For me it was at 38, late coming to the party sort of speak. I knew as a child I was different. I really did not know it until around 15 or 16 in the gym locker room when we were back in the States. I was born in South America, and lived almost all my life in Central and South America because of my Father's work. When then moved in the 80's to Florida. I was going to public school in Kendall, Florida and for the first time saw the guys in the shower after my physical education class. I was so memorized why guys muscular bodies from the football team and others about their bodies. However, coming from a Catholic background and later a Christian I struggled with my identity so I suppressed it for a long time. I then went to college in Northern Florida, and concentrated in finishing my studies and had fun along the way, but it surfaced again. At that time I continue to try to denied it and escape from it.
I then moved to S. California where I just accepted myself and little by little I came out first to myself and accepted who I was and that God loved me just they way I was. I then told some friends in S. California, as usual some have not accepted it, but this was fine with me. I then moved to N. California because of a job. I have been here for a couple of years have some gay friends and straight.
In terms of back to my family I have not told my mother in view of health reasons. She has a mental condition and would not accept it and make it worse. My father is up in his age and have not told him either, I think they know. To me is just a personal process, not an agenda of coming out. In terms of work, I have not I because I like to keep my personal work and private life separately. I learned in my early career that workers disguise as friends, can use your life events or issues to not promote you or retaliated in some manner, if you disclose about your life in the watercooler area or chatting. This is why I just do my job and try to keep very small talk about my life. It has worked very well for me and also it was very different time growing up for me. I am aware that things have changed, but for the latter other things remain the same.