Losing hope with people

  • Kromethius

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    Sep 07, 2014 9:54 PM GMT
    I know I've been complaining alot about the current living situation but since its my last year at Texas A&M for my electrical engineering degree, I cannot drop out or relocate. However, the light at the end of the tunnel looks bleak since I talked with this guy in particular he claimed that he only wants to have sex with black guys and that in College Station nobody wants black guys only white guys. I've tried to fortify and prioritize my goals to do well in school, work out, and make friends but I do yearn to find someone special. But its just so depressing when the people here talk to you like that and their perception starts to become your own. I find myself loathing my body, school selection, and lifestyle because of this. He tells me I should also give up and just have sex like I'm nothing like a piece of meat. I'm currently trying to seek an advisor but this has been going on since I started school just never heard it explicitly from another guy like that because I usually hear guys just say "I don't like black guys".
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    Sep 07, 2014 10:24 PM GMT
    Get in touch with your advisor or mentor. Maybe they can set you up with someone who can talk through these issues with you.
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    Sep 07, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    MIS37 saidI know I've been complaining alot about the current living situation but since its my last year at Texas A&M for my electrical engineering degree, I cannot drop out or relocate. However, the light at the end of the tunnel looks bleak since I talked with this guy in particular he claimed that he only wants to have sex with black guys and that in College Station nobody wants black guys only white guys. I've tried to fortify and prioritize my goals to do well in school, work out, and make friends but I do yearn to find someone special. But its just so depressing when the people here talk to you like that and their perception starts to become your own. I find myself loathing my body, school selection, and lifestyle because of this. He tells me I should also give up and just have sex like I'm nothing like a piece of meat. I'm currently trying to seek an advisor but this has been going on since I started school just never heard it explicitly from another guy like that because I usually hear guys just say "I don't like black guys".


    Im sorry that you have someone trying to bring you down. please talk to a counselor or something at ur uni. Does ur uni has a psychological center or something?

    He's probably trying to bring you down or jealous or trying to get your attention, but whatever his intention was you don't deserve to be drag down by some asshole.

    IDK how TAMU is or the environment is, but give yourself that time. you have one year until you're out of here.

    (and imho, hearing "i dont like X race of guys" is easier to deal with than this because the comment i can just brush it right off)
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    Sep 07, 2014 10:33 PM GMT
    Right now you need to concern yourself with your education and finding a good job after graduation. The rest will fall into place. What that guy said to you is horseshit.
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    Sep 08, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    letting one person have too much power over your emotional well being.

    at least too much power without recognizable rational.

    :s

    I just dumped a friend because he wanted to have sex with me if I wanted to but, didn't want to be my boyfriend.

    Try dumping this guy, its awkward and weird but, icon_biggrin.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    Sep 08, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidI know I've been complaining alot about the current living situation but since its my last year at Texas A&M for my electrical engineering degree, I cannot drop out or relocate. However, the light at the end of the tunnel looks bleak since I talked with this guy in particular he claimed that he only wants to have sex with black guys and that in College Station nobody wants black guys only white guys. I've tried to fortify and prioritize my goals to do well in school, work out, and make friends but I do yearn to find someone special. But its just so depressing when the people here talk to you like that and their perception starts to become your own. I find myself loathing my body, school selection, and lifestyle because of this. He tells me I should also give up and just have sex like I'm nothing like a piece of meat. I'm currently trying to seek an advisor but this has been going on since I started school just never heard it explicitly from another guy like that because I usually hear guys just say "I don't like black guys".
    What do you expect from Redneck Central located in the heart of the most racist, homophobic, backward state in the US? Probably you should seriously consider going to another university in another state and get the hell out of TexASS.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 08, 2014 1:15 AM GMT
    What an SOB... I'd ignore the jerk and focus on you and what you are going to be. Remember, you are a unique guy and lots to offer. Race shouldn't matter, there are good men out there.. just maybe not at your school, but there will be good ones in your future.

    I like some of what I read above... I think getting an advisor and developing strength to move along is critical. I'd banish the jerk and move forward!

    Good luck!



  • Kromethius

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    Sep 08, 2014 1:49 PM GMT
    silver_phoenix said
    MIS37 said I do yearn to find someone special. But its just so depressing when the people here talk to you like that and their perception starts to become your own.


    You come across as weak spirited and needy.


    I don't mean to be but I've been told this by almost every guy I meet in my area which really takes a toll on my self confidence and outlook so far as meeting friends or having relationships. I understand that everyone has a preference, but when the vast majority feels the same and considers your race ugly it makes you feel disgusting and small.
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    Sep 08, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    You CAN drop out and relocate. TX A&M is not the only place you can get your degree. Sure it'll set you back a semester, but it'll set your self esteem higher. Which is more important?

    Also, it sounds like you're focusing too much on your relationship status rather than your career. That could be why you're talking to all the wrong people.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 08, 2014 4:05 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidRight now you need to concern yourself with your education and finding a good job after graduation. The rest will fall into place. What that guy said to you is horseshit.

    Ya, this. Fuck'em. You're on a path to a good life and career. Let the losers be losers. Do think about where you want to be post-graduation and put yourself into a better group of guys.
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    Sep 08, 2014 6:48 PM GMT
    You want to find men that will like you for who you are as an individual. Do not worry about them or about what they think. Believe it or not often they don't know what they want or what they are doing with themselves all the time.

    Find someone that wants to talk to you is interested in you and would like and get to know you. Find some one who would like to be your friend.