How do I know if I've been blocked?

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    Sep 09, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    I messaged someone and a few hours later he read it and became "Hidden/Deleted Member". Now I'm feeling guilty, because I know I weird people out (especially online) and should have known better; I'm *hoping* he just blocked me, but afraid my message made up his mind to leave RJ completely.

    Do you see anything different when someone ignores or blocks you? What are the visible signs, if any? I did try to search the forums for this, but so far most of the results have been discussions of the merits of blocking/ignoring, not the mechanics.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:12 AM GMT
    yetanotherphil saidI messaged someone and a few hours later he read it and became "Hidden/Deleted Member". Now I'm feeling guilty, because I know I weird people out (especially online) and should have known better; I'm *hoping* he just blocked me, but afraid my message made up his mind to leave RJ completely.

    Do you see anything different when someone ignores or blocks you? What are the visible signs, if any? I did try to search the forums for this, but so far most of the results have been discussions of the merits of blocking/ignoring, not the mechanics.


    I'll be honest, I don't care enough to notice when people do that. The only time i really noticed was when Cash asked me to stop replying to his threads, which i thought was cute...right up until i clicked the "Ignore Posts" button under his icon.

    Yeah, i'm that guy who if you get passive-aggressive on the phone (I'm going to hang up if you don't...) i WILL hang up.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    You can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    Don't sweat it. People delete their accounts here all the time. Probably has nothing to do with you.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
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    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:24 AM GMT
    I was curious about this too because I saw someone who was "hidden/deleted" but apparently still posting from the dead. I discovered you can see who it is using the "quote" button, and it wasn't even someone I knew, let alone spoke to. I assumed they grew tired of my geriatric rambling and blocked my posts, shrugged, and went back to my meatballs.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:24 AM GMT
    kevex said
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    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.



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    Sep 09, 2014 12:24 AM GMT
    kevex said
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    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.


    I was afraid of that. Thanks for helping me out; I really appreciate the information.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:24 AM GMT
    If a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:29 AM GMT
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:35 AM GMT
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    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:40 AM GMT
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    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"


    Yeah. The funny thing is when they don't know you can tell they read it and they later try and say "oh no, i think i accidentally deleted it"
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:45 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves there.


    I have a few on it because it saves time versus a knockdown dragout until the end of time over and over again.

    However Miata boi has me on it because I teased him about his car.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves on there.


    For me the easiest way is to troll me and troll me SPECIFICALLY. Instant banhammer.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Life2Short said
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves on there.


    For me the easiest way is to troll me and troll me SPECIFICALLY. Instant banhammer.


    By doing this?

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    Sep 09, 2014 12:58 AM GMT
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    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.



    ∆ Listen to this guy. He's an expert on being blocked.



    He did help me out and answer my question. RJ is a pretty hostile place on the best of days; as far as I can tell there's nothing I can do to change that except to keep an open mind and be truly appreciative of any good intentions directed my way.

    It never ceases to astound me that as gay and bisexual men we so easily put aside the fact that we have so *very* much in common (perhaps some of us may not realize it for years to come icon_wink.gif ). I may have a difficult time putting aside a lot of the nastiness I read here, but I've wasted too much of my life already to dwell on it.
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    Sep 09, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    freedomisntfree said
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves there.


    I have a few on it because it saves time versus a knockdown dragout until the end of time over and over again.

    However Miata boi has me on it because I teased him about his car.


    the ignore list works perfectly fine for the folks that are REAL predictable to the point where it's like... why bother? they're just going to continue doing the same shit regardless if you say anything to them or not.

    but yeah, i do agree that some people are a bit too sensitive where they block the moment you have a little disagreement with them. i know one poster got mad with me because i didn't take his side over some shit awhile involving him and someone else where he sent me some colorful pm cursing me out and told me that i was blocked. lol. it's really not that serious.


    There's ten or so that after a few hundred rounds it became pretty clear what I think and he feels so there's little point in continuing. It may be fun, but I need to work a little too.

    And then there are a few who will block over something like the below, which is pretty hilarious

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    Sep 09, 2014 1:03 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    Life2Short said
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves on there.


    For me the easiest way is to troll me and troll me SPECIFICALLY. Instant banhammer.


    i feel you, man. some people literally beg for it. even if you tell them that you've blocked them, they still keep on responding.

    i know some people in here worst fear is to get blocked. they get hurt.


    "even if you tell them that you've blocked them, they still keep on responding."

    I have one just like that up in Vancouver.
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    yetanotherphil said
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    kevex said
    yetanotherphil said
    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.



    ∆ Listen to this guy. He's an expert on being blocked.



    He did help me out and answer my question. RJ is a pretty hostile place on the best of days; as far as I can tell there's nothing I can do to change that except to keep an open mind and be truly appreciative of any good intentions directed my way.

    It never ceases to astound me that as gay and bisexual men we so easily put aside the fact that we have so *very* much in common (perhaps some of us may not realize it for years to come icon_wink.gif ). I may have a difficult time putting aside a lot of the nastiness I read here, but I've wasted too much of my life already to dwell on it.


    the internet is a hostile place. most active web forums are warzones.


    Even on the car forums, specifically the Pontiac forums, we get some little wars going. Not even close to what happens here, but nevertheless it happens. Then six of them died (five colon cancer and one lung) in a very short period of time. Then some folks realized that you never know if what you say in heat will the last opportunity ever to say anything to them.
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:14 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    freedomisntfree said
    pazzy said
    Life2Short said
    pazzy said
    guido4life said
    Life2Short said
    guido4life saidIf a person needs to block a person and not tell them to fuck off then they don't got a cock between their legs , they got piss flaps in stead !


    Actually just blocking the person is the mature thing to do. If you've got a beef with someone on the internet, exactly what purpose will trying to hash/bitch it out online serve? To stoke your pride?
    Chances are that he/she doesn't give a shit whether you're actually right or wrong and there comes a point where there are no more fucks to be given and you're like "Nope, I'm done. *click*"
    I get your point what makes me angry is when u send a email they read and don't reply . Just tell it to me like a man . " I hate u because u a are a no good Zionist Persian ugly fucking Jew"



    agree with what you both are saying.

    i like to do both options. however, i'm NOT trigger happy with the ignore list at all. someone REALLY had to do something to put themselves on there.


    For me the easiest way is to troll me and troll me SPECIFICALLY. Instant banhammer.


    i feel you, man. some people literally beg for it. even if you tell them that you've blocked them, they still keep on responding.

    i know some people in here worst fear is to get blocked. they get hurt.


    "even if you tell them that you've blocked them, they still keep on responding."

    I have one just like that up in Vancouver.



    there's a poster, whose name begins with a j and ends with a 5, that i automatically blocked upon seeing his return thread. i know dude probably was talking shit about me too on here. wouldn't expect anything better from him either.


    I have a sneaking hunch I know who that is. Funny though, many of my friends are all grown up by his age.
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:14 AM GMT
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    the internet is a hostile place. most active web forums are warzones. [/quote]

    Agreed, completely and totally. I guess my point, though, is that most active web forums don't share a common experience quite as deeply as here.

    There are deeper reasons for empathy, of course, but having some dim notion of what another gay man experiences in his life's journey is more compelling than knowing that someone else shares your interest in photoshopping cats or fragging n00bs. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:27 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    freedomisntfree said
    pazzy said
    yetanotherphil said
    Scruffypup said
    kevex said
    yetanotherphil said
    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.



    ∆ Listen to this guy. He's an expert on being blocked.



    He did help me out and answer my question. RJ is a pretty hostile place on the best of days; as far as I can tell there's nothing I can do to change that except to keep an open mind and be truly appreciative of any good intentions directed my way.

    It never ceases to astound me that as gay and bisexual men we so easily put aside the fact that we have so *very* much in common (perhaps some of us may not realize it for years to come icon_wink.gif ). I may have a difficult time putting aside a lot of the nastiness I read here, but I've wasted too much of my life already to dwell on it.


    the internet is a hostile place. most active web forums are warzones.


    Even on the car forums, specifically the Pontiac forums, we get some little wars going. Not even close to what happens here, but nevertheless it happens. Then six of them died (five colon cancer and one lung) in a very short period of time. Then some folks realized that you never know if what you say in heat will the last opportunity ever to say anything to them.


    i know right. seen the same shit too on other web forums where folks are beefing, getting deep into it. then one of them drops dead and the same people that they were beefing are either feeling guilty or start wanting to be all peaceful and shit. i think that the death of someone from a message board actually scares people because it reminds them about reality.



    Sometimes it's a good idea to be careful what you say.

    Even in real life and end even with my own mother, I'd get irritated because I'd have to repeat myself every few minutes or she'd ask the same question over and over and over because she 'had' no memory. And then subarachnoid brain aneurysm hemorrhage followed by a very bad fall on the Friday before last. Her funeral is Friday so no chance for a do over.
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:33 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    freedomisntfree said
    pazzy said
    freedomisntfree said
    pazzy said
    yetanotherphil said
    Scruffypup said
    kevex said
    yetanotherphil said
    kevex saidYou can't tell if someone ignored you but when someone blocks you, your messages won't get thru.


    Thanks; that might answer my question. Does that mean there's no visible difference browsing the forums?


    Yes, there is no visible difference. You will still see the posts and threads of the person that put you on his ignore list but the person won't see you.



    ∆ Listen to this guy. He's an expert on being blocked.



    He did help me out and answer my question. RJ is a pretty hostile place on the best of days; as far as I can tell there's nothing I can do to change that except to keep an open mind and be truly appreciative of any good intentions directed my way.

    It never ceases to astound me that as gay and bisexual men we so easily put aside the fact that we have so *very* much in common (perhaps some of us may not realize it for years to come icon_wink.gif ). I may have a difficult time putting aside a lot of the nastiness I read here, but I've wasted too much of my life already to dwell on it.


    the internet is a hostile place. most active web forums are warzones.


    Even on the car forums, specifically the Pontiac forums, we get some little wars going. Not even close to what happens here, but nevertheless it happens. Then six of them died (five colon cancer and one lung) in a very short period of time. Then some folks realized that you never know if what you say in heat will the last opportunity ever to say anything to them.


    i know right. seen the same shit too on other web forums where folks are beefing, getting deep into it. then one of them drops dead and the same people that they were beefing are either feeling guilty or start wanting to be all peaceful and shit. i think that the death of someone from a message board actually scares people because it reminds them about reality.



    Sometimes it's a good idea to be careful what you say.

    Even in real life and end even with my own mother, I'd get irritated because I'd have to repeat myself every few minutes or she'd ask the same question over and over and over because she 'had' no memory. And then subarachnoid brain aneurysm hemorrhage followed by a very bad fall on the Friday before last. Her funeral is Friday so no chance for a do over.


    wow. sorry for your loss, man. my condolences. *hugs*


    Thanks. A lot of conflict around here with someone I used to get along with fine. Stage four Alzheimer's is a nasty illness. Sounds doable until you deal with it up close. Patience isn't a virtue of mine and it was very difficult over the last few years.

    I was the primary care giver over both my mom and dad ... now both gone so no chance for a do over.
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    Sep 09, 2014 2:43 AM GMT
    I never give a second thought to those who I block.
    I never give a first thought to those who may choose to block me.

    In both cases, they are irrelevant to my life and existence.