You may be strong but are you tough?

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    Sep 08, 2014 2:40 PM GMT
    http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/10/03/you-may-be-strong-but-are-you-tough/

    Interesting article. Many of us are into fitness and are in great shape so I wonder what your take on this is.

    For me, I remember when I first got into training I was physically strong but my willpower was very weak. If I felt a little tired, or injured or inconvenienced it broke my performance. Things are different now and I see i'm more tolerate of dealing well with tough circumstances. Recent example was when my bf and I got lost during a hike on breakneck ridge on icy and muddly slopes for 7 hours and we were bruised, bloody and looked like shit icon_lol.gif but I was able to keep my spirits up and kept pushing. Not sure if that would've been the same 6 years ago
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    Sep 08, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    "Toughness is the ability to perform well regardless of circumstances."
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    Sep 08, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    Spiritually tough.

    Emotionally tough.

    But physical pain -- zero tolerance.

    I'm like a poodle on a velvet cushion.

    I am SURPRISINGlY strong for My size.

    And I am kinda fearless.

    But I just don't get the point of discomfort....

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    Sep 08, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    I'm not especially tough either physically, mentally or emotionally however being reasonably tough in all 3 makes me generally quite tough icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 08, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    Spiritually tough (liberal Catholic)

    Emotionally fairly tough (I tear up with some novels or movie scenes, but I am really level-headed. My biggest emotional flaw is my Irish temper I got from my mother--zero to sixty in a few seconds. I don't suffer fools, but I have learned to consciously control my anger, which withers away just as quickly if I can ride out that 10 second period).

    Physically tough. I am NOT big or muscular, but I am very strong because I am a classically trained ballet dancer and marathon runner. The type of muscles I have aren't bulgey, and most people think I am weak, but I have only lost an arm wrestling match once despite playing a lot, and in the few fights I have been in I didn't even realize I was hurt until afterward. Pain doesn't really bother me. I dislike being injured, but the sensation of pain is not that big a deal to me. I've had a broken ankle, been in the ICU, few other minor operations and of course countless bicycle injuries as a kid. Nothing phased me physically. I'm not trying to say I'm some rough and tough guy, but I've never backed down from a fight because I thought about the pain (I have backed down when it's 1 versus 2 or a group).

    You either live or you live in fear (of others or the "pain" in your own body). I refuse to live in fear in any form. It's a conscious choice and not a difficult one.
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    Sep 09, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    Cash saidSpiritually tough.

    Emotionally tough.

    But physical pain -- zero tolerance.

    I'm like a poodle on a velvet cushion.

    I am SURPRISINGlY strong for My size.

    And I am kinda fearless.

    But I just don't get the point of discomfort....


    Agreed, I dont get into pain for pains sake also.
    Im pretty tough physically, emotionally and mentally.
    And as far as the wrestling goes there is a diffrence between discomfort and pain.
    Now hights and dentists, total wimp. Lol
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    Cash saidSpiritually tough.

    Emotionally tough.

    But physical pain -- zero tolerance.

    I'm like a poodle on a velvet cushion.

    I am SURPRISINGlY strong for My size.

    And I am kinda fearless.

    But I just don't get the point of discomfort....



    So you don't like getting tied up and spanked? Duly noted.
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    I'm stubborn as an ass and pretty good at keeping my spirits up nowadays. I wasn't always like that and it can come and go (depression) but what're you gonna do? Sit at home and let it swallow you up? Hell no, you get up, get out, and get at it. One of the reasons I hate where I live is its so damned hard to find anybody who wants to do ANYTHING outdoors with you and I f**king LOVE being outside, even when its hotter than the blazes of hell and damnation (wear a hat dammit) and more than anything I love being outdoors WITH OTHER PEOPLE.

    Pain tolerance? I'm pretty good. I had back problems for a while from a combination of 17-year-old mattress and 17-year-old sportscar and I'd grumble about it a bit but never let it stop me from doing anything.

    Most importantly, i think, is that I do my best not to let life's potholes ruffle my feathers too much (i call it a "this too shall pass" attitude). An example is having to take the bus/streetcar sometime (public transit sucks beyond measure here btw and there are gaps that involve walking, often through lousy neighborhoods). Whereas my parents would consider this a "punishment" to be doled out on me when i was a teen, I look at it as "Aren't I lucky that this is just for a week while my car's in the shop? Look at all these people who can't AFFORD a car, who have to spend half their day sitting on a bus just to get things done that take me an hour in my car. "
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    Cash saidSpiritually tough.

    Emotionally tough.

    But physical pain -- zero tolerance.

    I'm like a poodle on a velvet cushion.


    Actually, standard poodles have reputations for having high pain tolerances, which explains why both of mine are so stoic at the vet, even the time the vet ripped one's toenail out by the root. But you're anything but standard, right?

    Though maybe my poodles take after me. Granted it was "necessary" pain but I was pretty tough when I was weakened by chemo AND crippled by viral meningitis (when it would take me over 20 painful minutes to roll from my back to my side) I endured ELEVEN spinal tap attempts, the last successful only when I had to be seated on a metal stool leaning awkwardly on the table. My bf told me that completely anesthesia-free I complied with every order and didn't whimper once. Unlike HIM. HE turned into Shirley MacLaine in "Terms of Endearment."
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    David3K said"Toughness is the ability to perform well regardless of circumstances."

    Yes. That is a factor that got me promoted in rank in the Army time and again.

    I was never strong, I was a little shit. But I performed balls-to-the-wall, and that was noted. Whatever I had, I gave it my all.

    I actually did run circles around all these former school athletes. I'm not sure how it happened, because in school I was considered a wimp. I was the last pick for a team.

    And now I was Number One! How strange that was to me. One of the reasons I made the Army a career, the last path I had ever envisioned for myself. But I was successful at it, and I loved it. How very strange, but so it was.

    My parents hated it, my Father finally only kinda accepting it when I had become an Army Major. When he said to me: "Well, I guess you're gonna keep doing this." "Yes, Dad." His dreams of me being someone of prominence ended. And really, my own dreams, too. icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 10, 2014 4:05 AM GMT
    To quote Denzel Washington's character in the movie about him avenging the little girl who was killed by kidnappers in Mexico, "there is no such thing as tough. There is trained and untrained." hahaha
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    Sep 10, 2014 4:10 AM GMT
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:39 AM GMT
    I am weak in every way possible.
    I've come to accept it though.
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    Sep 10, 2014 9:13 AM GMT
    I'm tough in the sense that I always rebuild myself after I've set fire to everything I've worked hard for its my nature to do it and i didn't understand it at first and would get really depressed and down on myself but I always kept getting back up after hitting rock bottom. Its like I need to see how low I can go before I can get really up there. My middle name is Will and I've always associated it with will , my last name means awaken so I've got a lot of living up to do.

    I think its funny how that guy associates not wearing shoes as being tough lol.
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    Sep 10, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    Cash said...

    But I just don't get the point of discomfort....



    I rather enjoy walking the fine line between pleasure and pain.
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:40 AM GMT
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    You made me laugh tonight with your post. Thank you so much for that, I needed it.
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    Sep 11, 2014 11:33 AM GMT
    Omega_Einhorne saidI'm tough in the sense that I always rebuild myself after I've set fire to everything I've worked hard for its my nature to do it and i didn't understand it at first and would get really depressed and down on myself but I always kept getting back up after hitting rock bottom. Its like I need to see how low I can go before I can get really up there. My middle name is Will and I've always associated it with will , my last name means awaken so I've got a lot of living up to do.

    I think its funny how that guy associates not wearing shoes as being tough lol.


    Hahas try running a street block without wearing shoes. If you're not conditioned it's gonna hurt like hell
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    Sep 11, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
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    Omega_Einhorne saidI'm tough in the sense that I always rebuild myself after I've set fire to everything I've worked hard for its my nature to do it and i didn't understand it at first and would get really depressed and down on myself but I always kept getting back up after hitting rock bottom. Its like I need to see how low I can go before I can get really up there. My middle name is Will and I've always associated it with will , my last name means awaken so I've got a lot of living up to do.

    I think its funny how that guy associates not wearing shoes as being tough lol.


    Hahas try running a street block without wearing shoes. If you're not conditioned it's gonna hurt like hell


    All that means is you've gotten thick pads on your feet. Also you can easily pick up the parasite known as Ringworm by running around barefoot so best not to do that too often.