Why is being a thin male unattractive?

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    Sep 09, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    Ok, I am currently 5'6 145 and I found out I have high cholesterol. I also found out from my doctor that I am at the upper tier of where I should be weight wise depending on my height and bone structure. I told her I would lose weight. My ideal goal is 125 lbs because my body has been 125 before and I felt so energetic at that weight. However, guys are telling me that men like bulkier guys and that being thin is unattractive. They tell me to simply work out and get muscles but I don't want to be muscular. So is it unattractive to be thin or should a man be bulky?
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    Sep 09, 2014 2:54 AM GMT
    I can't believe that you don't already instinctively know that LOTS of gay guys (myself included) are attracted to skinny guys. I hope you just focus on staying healthy and maintaining a positive self-image. Good luck!
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    Sep 09, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    P.S. You're really cute.
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:09 AM GMT
    Maybe you're just ugly. I'm 5'5 130 soaking wet and don't have a problem getting laid. Work with what u got.
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:37 AM GMT
    Being skinny is actually super overrated in the gay world. Haven't you seen all of the twinks in porn?
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:47 AM GMT
    Just because you are skinny doesn't mean you are attractive.
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:02 AM GMT
    lol And we made the dude leave. Oh well..
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:04 AM GMT
    kevex saidlol And we made the dude leave. Oh well..


    Good. Dude was ugly as hell. And he was not 145. 155 maybe. Boy was chunky!!!
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    Sep 09, 2014 7:01 AM GMT
    As a general rule, young and skinny is the ideal for a gay man in terms of porn culture. From personal experience, I'm thin too--always have been--and I have only once or twice heard a guy say he doesn't like thin guys. Many, if not most men, like thin men. It's fat/obese gay men who have a rough go in both gay and straight society. Now if you're after a muscle stud, then perhaps you might want to bulk up.
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    Sep 09, 2014 9:44 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidAs a general rule, young and skinny is the ideal for a gay man in terms of porn culture. From personal experience, I'm thin too--always have been--and I have only once or twice heard a guy say he doesn't like thin guys. Many, if not most men, like thin men. It's fat/obese gay men who have a rough go in both gay and straight society. Now if you're after a muscle stud, then perhaps you might want to bulk up.


    I need to move to America then or fake being straight because I'm yet to meet a guy who finds me attractive build or body wise. Weirdly enough I've had a lot of interest from women around 40ish but that's not my cup of tea really icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:22 AM GMT
    I think it's the extreme which isn't very attractive i.e. either too skinny or too fat. Anything in the middle, from slim to beefy, is governed by preference. Some like it skinny, some like it bulky, and almost everyone likes muscle.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:32 AM GMT
    I like skinny guys and twinks.
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    Sep 09, 2014 11:42 AM GMT
    I'm kinda skinny but there are other things by far that make me unattractive.
    Maybe your perspective is like this because you are on a site that perceives bulkier is sexier.

    At the end of the day I think most people prefer someone healthy. Above that, wanting particular a person in a specific weight or size range is just fetish maybe?
    Not sure but for some people it's more about the statement of your lifestyle.

    For others it's really down to the appearance.
    I don't know if there is a perception of skinny being effeminate, and that's a whole different issue altogether.

    As cliche as it sounds you really just have to work with what you've got.
    Someone told me once that you just have to accept that there are people out there who 'have' it better than you. For some there might not be as many, and for others there might be a lot.
    Everyone is some kind of statistic, be okay to accept it, don't compare and just focus on the people who do care about you.

    Some people are singers and some are dancers. Some are very smart and some are good with their hands. Some are very pragmatic and some are very intuitive. Some are aesthetically pleasing, and there are others that aren't as much. Some are a whole mix of these things and some are just a few.
    At the end of the day, you're better off just doing you. Try to have a big heart and hope that one day what you have to offer is enough for someone.

    My ugly and unattractive 2 cents icon_razz.gificon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2014 1:25 PM GMT
    Did I miss something? Thin guys are unattractive now?
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    Sep 09, 2014 2:54 PM GMT
    It's not unattractive everywhere. In most of Asia people prefer thin males.

    I just don't find thin males attractive because I like a guy to look like he could win in a fight. Joking,

    Orlando Bloom is really thin and although most of Hollywood finds him attractive I don't so to each his own.
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    Sep 09, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    *spots thinly-veiled attempt at rephrasing "do muscular guys like skinny guys?"*

    *rolls eyes*
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:08 PM GMT
    Skinny - NO

    Lean -YES

    There's a subtle difference.
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:14 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidSkinny - NO

    Lean -YES

    There's a subtle difference.


    This.
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    Sep 09, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    People are more attracted to well build guys rather skinny. Lean would work if he gota cute face or dick!
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:17 PM GMT
    leo_ saidPeople are more attracted to well build guys rather skinny. Lean would work if he gota cute face or dick!

    this also
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:37 PM GMT
    It's true that there are some guys out there who are attracted to very thin guys, but that's a minority.

    The majority are attracted to muscular dudes for the simple reason that biologically we're programmed to connect muscularity in males with vitality.
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    Sep 09, 2014 6:58 PM GMT
    From my personal experience, I think guys overall prefer muscle but if you stay thin you won't have trouble attracting guys. I've met some guys that are only into slim guys.
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    Sep 09, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    Even though the OP is gone, I hope he still sees this. You really got to work with what you got. Like I said, I'm a small guy any way you look at it. But I work out almost everyday, keep good hygiene, dress well with clothes that flatter by body, and at least try to act like I have confidence. Mopping around about hot guys that won't fuck you is unattractive. I've had no issue in that department. As for love, thats a whole different story.

    But just stop being a bitch. Maybe you just aren't cute even if you are skinny or not...sorry to say....
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    Sep 09, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    I am 43.People of my generation were usually thin when they were growin up unlike the fat kids of today.I am short 5'6 and 150.I was very thin into my mid 30's.I dont see too many men who stay at 125 pounds unless they eat 2 grapes a day.Just sayin.
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    Sep 10, 2014 6:58 AM GMT
    WickedRyan saidI am 43.People of my generation were usually thin when they were growin up unlike the fat kids of today.I am short 5'6 and 150.I was very thin into my mid 30's.I dont see too many men who stay at 125 pounds unless they eat 2 grapes a day.Just sayin.


    This a million times.



    .....I would also ADD:

    I have nothing against guys lifting and bulking up (this is RJ after-all, I realize the forum I am in and do not mean to offend), but I simply hope that the 20-something muscle Gods realize that once you create those extra muscle/fat cell, THEY NEVER GO AWAY. This is not my opinion, this is a biological truth. As such, you will either have to (1) keep lifting at the level you are today, OR (2) you will deflate into some lop-sided, half-deflated mush pot decades from now. The muscle look really got traction late 80s to early 90s (in part as a reaction to the muscle loss of the HIV/AIDS era, wherein if you were muscular you were seen as negative and healthy, but that's an entirely different story we don't have the time for) and we're already starting to see those former buff bodies from the 1990s and 2000s look like odd specimens. It's normal to start gaining weight in your late 30s and 40s....but the unnatural bulking is already starting to take its unnatural and lopsided toll on the those who can't stick to your 20-something routine (and let's face it, FEW people lift in their 40s at the rate they did when they were 20...career, time, energy, etc).

    As a smaller example, the tattoo craze of the 70s, 80s and 90s is already showing unfortunate signs. I've seen quite a few faded, wrinkled and saggy tattoos that are a mere sliver of their former splendor of decades ago. To each their own, I'm simply saying beware and think. If you actively fight your body's homeostasis, you'd better be in it for the long haul.