johnnyqhomo7 saidIm new to the gay world. im 35, black, masculine male into white guys. I am only attracted to masculine guys and fem guys turn me off. I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just how I feel. What is a bear? Am I a "bear"? That is what everyone says because I have chest and facial hair. Is that true? How do I find other "bears"? Is the bear thing a gay cultural thing? What is a twink? .
A bear is a heavy-set gay man, typically with generous body hair, along with some facial hair. Age range is 30s-50s. They're also often into leather, but not exclusively. You might qualify as a bear.
A twink is a gay guy, from teens through 20s. Typically slender, little or no body hair, and often a bit fem. Being a clueless airhead is frequently part of the package. Think of the dumb blonde stereotype, totally self-absorbed, and you're close.
Depending on your area, you can find each type in gay bars that cater to one or the other. Leather bars are a good place to search for bears. Twinks like loud electronica disco clubs, but are also drawn to quieter bars where older daddies hopefully will buy them drinks, since most have little means of support.