Bottom Problems

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    Sep 09, 2014 8:33 PM GMT
    Well I guess sex is a part of health so here goes...

    I'm a bottom and not one to sleep around and do hook ups with countless number of guys. I finally have a FWB but he's in the military, is always working, and a 30 mile drive.

    That said, I can go awhile without sex but, after a while the desire and need gets intense.

    Anyone have any alternative tips on how to satisfy the prostate without the top;

    I have a dildo, but it takes too much work for me to get into than the real thing, any tips on how to make the experience better?

    Any other types of male sex essentials? I was thinking about a P-spot massager, are those any good?

    Does anyone have any ideas or their own methods of satisfying themselves when there's no top around?
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 09, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    Afraid there is no substitute for the real thing. Toys are work and distracting and not very satisfying. I understand that you are not into hook-ups but if your FWB isn't around, and you don't see it as the start of a long term relationship, maybe you should find someone more available. In addition or in substitution.
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    Sep 09, 2014 9:50 PM GMT
    If he's just a FWB, why are you being so faithful? You're acting like you're in a monogamous relationship. Find a second FWB for when #1 is away.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    There is no sub...

    How about you find someone that you would like to have a monogamous relationship with.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:38 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIf he's just a FWB, why are you being so faithful? You're acting like you're in a monogamous relationship. Find a second FWB for when #1 is away.


    It's not like that at all. This has nothing to do with monogamy and is the reason we're FWBs so we don't have to have random encounters. I know gay culture is typically either be in a relationship or be with a bunch of random dudes for one night stands. But that's not me. Just because I chose to be sexually active with one person doesn't make it a monogamous relationship.

    Im in a small town with college students that come and go and aren't looking for anything serious.

    I prefer to have sex with someone I know, I trust, and I'm attracted to. My situation doesn't give the easy option of being monogamous or having a long term relationship let alone there's not a lot of gays out there.

    So masterbation tips are welcomed and appreciated! With the most respect, no one truly knows one's situation to be giving dating tips and making assumptions.

    But thank you guys for the advice and the opportunity to explain where I am coming from in more depth.
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    Sep 09, 2014 10:47 PM GMT
    LoneStar_Ro said
    Scruffypup saidIf he's just a FWB, why are you being so faithful? You're acting like you're in a monogamous relationship. Find a second FWB for when #1 is away.


    It's not like that at all. This has nothing to do with monogamy and is the reason we're FWBs so we don't have to have random encounters. I know gay culture is typically either be in a relationship or be with a bunch of random dudes for one night stands. But that's not me. Just because I chose to be sexually active with one person doesn't make it a monogamous relationship.

    Im in a small town with college students that come and go and aren't looking for anything serious.

    I prefer to have sex with someone I know, I trust, and I'm attracted to. My situation doesn't give the easy option of being monogamous or having a long term relationship let alone there's not a lot of gays out there.

    So masterbation tips are welcomed and appreciated! With the most respect, no one truly knows one's situation to be giving dating tips and making assumptions.

    But thank you guys for the advice and the opportunity to explain where I am coming from in more depth.


    But I will take that into consideration if one does come along.