Attitude

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    Jan 13, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    Why is when you turn someone down and a very kind manner they feel can be nasty and say rude things to you? Do they feel that no one should ever turn them down?icon_sad.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jan 13, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
    In person? I'd turn it back on them and say "Looks like my first instinct was right".
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    Jan 13, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
    The male ego is a very fragile beast.
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    Jan 13, 2009 9:47 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidThe male ego is a very fragile beast.


    your right it is and I hate fighting with them in person or online its a head ach.icon_mad.gif
  • GQjock

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    Jan 13, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    No matter what you say or for what reason any guy is going to take it as an insult
  • EricLA

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    Jan 14, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
    No one likes to be rejected. If they respond badly to your kindly, "Sorry, but I'm not interested," then just say, "Sorry, didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I tried to let you down as nicely as possible." If they're rude, just walk away. It's their hurt egos talking.
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    Jan 14, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Sladex said
    redheadguy saidThe male ego is a very fragile beast.


    your right it is and I hate fighting with them in person or online its a head ach.icon_mad.gif


    Then don't. Walking away shows them you are a better person
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    Jan 14, 2009 3:21 AM GMT
    Logan and I deal with this constantly. A pictureless, a profileless, an ab-only shot, a complete stranger, saying some thing or that, and when we say I'm sorry I'm not interested they lash out.

    For whatever reason, online folks, and especially online gay folks, seem very polar and seem to have extremely bad decorum.

    The best choice is to ignore. Over the years, we have folks who "dig" on us, but, we understand their personality, and take it with a grain of salt.

    It's funny how a skinny, or a fat, or dumb, guy can go from adoration to venomous in literally seconds, confirming the original judgment on the guys.

    It's like, "I like you, therefore, you should like me, even though you know nothing about me." They are some pretty messed up creatures.

    You just cast them off into The Pestiverse.

    Somehow, they must feel indemnified by lashing out at a complete stranger, half a world away. In their own convoluted world, perhaps it gives them the last word. Who knows.
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    Jan 14, 2009 7:34 AM GMT
    I like bondage roleplay and I'm more into guys outside my race, and I like masculine men not guys who act like females and thats mostly 95% of black gay males. You can tell how the talk, and even from their picture, so when they hit me up saying " Iets play" or etc then I kindly say Thanks but I'm not interested ,but thanks anyway then I get this whole different side of the person and it upsets me because I was nice enough to respond to the email, because most guys wouldn't which is rude but thats life. Then I get emails name calling , saying they were just joking and etc instead of getting into a fight I just block them but my blood be fired up. Thats why I ask Why the attitude is it really that serious to behave like that?
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    Jan 14, 2009 8:07 AM GMT
    When I get rejected online I block that person and walk away from their profile. It's the best way for both sides.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
    I´m not "interested" in everyone who writes to me, and so I presume that not everyone I write to will be interested in me. That just seems common sense. When people get vitriolic then it just shows they have no common sense or perspective. Ignore and block.