entrance across from me.


    I know its none of my business, but you go to the "Y" to workout I presume, right? If you can do that, then why do you need a Handicap parking permit? You seem to be in very good shape by your pics....
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:06 PM GMT
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    eagermuscle saidSo yesterday at the Y I pulled into a handicapped parking space next to the entrance, hung up my temporary placard and walked to the entrance across from me.


    I know its none of my business, but you go to the "Y" to workout I presume, right? If you can do that, then why do you need a Handicap parking permit? You seem to be in very good shape by your pics....

    TEMPORARY placard. I thought the cortisone (a pain medication) was a hint. I had just stopped wearing my foot brace and using a cane. Not the same as what I'd frequently witness outside LA Fitness. Example - some years ago before I learned about red temporary placards I'd gimp two blocks through a parking lot with a torn foot ligament and see a car peel into a handicapped spot by the entrance and six guys get out and sprint into the gym and onto the basketball courts for a league game. Or how at Home Depot a dozen handicapped spots will be filled but not a single person walking those miles of aisles (which we all walk - who goes to Home Depot for one thing?) had an obvious mobility disorder, with nary a "fatass" cart in use. You can't tell me everyone using those handicapped spots had a congenital heart defect.