Is it ageist to be attracted to a specific age more than the other?

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    Sep 10, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    A variation of http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3906474
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    It goes only one way, if you discriminate against older people, then it's ageist. But not the other way around.
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    morphic saidIt goes only one way, if you discriminate against older people, then it's ageist. But not the other way around.



    Huh?
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    You're only ageist if you are a douchebag.

    Ageism has nothing to do with sexual preference. It has to do with respect.
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:32 PM GMT
    Why are you always making shit like this lol
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    Sep 10, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    HolyHex001 saidWhy are you always making shit like this lol


    He's a social justice warrior.
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    Sep 10, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    morphic saidIt goes only one way, if you discriminate against older people, then it's ageist. But not the other way around.



    Care to elaborate?
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    Sep 10, 2014 11:35 PM GMT
    silver_phoenix saidNo, it is obvious from an evolutionary psychology view why youth is sexually more attractive.

    Unfortunately the "Everyone is a speshul snowflake" ideology called Political Correctness now dominates, so the cold hard reality of the human condition is a serious inconvenience that has to be ignored and denied.


    But, but... the RJ queens tell me that after being ignored for most of my 30's I'm supposed to look forward to daddy status when all the 20 year olds inexplicably come running back! There are anecdotal reports of this!
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    Sep 11, 2014 2:02 AM GMT
    silver_phoenix saidNo, it is obvious from an evolutionary psychology view why youth is sexually more attractive.

    Considered from the evolutionary viewpoint, i.e., what is sexually hot, youth is always going to be more attractive. Smooth skin, fresh features, taut muscles, testosterone practically oozing out, etc., it's pointless to deny the obvious.
    Considered from the relationship viewpoint, i.e., what would be interesting and stimulating about getting intimate with this guy, maturity has its compensations. Experience, wit, poise, savoir faire, etc., may (note the "may") hold your attention longer than the hotness of youth.


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    Sep 11, 2014 2:14 AM GMT
    silver_phoenix saidNo, it is obvious from an evolutionary psychology view why youth is sexually more attractive.


    Hard to see how your simplistic application of evolutionary theory works for gay men since we can't pass on our genes without an assist from technology/women...
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    Sep 11, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    People are obviously going to be attracted to whomever they're attracted and as long as they don't disparage those whom they don't find attractive I don't think there's any problem.

    But it does seem that if you're only attracted to men in their 20s, for example, you may have a hard time finding somebody when you're in your 50s and 60s.
  • theob

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    Sep 11, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    Are we talking numerical age, as in the number of times the planet has been around the sun while you've been alive, or are we talking about the biological age of your cells, as in the number of telomeres left before they stop dividing?

    Very important distinction here.

    I think the thing people look for, above all, is signs of health and vitality. By eating right, exercising regularly, and not having any weird health conditions, you could be conventionally attractive into your 50's and 60's. I have met guys like this.

    Or you could totally fuck it up, do a bunch of meth in your teens, eat fast food all the time, lose all your teeth, and cut your healthy years short.

    "Age" is the reason we are on this website in the first place. We want to find ways to be be healthy so others will find us more attractive and generally bangworthy.
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:17 PM GMT
    For me... its not the number.. its behavoir and fitness level....way to many guys in my age range look and act 10 plus years older than they are.... turn-off
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:20 PM GMT
    Merriam-Wesbter defines ageism as "prejudice or discrimination against a particular age-group and especially the elderly."

    Does that help you answer your question?

    On second thought the real question is: Is it necessarily wrong to be ageist or practice ageism.
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    davfit saidFor me... its not the number.. its behavoir and fitness level....way to many guys in my age range look and act 10 plus years older than they are.... turn-off


    Same. And I'm only 31. You look great!
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    Sep 12, 2014 12:39 AM GMT
    Yes, and it's also sexist to not be attracted to women.

    What's with all the guilt threads lately? Are people so desperate to show they're non-judgemental they start having second thoughts about their own sexual preferences?

    What makes you think people outside your preferred age need your pity? Seriously all this just looks like narcissism and self-obsession disguised as altruism. "Oh look, I'm so great, special and perfect that I should literally feel bad for those I'm not attracted to". Get a grip, for fuck's sake. I wish I could fill your mouth with cum and slap you around just to degrade your unrealistic sense of self-worth a little bit.
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    Sep 12, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Yes, it's a big deal. If i date a dude 30 years older than me, when I'm 30 hes 60? 40 hes 70? Uhhhh....
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    Sep 12, 2014 1:44 AM GMT
    My previous bf was 10 years older than me, and I never had an issue with his age. I liked that he lived an interesting life and had a stable career. It gave us a lot to talk about. But he was still very immature.

    Right after him, I started dating a guy 7 years younger than me. It actually felt a whole lot weirder dating a younger guy than an older one. But he is actually more mature, driven, and has a certain innocence to our relationship that always keeps me off balance in a good way. I don't think I ever would've dated someone so young a few years ago. But we've been solid for a year and half now.
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    Sep 12, 2014 2:34 AM GMT
    AaronH20P saidYes, and it's also sexist to not be attracted to women.

    What's with all the guilt threads lately? Are people so desperate to show they're non-judgemental they start having second thoughts about their own sexual preferences?

    What makes you think people outside your preferred age need your pity? Seriously all this just looks like narcissism and self-obsession disguised as altruism. "Oh look, I'm so great, special and perfect that I should literally feel bad for those I'm not attracted to". Get a grip, for fuck's sake. I wish I could fill your mouth with cum and slap you around just to degrade your unrealistic sense of self-worth a little bit.


    Amen +100

    What's funny is that the same old guys that complain about "sexual ageism" were the same ones that refused to date older men when they were young themselves. Oh the irony.
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    Sep 12, 2014 3:15 AM GMT
    Love has no age or color brother.
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    silver_phoenix saidNo, it is obvious from an evolutionary psychology view why youth is sexually more attractive.

    Considered from the evolutionary viewpoint, i.e., what is sexually hot, youth is always going to be more attractive. Smooth skin, fresh features, taut muscles, testosterone practically oozing out, etc., it's pointless to deny the obvious.
    Considered from the relationship viewpoint, i.e., what would be interesting and stimulating about getting intimate with this guy, maturity has its compensations. Experience, wit, poise, savoir faire, etc., may (note the "may") hold your attention longer than the hotness of youth.




    Young is "always" hotter and older "may" hold your attention longer?

    Sorry but I've seen plenty of bad skin, flabby muscles, queeny fags to last my lifetime. Sure there are some very attractive young Gays. But not even close to "always".

    Older physically fit men do a lot more than "hold my attention" lol. 19-90, I don't care as long as they have "it".
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:43 PM GMT
    Is it sexist to be attracted to one sex more than the other?
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    Sep 13, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    silver_phoenix said
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    TexDef07 said
    silver_phoenix saidNo, it is obvious from an evolutionary psychology view why youth is sexually more attractive.

    Considered from the evolutionary viewpoint, i.e., what is sexually hot, youth is always going to be more attractive. Smooth skin, fresh features, taut muscles, testosterone practically oozing out, etc., it's pointless to deny the obvious.
    Considered from the relationship viewpoint, i.e., what would be interesting and stimulating about getting intimate with this guy, maturity has its compensations. Experience, wit, poise, savoir faire, etc., may (note the "may") hold your attention longer than the hotness of youth.




    Young is "always" hotter and older "may" hold your attention longer?

    Sorry but I've seen plenty of bad skin, flabby muscles, queeny fags to last my lifetime. Sure there are some very attractive young Gays. But not even close to "always".

    Older physically fit men do a lot more than "hold my attention" lol. 19-90, I don't care as long as they have "it".


    If you chase after 90yo that is your fetish, nothing more.


    When I'm 80 maybe! Oldest I've been with is late 60s, and he was in excellent shape!
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    Sep 13, 2014 6:57 PM GMT
    in some cases it can also be called pedophylia