Sep 08, 2014 2:11 AM GMT
Do any of you guys keep in touch with your ex, flings, fb or ex-bf? Is this a good idea? How do you go about engage a conversation with them after a long while? thoughts, share stories.
Apparition saidI think a lot of gay guys consider their exes among their best friends.
Apparition saidI think a lot of gay guys consider their exes among their best friends.
mcbrion saidYes, of course I do. Why would you not unless they treated you bad?
Armistead Maupin was discussing, in an interview many years ago when we both lived in San Francisco, the 'scorched earth' policy: I loved you so now I hate you. I'm with him. How can you hate what you TRULY loved? Ilike most of my exes, aside from those who, over time, showed themselves to be someone other than the person they presented themselves as originally.
I love my former dates/boyfriends for the most part. A few? Well, in those case, I didn't have my eyes open, or I'd have seen that they were inconsistent, cold, unable to share their emotions (if I want emotionally unavailable, I'll rent Dick Cheney) in a healthy way. Otherwise, I like 'em and want them as friends. Some more than others and some closer friends than others, but unless I've made some horrible error, once someone is in my heart, he stays. (Axe murderers, sociopaths excluded)
mcbrion saidYes, of course I do. Why would you not unless they treated you bad?
Armistead Maupin was discussing, in an interview many years ago when we both lived in San Francisco, the 'scorched earth' policy: I loved you so now I hate you. I'm with him. How can you hate what you TRULY loved? Ilike most of my exes, aside from those who, over time, showed themselves to be someone other than the person they presented themselves as originally.
I love my former dates/boyfriends for the most part. A few? Well, in those case, I didn't have my eyes open, or I'd have seen that they were inconsistent, cold, unable to share their emotions (if I want emotionally unavailable, I'll rent Dick Cheney) in a healthy way. Otherwise, I like 'em and want them as friends. Some more than others and some closer friends than others, but unless I've made some horrible error, once someone is in my heart, he stays. (Axe murderers, sociopaths excluded)
Guy101 saidSeriously depends on you left things/how things ended. With an ex bf...probably not. They're ex's for a reason especially if it ended bad. Being cordial is ok but I wouldn't actively seek them out.
Same with an ex fling/fb. If it ended bad then no. If it was one those "it was fun while it lasted/ran it's course" deal then maybe. If they can be adults about then sure.