Legally Changing My Name

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    Sep 14, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    So when I come out eventually I know that I will have backlash from my family so to make sure we don't have too much issues together I'm thinking about changing my last name (maybe first and middle too) to create some social/public distance. Is this something that seems like a good idea to you guys?
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    pazzy saiddon't. just tell them straight up.


    I wanted to do both, tell them straight up, and then change names.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:34 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy saiddon't. just tell them straight up.


    I wanted to do both, tell them straight up, and then change names.


    okay.. as long as you tell them. why change your name though simply because of them though?


    Them and I think it would be interesting to have a different name. icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    Even with a different name, you are still the same schmuck you always were. icon_wink.gif

    Or you could try becoming "Max Power".
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy saiddon't. just tell them straight up.


    I wanted to do both, tell them straight up, and then change names.


    okay.. as long as you tell them. why change your name though simply because of them though?


    Them and I think it would be interesting to have a different name. icon_redface.gif


    okay, cool. what name are you thinking about changing it to?


    I'm fond of the names Talon Fox, Soul Calibur lol, Spade Holiday, or Xylander Quasechelonar (dont ask where the middle name came from XD) Guard

    I wanna be unique lol
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:48 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy saiddon't. just tell them straight up.


    I wanted to do both, tell them straight up, and then change names.


    okay.. as long as you tell them. why change your name though simply because of them though?


    Them and I think it would be interesting to have a different name. icon_redface.gif


    okay, cool. what name are you thinking about changing it to?


    I'm fond of the names Talon Fox, Soul Calibur lol, Spade Holiday, or Xylander Quasechelonar (dont ask where the middle name came from XD) Guard

    I wanna be unique lol


    don't you think those names are a bit too unique though? talon fox sounds like a porn name.


    Some are a little out there but a few I made on my own some from a different culture, and 1 I stole from a video game. With Talon Fox I was going from something star like haha
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidEven with a different name, you are still the same schmuck you always were. icon_wink.gif

    Or you could try becoming "Max Power".


    LOL Max Power can mean many different things haha and I know I will always be me but this is just in case distancing myself can work for the best.
  • metta

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    Sep 14, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    It sounds like you could be trying to disown your family prematurely. Why not come out and give them time? If you still feel the same a few years later, then change your name.

    If you do decide to change your name, change it because you want to change it, not because of your family.
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    Sep 14, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy said
    Yakuza said
    pazzy saiddon't. just tell them straight up.


    I wanted to do both, tell them straight up, and then change names.


    okay.. as long as you tell them. why change your name though simply because of them though?


    Them and I think it would be interesting to have a different name. icon_redface.gif


    okay, cool. what name are you thinking about changing it to?


    I'm fond of the names Talon Fox, Soul Calibur lol, Spade Holiday, or Xylander Quasechelonar (dont ask where the middle name came from XD) Guard

    I wanna be unique lol


    don't you think those names are a bit too unique though? talon fox sounds like a porn name.


    Some are a little out there but a few I made on my own some from a different culture, and 1 I stole from a video game. With Talon Fox I was going from something star like haha



    yeah, i know soul caliber. for some reason, the video game starfox pops up with that talon fox name though.


    That's interesting I sure didn't see that coming haha but I'm still working on the names though. If they are needed.
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    Sep 14, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    metta8 saidIt sounds like you could be trying to disown your family prematurely. Why not come out and give them time? If you still feel the same a few years later, then change your name.

    If you do decide to change your name, change it because you want to change it, not because of your family.


    I don't want to disown my family but I don't want them to feel that my partial LGBT identity interferes with their homophobic societal expectations to whatever degree they have them. I feel that if my lifestyle shames theirs then I should disconnect and I do my things and they do their's. But that's only for the worst case scenario, but changing my name maybe a want but not all that necessary to me.
  • Danskerb

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    Sep 14, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    It sounds like a shitty situation if you NEED to change your name. Best of luck to you.
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    Sep 14, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    Danskerb saidIt sounds like a shitty situation if you NEED to change your name. Best of luck to you.


    Thanks Danskerb icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 15, 2014 3:58 PM GMT
    Very interesting topic.

    I actually entertained this idea due to the frosty relationship between my dad and I after I came out.

    I considered changing my name so that I wouldn't have anything to do with him but....honestly it wouldn't have changed anything the problems I had with my dad were more mental on my part than anything.

    Side note: My dad and I reconciled this past weekend before I left my home town so I think I'm going to change my middle name since I professionally go by an alias and I would prefer to have it as my legal name.

    Do whatever make you happy though!

    If you want to ever talk shoot me a message. Best of luck to ya!

  • FRE0

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    Sep 15, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    If you expect changing your name to improve your quality of life, you will be very disappointed unless the name you presently have has negative connotations. Everyone has occasionally been asked about his name. If you change your name and are asked about your name after changing it, will you feel comfortable telling them what your previous name was and why you changed it? It will happen if you change your name.
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
    Jar Jar. Easy to remember, easy to spell.
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    wtf? seriously wtf?
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Don't call yourself an unfortunate name like Phil McCracken or Drew Peacock whatever you do.
  • dc415

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    Sep 16, 2014 8:35 AM GMT
    wtf so you're going to say to your family "hey guess what i'm coming out of the closet right now, but don't worry i'm changing my name so you don't have to be associated with me"

    that's almost like going back into the closet all over again

    if they have issues with you doing dudes, that's their problem, not yours. THERE IS NOTHING SHAMEFUL ABOUT BEING GAY.

    that is all
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    Sep 16, 2014 11:09 AM GMT
    make it a cool name if you're going to change it icon_smile.gif