Is it racist to be attracted to a specific race more than the other?

  • Markz0ne45

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    Sep 08, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    I personally have an attraction towards asians more than any other race of people. I don't want to come off as racist, I just think we all have our preferences and it shouldn't be considered negative. I am not saying my preferences overrule anyone else's.
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    Sep 08, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    This topic is going to go just GREAT
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    Sep 08, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    who gives a shit, if you like something your private business, why this even needs to be put for discussion?
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    Sep 08, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    No it's not.
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:07 PM GMT
    No it's not racist, its juts called preference.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Sep 08, 2014 11:26 PM GMT
    Here we go again
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidHere we go again


    I created a forum with that exact title hahaha
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    I like dark skins ! Indians and people from the Middle East! Although there is this Spanish dude I'm talking to and he drives me crazy ! Just meet him today .
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:55 PM GMT
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    Sep 08, 2014 11:57 PM GMT
    Lets just say yes and get it over with
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 09, 2014 6:33 AM GMT
    Personally, I'm attracted to all guys. But seeing as how sex is such an intimate act, I suppose I'd be okay with a person PREFERRING one race over another. It gets a little hairier when a person categorically says they won't hookup or be with people from certain races, but to each their own.

    Think about it. As a gay and non-bisexual man I discriminate based on a person's gender. I do not care for women. Period. Sex seems to be an acceptable differentiation (couched as "sexual orientation") whereas "racial orientation" seems to be shunned.

    Frankly, I think there'll always be a small subset of Neo-Nazi sympathizers and racists. Just let them be. They're a minority like the jerks that booed Jackie Robinson or the Westboro Baptist Church with their tacky posters and signs. Don't dignify the racists with an excessive amount of time. Just write them off as product loses and move on.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:29 AM GMT
    Hm, no, you can't help who you fall for. Attraction is a complicated thing. Date whoever you like.
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    Sep 09, 2014 11:26 AM GMT
    It is not racist to be attracted more to one race than another.

    It IS racist to say "I'll never date a (Insert Racial Slur Here)"
  • Being

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    Sep 09, 2014 12:21 PM GMT
    I love asian guys.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:48 PM GMT
    No I don't think it is, but id imagine it does hurt a bit.

    You get those profiles on manhunt saying no Asians no indians etc but don't have to balls to say no blacks or islander guys for fear they would be considered a racist. fucking assholes

    I remember I had a huge crush on this maori guy and he was only interested in white guys, when he told me I was pissed off at him lol but u gotta respect peoples preferences even though their preferences are shallow and superficial.
    At least it didn't have anything to do with my personality.

    I've been with almost every natio except for eskimo, pygmy and that now extinct tribe in the amazonian rainforest



  • jaroslav123

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    Sep 09, 2014 1:20 PM GMT
    **Grabs Popcorn**
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:21 PM GMT
    why is shit gonna hit the fan?

    theres so much nervous tension in here u never know when someones gonna get shived in the kidneys
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    mmm, no, if you have a preference then great but you're basically saying that you prefer a race but you're not excluding other races. I think the one's that are truly racist are the ones that exclude a race because of their perception of a certain race with the stigma of inferiority.
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    We've been over this so many times.

    You can't help who turns your head, but it's worth exploring why.

    I have a type, but I definitely can see beyond that type and appreciate attractive people of all types. If you are so set in your categories that you can't appreciate anybody who checks different boxes, you're really limiting yourself.
  • mcbrion

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    Sep 09, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    I don't see it as racist. I was born back in the 50s, when nobody dated anyone outside their own nationality (Italian, Irish, Jewish, etc). Then it opened up in the 60s, and now, society is gradually coalescing as people find they're attracted to people of other cultures.
    I rarely find it to be JUST about looks. Usually, there is some (cultural) trait that one identifies as attractive, along with the "looks."

    The bigger issue is that, what some people identify as a trait specific to a "peoples" (as I call them, since race has been identified as a social construct), is sometimes a stereotype, such as Black men with big dicks. And that's all the person wants is their fantasy, and dismisses the nobility of whatever culture they "like." That, at least, approaches racism. It's like saying, "I only want this part of you: I don't value your cultural traits." People do it all the time, but when you're going into another group, sensitivity is required. It'll look like racism if you're doing that constantly. If someone likes Asians, and it's not stereotyping them ("I like that they're quiet and…").

    I lived in San Francisco starting in the mid 70s until 2002, and the Asian Pacific Alliance guys, when we'd meet and compare notes (yup, we compare notes about White guys just as they do about minorities when they're alone) complained that the White guys stereotyped them all as "submissive" or "quiet" or something like that, and then, when they (the White guy) got the full personality of the individual guy, they suddenly lost interest in the guy because he didn't fit their stereotype of that group (fully racist, yes). As long as you have respect for the individual, fine. Frankly, Eminem is "blacker" than I am, and I think that's cool that he has so fully immersed himself in Black culture. I'd never think of him as racist because he comes across as Black-identified, yet dates (most) White girls. He's cool with me. A person can be racist in their friendships just as much as their romantic interests. As long as you are completely conscious about what you're doing, and why, I don't see anything to worry about. If you're on autopilot, though, be prepared for pushback from whoever you're marginalizing.

    Otherwise, it's no different than only liking tall guys, or short guys, or blonds.
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    how is effing racist if I am attracted to my own race more than other races, that is efffing crazy

    I like my race
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:40 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidIt is not racist to be attracted more to one race than another.

    It IS racist to say "I'll never date a (Insert Racial Slur Here)"


    This.

    It's no more bigoted to say "x race doesn't really do it for me" than to say "300 lbs fat guys don't really do it for me" or "blond haired guys don't really do it for me".

    We each have a completely different list of what does it for us.
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:46 PM GMT
    I think black guys smell funny. There. I said it!!!!
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:56 PM GMT
    jmusmc_85 saidI think black guys smell funny. There. I said it!!!!



    why?
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    Sep 09, 2014 8:01 PM GMT
    jmusmc_85 saidI think black guys smell funny. There. I said it!!!!


    What black guys do you hang around?

    Anyway, no it's not racist to have an attraction to certain type of person or race.

    I feel that it only comes off racist when a race is omitted from any other form of acquaintanceship such as chatting or friendship.