I'm feeling pretty emotional about starting my final year at University...

  • _xsdx_

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    Sep 11, 2014 9:53 PM GMT
    Hey guys! icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm brief cry for help! *giggles*. I'm due to start my 3rd and final year at University in a few weeks time. My degree is in health and social care. After graduating, I'm hoping to do a Masters in International HR management and then start at the bottom of the career ladder and climb my way up. For the past two years I have also volunteered as a day center assistant for elderly with dementia once a week and at weekends I would work as a cashier at my local supermarkets. I hope to continue this onto my final year too. I love everybody on my campus, we are all high spirited and look out for one another and the social life is great fun! However this is still to continue for the next year and already I am feeling teary when really I shouldn't be. Like nearly every night I rest in my bed at home I can feel my stomach churning, My head feeling dizzy, sinking in the idea that I am about to start my final bachelor's year...particular as a teenager I was very slow and not very smart during middle and high school. Both my mum and dad are aware and they do try and help me and tell me do not worry...I am very grateful for this, but theres only so much they can do.

    Have any of you guys been through similar experience? I don't want this feeling to spoil my final year and have an effect on my performance, I'm not sure whether my fellow classmates are going through similar experience, but I'm kinda embarrassed to ask them.

    Can anybody help me? suggest practical and effective advice? Much appreciated icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 11, 2014 10:03 PM GMT
    I dropped out in my junior year to get the career I want, and still have it. Collage woulda held me back.
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    Sep 11, 2014 10:08 PM GMT
    Really? I wanted to gtfo of there cause I was getting burned out and stopped caring.
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    Sep 11, 2014 10:21 PM GMT
    pazzy saidsave your tears for the frustrations you're going to have when you realize how difficult it is to find a job out here where employers tell you need 5 years experience for an entry level job.

    you better go to your local career center and get busy with that to secure a job.


    Well i already am employed on a part time basis, volunteer once a week...by the time I finish my masters it will be 5 years WIN WIN! The town I live in has a very stable economy and offer graduate schemes employment which do not require 5 years experience as its on the job training....could you suggest something for my tears I have having now? icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 11, 2014 10:33 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    _xsdx_ said
    pazzy saidsave your tears for the frustrations you're going to have when you realize how difficult it is to find a job out here where employers tell you need 5 years experience for an entry level job.

    you better go to your local career center and get busy with that to secure a job.


    Well i already am employed on a part time basis, volunteer once a week...by the time I finish my masters it will be 5 years WIN WIN! The town I live in has a very stable economy and offer graduate schemes employment which do not require 5 years experience as its on the job training....could you suggest something for my tears I have having now? icon_smile.gif



    don't take it as me playing you out, man. no offense. only trying to help. i'm happy that you're graduating. just giving you a heads up as someone who graduated 3 years ago about what's happening out here. you might want to prepare for life after graduation now. there's many of us that graduated and can't find jobs in our fields.

    what i was saying is that are you employed or at least networking within the field that you're getting a degree in? it's best to get your feet in there now as a student compared to when you graduate and have to compete against how many other people out here that are like you. you aren't the only person competing for a job. yes, school is hard as fuck where you gotta focus your time but just a heads up.


    Aww i know i you are trying to help! icon_smile.gif....but thats for the future for me to worry...i need summin for my turning tummy now icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 11, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    Graduating means you'll be going through a big change, starting a new life. Change is always stressful. Starting a new life is very stressful and scary. Some of us do well with change, some less well. I'm the latter so I can sympathize. The only thing I can suggest is to investigate how to manage your stress and anxiety.
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    Sep 12, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    pazzy said
    _xsdx_ said
    pazzy said
    _xsdx_ said
    pazzy saidsave your tears for the frustrations you're going to have when you realize how difficult it is to find a job out here where employers tell you need 5 years experience for an entry level job.

    you better go to your local career center and get busy with that to secure a job.


    Well i already am employed on a part time basis, volunteer once a week...by the time I finish my masters it will be 5 years WIN WIN! The town I live in has a very stable economy and offer graduate schemes employment which do not require 5 years experience as its on the job training....could you suggest something for my tears I have having now? icon_smile.gif



    don't take it as me playing you out, man. no offense. only trying to help. i'm happy that you're graduating. just giving you a heads up as someone who graduated 3 years ago about what's happening out here. you might want to prepare for life after graduation now. there's many of us that graduated and can't find jobs in our fields.

    what i was saying is that are you employed or at least networking within the field that you're getting a degree in? it's best to get your feet in there now as a student compared to when you graduate and have to compete against how many other people out here that are like you. you aren't the only person competing for a job. yes, school is hard as fuck where you gotta focus your time but just a heads up.


    Aww i know i you are trying to help! icon_smile.gif....but thats for the future for me to worry...i need summin for my turning tummy now icon_razz.gif


    have you been hooking up with guys in college? that's another thing too. i wasn't out in college and was in denial.


    Im openly gay but i dont hook up with men in general...plus most gay guys on my campus dont like the way i look #ForeverAlone ahaha
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    Sep 12, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidGraduating means you'll be going through a big change, starting a new life. Change is always stressful. Starting a new life is very stressful and scary. Some of us do well with change, some less well. I'm the latter so I can sympathize. The only thing I can suggest is to investigate how to manage your stress and anxiety.


    Would you suggest i seek counselling? icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2014 2:21 AM GMT
    _xsdx_ said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidGraduating means you'll be going through a big change, starting a new life. Change is always stressful. Starting a new life is very stressful and scary. Some of us do well with change, some less well. I'm the latter so I can sympathize. The only thing I can suggest is to investigate how to manage your stress and anxiety.


    Would you suggest i seek counselling? icon_smile.gif


    If it's affecting your daily routine and your ability to study/work, then yeah, seek counseling.
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    Sep 12, 2014 2:39 AM GMT
    _xsdx_ said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidGraduating means you'll be going through a big change, starting a new life. Change is always stressful. Starting a new life is very stressful and scary. Some of us do well with change, some less well. I'm the latter so I can sympathize. The only thing I can suggest is to investigate how to manage your stress and anxiety.

    Would you suggest i seek counselling? icon_smile.gif

    Shrug. You could try. Or see what books are out there. I saw one when I was going through a rough period and her only advice was to breath deeply. Lol, like that's going to help. What did help is my doctor prescribed an anti-anxiety drug, similar to Xanax but not as addictive. Amazing stuff, but so seductive. Luckily I resisted taking it regularly and only used it Sunday evenings when I'd get worried about the upcoming week and couldn't get to sleep.

    My impression is that therapists are very hit or miss. If you find a good one you're lucky. And the good ones may not be nearby or in your insurance group.