New to gay world. What is a bear?

  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Sep 11, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    Im new to the gay world. im 35, black, masculine male into white guys. I am only attracted to masculine guys and fem guys turn me off. I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just how I feel. What is a bear? Am I a "bear"? That is what everyone says because I have chest and facial hair. Is that true? How do I find other "bears"? Is the bear thing a gay cultural thing? What is a twink? icon_smile.gif.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:20 AM GMT
    I just read your profile and I think your white obsession is amusing.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
    David3K saidI just read your profile and I think your white obsession is amusing.


    lol
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
    Dont fall into those stupid terms. We are grown ass men.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:27 AM GMT
    A hairy thick man.
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Sep 11, 2014 12:30 AM GMT
    David3K saidI just read your profile and I think your white obsession is amusing.


    Yes. I'm obsessed with hot white guys. icon_smile.gif.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:37 AM GMT
    I hope you know nearly all gay white men have some racist tendencies. Welcome to the gay world.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:39 AM GMT
    Shouldn't get rapped up in the terms but....You are a textbook bear
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:40 AM GMT
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:41 AM GMT
    Yakuza saidI hope you know nearly all gay white men have some racist tendencies. Welcome to the gay world.

    Dont say welcome, he says he's been out since he was 14 so he probably knows that by now.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:42 AM GMT
    David3K said
    Yakuza saidI hope you know nearly all gay white men have some racist tendencies. Welcome to the gay world.

    Dont say welcome, he says he's been out since he was 14 so he probably knows that by now.


    my bad my bad...well to each his own
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Sep 11, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    I dunno. It's like, everytime I turn on porn on the net, all it is is skinny guys with earrings and there aren't any guys with harder features. I hope the gay world has more to offer. The thing is, im not against skinny guys, ive just met fewer that are hot.
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:49 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidI dunno. It's like, everytime I turn on porn on the net, all it is is skinny guys with earrings and there aren't any guys with harder features. I hope the gay world has more to offer. The thing is, im not against skinny guys, ive just met fewer that are hot.


    So basically you're looking for buff white guys?
    I have bad news for you...
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    David3K said
    johnnyqhomo7 saidI dunno. It's like, everytime I turn on porn on the net, all it is is skinny guys with earrings and there aren't any guys with harder features. I hope the gay world has more to offer. The thing is, im not against skinny guys, ive just met fewer that are hot.


    So basically you're looking for buff white guys?
    I have bad news for you...


    I fell like he is a fake. Dont bother explaining it to him, he should know ALL this by now
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    Sep 11, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Every week we get a new black guy begging for white guys in the forum...I feel like these have to be fake profiles or are black gay men really THAT pathetic ?
  • jo2hotbod

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    Sep 11, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    It's a wild animal that lives in the forest, eats berries, fish and honey and hibernates in the winter
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    Sep 11, 2014 1:01 AM GMT
    A bear is a man who likes to roar in bed and lick honey off his partner's body.
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    Sep 11, 2014 1:02 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidIt's a wild animal that lives in the forest, eats berries, fish and honey and hibernates in the winter


    but he meant white bears. prolly polar bears
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    Sep 11, 2014 3:01 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidIm new to the gay world. im 35, black, masculine male into white guys. I am only attracted to masculine guys and fem guys turn me off. I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just how I feel. What is a bear? Am I a "bear"? That is what everyone says because I have chest and facial hair. Is that true? How do I find other "bears"? Is the bear thing a gay cultural thing? What is a twink? icon_smile.gif.


    Refer to Google for all of your questions.

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    Sep 11, 2014 4:05 AM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidIm new to the gay world. im 35, black, masculine male into white guys. I am only attracted to masculine guys and fem guys turn me off. I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just how I feel. What is a bear? Am I a "bear"? That is what everyone says because I have chest and facial hair. Is that true? How do I find other "bears"? Is the bear thing a gay cultural thing? What is a twink? icon_smile.gif.

    A bear is a heavy-set gay man, typically with generous body hair, along with some facial hair. Age range is 30s-50s. They're also often into leather, but not exclusively. You might qualify as a bear.

    A twink is a gay guy, from teens through 20s. Typically slender, little or no body hair, and often a bit fem. Being a clueless airhead is frequently part of the package. Think of the dumb blonde stereotype, totally self-absorbed, and you're close.

    Depending on your area, you can find each type in gay bars that cater to one or the other. Leather bars are a good place to search for bears. Twinks like loud electronica disco clubs, but are also drawn to quieter bars where older daddies hopefully will buy them drinks, since most have little means of support.
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:53 AM GMT
    I guess i would be considered a bear, trying to get in shape so i would eventually be considered a muscle bear.. i think your porn tastes would like hotoldermaledotcom and pantheonbeardotcom, maybe try out daddyhuntdotcom, plenty of gay white guys to be found on those websites
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    Sep 11, 2014 4:56 AM GMT
    I try to be white all day erreday!
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    Sep 11, 2014 3:36 PM GMT
    Yes, you look like a bear to me.

    This is how I categorize them:

    1. black bears - black/African-American bears or whites with black hair
    2. brown bears - Latino/Hispanic bears or whites with brown hair
    3. polar bears - older grey/white haired bears or white blonds
    4. panda bears - Asians (very rare)
    5. sun bears - red or strawberry blond bears
    6. grizzly bears - any bear you aren't attracted to or older bears.
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    Sep 11, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
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    ...Twinks like loud electronica disco clubs, but are also drawn to quieter bars where older daddies hopefully will buy them drinks, since most have little means of support.


    Bless their little twinky hearts.
  • theob

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    Sep 11, 2014 4:01 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidIm new to the gay world. im 35, black, masculine male into white guys. I am only attracted to masculine guys and fem guys turn me off. I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just how I feel. What is a bear? Am I a "bear"? That is what everyone says because I have chest and facial hair. Is that true? How do I find other "bears"? Is the bear thing a gay cultural thing? What is a twink? icon_smile.gif.


    What is a twink? hahaha.

    Fem guys used to turn me off when I was coming out. I'm not attracted to all fem types, but the kinda shy / reserved ones are super hot. The bitchy ones less so.

    Give it a few months. Once you're more comfortable with yourself, you might find your preferences change too.