Do I need to delete all social media sites for my future job

  • Kromethius

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    Sep 12, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    I'm currently receiving help from a family friend for an internship as well as a full time job after getting my bachelors in Electrical Engineering and a minor in math. My only concern is after I friended this family friend on facebook he immediately told my parents that I had to clean up my facebook by taking off my shirtless pic (not that I am vain I take them once every 3 months to show improvements as part of my new years resolution). He also warned them that the companies have a program to detect all sites that I'm on and evaluate me. I'm concerned if maybe I should delete all sites like realjock adam4adam and facebook due to this as well as them finding out my sexuality which I am not sure if they will reject me for that reasoning. Can anyone in the work field please explain this and as to what I should do? Thank you very much.
  • Fable

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    Sep 12, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    Bullshit.

    Just put your shit on private derp.
  • thomazza

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    Sep 12, 2014 12:38 AM GMT
    I am in school for engineering too, and I've had the same worries for awhile. I've enabled lots of privacy settings on my Facebook so that the public (or any friends who don't need to see everything) can't see various posts, pictures, or be privy to certain info. I don't worry as much about it now, because I feel most of my info is safely guarded from people who might be able to use it against me.

    That said, I'm still a little apprehensive about future employers and coworkers knowing much about my personal life. So I feel ya. Best of luck with the job search.
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    Sep 12, 2014 12:41 AM GMT
    Fable saidBullshit.

    Just put your shit on private derp.


    Employers can temporarily bypass security settings though.

    Also for my job I have to add the HR departments facebook so my posts can be monitored for anything inappropriate.

    To the OP you're friend is probably right about the Facebook thing but you don't have to delete it just censor it.

    As for tracking your membership to sites (assuming by using your email address) it kind of sounds like bull crap but to be on safe side have an email address you use exclusively to correspond with employers and people you network with professionally and then have a second email for social things like Facebook and dating sites if it concerns you. I do that anyways just to avoid missing anything important in my inbox.
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    Sep 12, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    Cut the chase; locate in the part of the world you can be accepted. for example SF or NYC or Massachusetts like places.

    bolhvpn or like tools work well.

    basically you cant hide (and should not) your husband boy friend. they will need to visit you at work.
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    Sep 12, 2014 1:28 AM GMT
    dannyboyUK said
    Also for my job I have to add the HR departments facebook so my posts can be monitored for anything


    I don't believe the idea of any kind temporary back door. That sounds like a conspiracy theory.

    As for compelling you to friend the HR spies, They better pay you well. If you're not talking about them or using Facebook at work that is really invasive and not something I would have agreed to. Or id make a lame one for them and save my real account for my actual life.
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    Sep 12, 2014 8:20 AM GMT
    ShiftyJK08 said
    dannyboyUK said
    Also for my job I have to add the HR departments facebook so my posts can be monitored for anything


    I don't believe the idea of any kind temporary back door. That sounds like a conspiracy theory.

    As for compelling you to friend the HR spies, They better pay you well. If you're not talking about them or using Facebook at work that is really invasive and not something I would have agreed to. Or id make a lame one for them and save my real account for my actual life.


    It's company policy. I actually work in HR but not as high as those who stalk the employee FBs lol.

    I never post to facebook anymore and I ask my friends to never tag me in anything after I was asked to attend a meeting to discuss whether or not it was appropriate to have pictures of me drinking alcoholic drinks on my profile. After that I just thought I need to earn money so I didn't care about my internet rights.
  • buddycat

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    Sep 12, 2014 10:54 AM GMT
    Why don't you just make your profile only visible to those that are members? I doubt they will join here looking for you even if they know about it.
  • Beeftastic

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    Sep 12, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    "Employers can temporarily bypass security settings though. "

    I'm an employer, where can I get this mythical access? I call conspiracy theory bullshit. If your privacy settings are correct on Facebook, non-friends should not be able to see much.

    https://www.yahoo.com/tech/how-to-configure-your-facebook-privacy-to-avoid-getting-84933197009.html
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    Sep 12, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    Set up a second facebook account, one for business/work. Give that to HR.
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:11 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidSet up a second facebook account, one for business/work. Give that to HR.


    ding ding ding, i would make a fictitious one for HR. I will not surrender passwords. That would mean automatic lawsuit. Plus i would challenge the relevance of their Friending me, and written document of what is considered acceptable. Otherwise its opinion , which is actionable.
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
    Beeftastic said"Employers can temporarily bypass security settings though. "

    I'm an employer, where can I get this mythical access? I call conspiracy theory bullshit. If your privacy settings are correct on Facebook, non-friends should not be able to see much.

    https://www.yahoo.com/tech/how-to-configure-your-facebook-privacy-to-avoid-getting-84933197009.html


    Apparently if you want to hire someone you can ask facebook to temporarily give you access to a persons page and it becomes fully visible to you.
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:42 PM GMT
    First, congrats on getting your degree and entering the workplace! I can't give you technical advice, but I can give you some legal tips, chief among which is to ditch FB entirely. It may be important to you, but think about it, is it really? Most professionals find LinkedIn a better, more professional vehicle for getting the word out about themselves and their careers, and IMHO, FB just asks and tells too much, privacy setting notwithstanding. If revealing your on-line activity is required by your employer, and researched by its personnel department (I refuse to use that BS term "human resources"), do you really want people knowing every little detail about you? I've found that by avoiding it, and similar "catch all" sites, and by focusing on a few that are relevant to my friends, family, and me, I get out what needs to get out, and keep within what needs to stay within. Good luck on the job!
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    Sep 12, 2014 9:59 PM GMT
    Use the interview process to be honest about yourself, your sexuality, and your social media life. If your potential employer doesn't like it, that's not the place for you.

    Always remember: Interviews are a two-way street. You're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you.
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    Sep 12, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    Just from doing a reverse image search on [RJ member's user name deleted after he threatened me with - legal action I guess - because I shared "personal and private" information - the city and state in which he was born - on my original post] profile pic - which with google's Chrome browser takes just 2 mouse clicks - I found his name and then easily found his linked in profile plus a super detailed bio that he posted on a public website. My point is that you also have to consider what pics you post and where you post them.
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    Sep 12, 2014 10:58 PM GMT
    Just keep the pics and content professional. Remember the world is watching..
  • Beeftastic

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    Sep 13, 2014 1:39 AM GMT
    dannyboyUK said
    Beeftastic said"Employers can temporarily bypass security settings though. "

    I'm an employer, where can I get this mythical access? I call conspiracy theory bullshit. If your privacy settings are correct on Facebook, non-friends should not be able to see much.

    https://www.yahoo.com/tech/how-to-configure-your-facebook-privacy-to-avoid-getting-84933197009.html


    Apparently if you want to hire someone you can ask facebook to temporarily give you access to a persons page and it becomes fully visible to you.


    Someone show me evidence that this is REAL. It would violate Facebooks privacy policy agreement that they have with their users, and would result in a hell of a lawsuit against them.
  • theob

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    Sep 13, 2014 1:52 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidUse the interview process to be honest about yourself, your sexuality, and your social media life. If your potential employer doesn't like it, that's not the place for you.

    Always remember: Interviews are a two-way street. You're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you.


    Just seems a bit odd that you'd need to mention the fact that you're gay in a job interview? I mean, unless they start talking like you're interested in dating all these ladies, why is this important to bring up?
  • rdberg1957

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    Sep 13, 2014 6:56 AM GMT
    In a job interview, what is important is what you can do for the employer and what the employer can do for you. I have been out in various work settings, but never came out during the interview.
  • Kromethius

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    Sep 14, 2014 3:24 AM GMT
    Basically I'm afraid of if my shirtless pics are too revealing and if they see me on a dating/hooking up site.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:52 AM GMT
    I work in a formerly religious medical setting. A while back I saw one of the admin guys profiles on a gay website, saying he enjoyed kissing. A short bit later he was gone. My state is now against workplace discrimination. However they get around that if they can document every little mistake you might make. So I prefer to stay a headless torso, or creative photographer of my head.
    I got surprised once when I google "gay men in baltimore" once. About 4 guys photos from meetup.com were shown.
    I put my face photo up once for about a month after ex-gay Exodus North America closed it's doors. It was liberating, but after some violence against gays happened I took it down.