whats offensive about being "laid back"?

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    Sep 13, 2014 3:54 PM GMT
    there appears to be a very negative connotation attached to someone who describes themself that way or "chill, down to earth". I understand that people often describe themselves in how they think they are may be very different than how they really are but is it that offensive?

    everyone who's met me has described me that way, unless they really meant lazy with no ambition. I always get those two mixed up
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    Sep 13, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    What an asshole, next time someone says that to you then flex your muscle and be like "does this look laid back to you"?

    are u sure the guy wasn't australian?….its aussie culture to be laid back I think

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    Sep 13, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    So cliche, everyone describes themselves that way these days...
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    Sep 13, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
    I can't even lie. When I hear "laid back", it's automatically cached in my brain to be synonymous with boring. Maybe I'm not the only one who thinks that way??
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    Sep 13, 2014 4:57 PM GMT
    It is a generic phrase with zero meaning.

    Why not just say, "I am dull, have no writing ability, buy my clothes off the rack and I found my sofa in the street?"

    And NO one is laid back.

    It's like people who toss the word "class" around.

    They never have any.
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    Sep 13, 2014 5:36 PM GMT
    Cash saidIt is a generic phrase with zero meaning.

    Why not just say, "I am dull, have no writing ability, buy my clothes off the rack and I found my sofa in the street?"

    And NO one is laid back.

    It's like people who toss the word "class" around.

    They never have any.


    Lol well i'm fine with being dull.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:10 AM GMT
    It's been my experience that "laid back" and "down to earth" guys are totally not laid back or down to earth. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:12 AM GMT
    There's a lot of injustice in this world. "Laid back" = "apathetic and proud of it"

    That said, I don't think it's generally considered negative. Most people seem to prize it.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:14 AM GMT
    xrichx saidIt's been my experience that "laid back" and "down to earth" guys are totally not laid back or down to earth. icon_confused.gif



    lol True. Especially when they write that shit on their profiles. They just use those words to become penis magnets. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 12:15 PM GMT
    kevex said
    xrichx saidIt's been my experience that "laid back" and "down to earth" guys are totally not laid back or down to earth. icon_confused.gif



    lol True. Especially when they write that shit on their profiles. They just use those words to become penis magnets. icon_lol.gif


    I dont want penis though. Just cheesecake on this sunday lol
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    Sep 14, 2014 3:00 PM GMT
    Cash saidIt is a generic phrase with zero meaning
    Agreed.

    While it's a phrase that may have meaning to the person using it, to the reader it begs the question "what does that even mean?" and in the end doesn't really tell me anything about you that is at all useful.

    The phrase doesn't offend me, but its use would likely lose me. I respond the same way to other often used, generic phrases like "down to earth", "no agenda" and my all time favorite, "not into drama or games". I mean who *is* into drama or games, and if I *were* into drama or games, do you think that putting that in your profile is going to scare me off? "Whoah...dude's not into drama or games, and since those are my two favorite pass times, I better not fuck with him!"

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    Sep 14, 2014 3:06 PM GMT
    Laid back = Laying face down naked on the bed waiting for you, my condo gate code is ####, and my room# is XXX and it's unlocked.
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    Sep 14, 2014 3:12 PM GMT
    It has meaning.

    I would interpret it as not worrying about things, taking them as they come. Not making plans obsessively...so if you say they are going to a movie at 730, a person like me would arrive at 630, dressed and ready, having eaten with tickets and standing in line for good seats...laid back would arrive 10 minutes late, get bad seats or its sold out, have to get food still...or wouldnt be upset at all if a friend showed up and they didnt go at all...he wouldnt call to say he wasnt coming...and wouldnt be concerned at all at the change of plans inconveniencing others who expect plans to be followed ver batim
    Laid back people and I dont get along ever.

    They are the type of people who travel 5000 miles on vacation to a city full of galleries and museums and think the ideal thing to do is sit in a coffee shop for 8 hours doing absolutely nothing...you can do that at home see ya.
  • starboard5

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    Sep 14, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    I agree with Cash, for the most part. They are generic phrases that convey blandness.

    And for the record, any guy I've ever met who self-described as laid back had feet that rarely hovered less than two inches above the ground.
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    Sep 14, 2014 3:43 PM GMT
    That's a new one!!! I never found that offensive at all, people interpret phrases in different ways but this should not be mis-interpreted. "Laid back" can be described as relaxed, easy-going or cool.
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    Sep 14, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    I always interpret it as meaning someone who doesn't get worried or flustered by minor or trivial problems.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    I was always interpreted "laid back" as "non-judgemental."
  • disasterpiece

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    Sep 14, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    A lot of people, the ones with sand in their vajayjays, are offended because they aren't given any fucks from the laid-back ones.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Also, a lot of self-called "laid-backs" are in fact just lazy fucktards.
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    Sep 14, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    Cant we all just get along? icon_cool.gificon_wink.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    MikkyB saidThat's a new one!!! I never found that offensive at all, people interpret phrases in different ways but this should not be mis-interpreted. "Laid back" can be described as relaxed, easy-going or cool.


    hahas judging by the responses many people see it in a negative light, but they're entitled to their own opinions.
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    Sep 14, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    I always thought 'laid back' = stoner
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    Sep 14, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    lookinforcars101 saidCant we all just get along? icon_cool.gificon_wink.gif


    Right?! icon_smile.gif free hugs!!! (>^-^)>
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    Sep 14, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    People who don't know me well sometimes consider me as "laid back" and I can only think to myself, ahh..if you really knew...
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    Sep 14, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 saidI always interpret it as meaning someone who doesn't get worried or flustered by minor or trivial problems.

    This is the intended meaning. But most guys use it to make themselves seem more appealing to others. You attract more flies with sugar than with vinegar, right? icon_biggrin.gif