Question about relationships

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    Sep 10, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    When frustrated (sexually or otherwise) with a partner is it normal to break/destroy their things? (like mobiles etc)

    Is it normal for people to get that frustrated in gay couples at all?

    I don't know if it's a coping mechanism to ensure there's no physical violence between partners or not.

    It's an odd question I know but yes I really am that stupid so don't add anything if you have nothing constructive to contribute.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 10, 2014 3:57 PM GMT
    No. Physical violence is never acceptable. If a man can't control his temper, he is either an emotional child or mentally disabled and in need of professional help or incarceration, jail or a mental ward. Now, that said, if a man is physically attacked or needs to come to the rescue of someone else being physically attacked, or is forced into action because of a crime (like someone breaking your stuff or stealing it), sure, use physical power to deal with the situation if that is the only reasonable action.

    Of course couples get frustrated with each other sometimes. No relationship is all sweetness and fun. But striking out physically or even mentally at a weakness is never acceptable. I'd walk away in a minute.
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    Sep 10, 2014 4:07 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNo. Physical violence is never acceptable. If a man can't control his temper, he is either an emotional child or mentally disabled and in need of professional help or incarceration, jail or a mental ward. Now, that said, if a man is physically attacked or needs to come to the rescue of someone else being physically attacked, or is forced into action because of a crime (like someone breaking your stuff or stealing it), sure, use physical power to deal with the situation if that is the only reasonable action.

    Of course couples get frustrated with each other sometimes. No relationship is all sweetness and fun. But striking out physically or even mentally at a weakness is never acceptable. I'd walk away in a minute.


    I was just wondering if it was a sex thing because I know when some guys are horny they aren't always responsible for their actions. If not then it's an anger thing which to me is more concerning.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 10, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    Guys are always responsible for their actions. Always.
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    Sep 10, 2014 7:47 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidGuys are always responsible for their actions. Always.


    THIS
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    Sep 10, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Destinharbor saidGuys are always responsible for their actions. Always.


    THIS


    So my friends with some bloke who broke his phone and I had to lend him my spare phone. He asked my advice but I kind of didn't know what to say. What should I advise? The guys never been physically violent as much as I know.
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:06 PM GMT
    dannyboyUK said
    meninlove said
    Destinharbor saidGuys are always responsible for their actions. Always.


    THIS


    So my friends with some bloke who broke his phone and I had to lend him my spare phone. He asked my advice but I kind of didn't know what to say. What should I advise? The guys never been physically violent as much as I know.


    Your friend needs to ask the bloke to replace or pay for another phone. If the bloke says no, then he's really not great BF material, is he? *winks*
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 10, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    Your friend's friend owes your friend a new phone and an apology specifically stating he will never be violent with your friend or his stuff ever again. For any reason. And he should pick up dinner and a movie, too.
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    When in anger,think of consequences.

    That's how a short tempered person like me, who, until few years ago would fit into the person you describe has converted into a whole different person now where people I often meet started asking "won't you ever get angry?"