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    Sep 14, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    Waking up this morning, fixing a cup of coffee, and looking out the window at the rain and wind and storm, knowing today is my ex wife's wedding to the guy i caught her cheating on me with.

    Her "perfect day" is a maelstrom of bad weather. I smile and crawl back into bed with my man and know that i'm happy with life.
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    Sep 14, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidWaking up this morning, fixing a cup of coffee, and looking out the window at the rain and wind and storm, knowing today is my ex wife's wedding to the guy i caught her cheating on me with.

    Her "perfect day" is a maelstrom of bad weather. I smile and crawl back into bed with my man and know that i'm happy with life.

    So the "misfortune" of others makes you happy? You're a very sad guy then.

    Note I say "misfortune" because it's really not. Imagine the wife who was married to a gay guy but somehow managed to find happiness again, do you think she will care there is a storm in her wedding day? Probably not.
  • disasterpiece

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    Sep 14, 2014 5:37 AM GMT
    Yeah, that's not really happiness.

    It's schadenfreude.

    Totally legit though.
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    Sep 14, 2014 1:32 PM GMT
    I know it's bitter and small of me to take a little bit of joy in her misfortune yesterday... but whatevs. I can't take the high road ALL the time... I'm only human.

    And thanks disasterpiece, "schadenfreude" is a much better word to use.

    At least I knew enough that, despite what music has taught me about rain on your wedding day, it's not really "ironic".

    For the record, smiling inside was a whole lot nicer than the first plan of me and my BF crashing the wedding wearing body-painted tuxedos.

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    Sep 14, 2014 2:02 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI know it's bitter and small of me to take a little bit of joy in her misfortune yesterday... but whatevs. I can't take the high road ALL the time... I'm only human.

    And thanks disasterpiece, "schadenfreude" is a much better word to use.

    At least I knew enough that, despite what music has taught me about rain on your wedding day, it's not really "ironic".

    For the record, smiling inside was a whole lot nicer than the first plan of me and my BF crashing the wedding wearing body-painted tuxedos.

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    don't worry about the user david, he's a troll who's very insecure about his weight and back hair so I guess when he sees someone as good looking as you, he gets a bit jelly :/
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    Sep 14, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI know it's bitter and small of me to take a little bit of joy in her misfortune yesterday... but whatevs. I can't take the high road ALL the time... I'm only human.

    And thanks disasterpiece, "schadenfreude" is a much better word to use.

    At least I knew enough that, despite what music has taught me about rain on your wedding day, it's not really "ironic".

    For the record, smiling inside was a whole lot nicer than the first plan of me and my BF crashing the wedding wearing body-painted tuxedos.


    David3K got this one.

    Being human or being a monster? Is your schadenfreude justified on even its own unevolved level of self-awareness if what you call cheating on her part was merely her finding satisfaction rightful to claim which you as a gay man in hiding stole from her life by your so-called commitment to her?

    Before you were hiding from being gay, and now you are avoiding the responsibility to be human and accept how others respond to you and your actions.

    From what I've read of your story, it sounds like what you call her cheating is what allowed you to be who you are. If that's true, then you owe her wedding not just your blessing but your thanks. Assuming of course, that what you are is your happiness.
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    Sep 14, 2014 2:38 PM GMT
    Happiness is forgiveness and moving on with your own happiness.icon_cool.gif
    I'm getting married in about 5 weeks and could care less if it's raining that day in Santa Fe. Real love does not depend on the weather.
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    Sep 14, 2014 2:42 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI know it's bitter and small of me to take a little bit of joy in her misfortune yesterday... but whatevs. I can't take the high road ALL the time... I'm only human.

    And thanks disasterpiece, "schadenfreude" is a much better word to use.

    At least I knew enough that, despite what music has taught me about rain on your wedding day, it's not really "ironic".

    For the record, smiling inside was a whole lot nicer than the first plan of me and my BF crashing the wedding wearing body-painted tuxedos.

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    Honestly curious, would you mind sharing more info about the whole situation? How come your ex wife is the villian instead of the victim here? Why do you dislike her so much? I know he cheated on you but you lied to her first getting married while you were gay, right?
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    Sep 14, 2014 2:47 PM GMT
    You obviously still haven't got pass all the drama what happened otherwise it would not bother you if it is raining or sunny
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    Sep 14, 2014 4:26 PM GMT
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    Sep 14, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    Jon (OP) -- Your profile says you're in a monogamous relationship now. So why waste psychic energy with begrudging your ex-wife a new start? In any event, better that you rant here on rj than that you spoil her day. Wishing you true happiness, much better than the schadenfreude variety.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    Guys, the OP is obviously joking. Calm your tits. It's funny how a guy that cheated on his wife is giving advice. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    Happiness is braking perfectly at the entrance (okay maybe locking up one tire briefly) and snatching the apex(es) on the dot(s) while timing your gears and revs so you rocket out the other side right in the sweet spot of the powerband.

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    Sep 14, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
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    Sep 14, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    No one knows what you may have gone through in your marriage with your ex-wife, and perhaps by all accounts, you have every right to feel like you do. That said, you were very fortunate to release yourself from a loveless marriage and find the love of your life which has brought you happiness and love beyond measure. All you can do now is wish the same for your ex-wife as you move forward with your soulmate icon_smile.gif

    wishing all of you a world of happiness, love and forgiveness.

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    Sep 14, 2014 9:37 PM GMT
    duluthrunner saidJon (OP) -- Your profile says you're in a monogamous relationship now. So why waste psychic energy with begrudging your ex-wife a new start? In any event, better that you rant here on rj than that you spoil her day. Wishing you true happiness, much better than the schadenfreude variety.

    OP is fake profile. So nothing to be concerned about here. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 10:36 PM GMT
    I have never had a life filled with happiness. It's very random as is the unhappiness. I think my main point would be that happiness is when you overcome the unhappiness. I mean there are happy moments even during the unhappy times but really I don't believe you choose either one.
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    Sep 14, 2014 10:49 PM GMT
    Happiness is.. knowing that you are loved by one, when the world turns it's back on you.

    Happiness is finally accepting yourself, and stop doing things to please others.

    is when truly the small things in life, seems like everything to you.

    If there is a god out there, I want to thank him, thank him for letting me experience these things especially at a young age.
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    Sep 14, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    Your cup of coffee was broken?
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    Sep 15, 2014 1:21 AM GMT
    Is a warm gun
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    Sep 15, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    Happiness is good sex icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 15, 2014 2:32 AM GMT
    Why do you keep in touch with her?
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    Sep 15, 2014 5:32 AM GMT
    Musclefitness_101 saidNo one knows what you may have gone through in your marriage with your ex-wife, and perhaps by all accounts, you have every right to feel like you do. That said, you were very fortunate to release yourself from a loveless marriage and find the love of your life which has brought you happiness and love beyond measure. All you can do now is wish the same for your ex-wife as you move forward with your soulmate icon_smile.gif

    wishing all of you a world of happiness, love and forgiveness.



    Very well written. +1
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    Sep 15, 2014 5:49 AM GMT
    For me happiness is made up of pleasure, engagement, and meaning. It involves both daily positive emotions and a global sense that life is worthwhile. People can accurately report their own levels of happiness, for me it is all about a question of perception...
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    Sep 15, 2014 9:13 AM GMT