How did you feel when you were told you had HIV?

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    Sep 14, 2014 7:47 PM GMT
    I'm not infected but what was your reaction?
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    Sep 14, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    ColeMan69 saidI'm not infected but what was your reaction?


    It was in 1998 and I just sat in front of the nurse and cried. They immediately took me to a couselor. It was a very hard first year after that as I am Schizoaffective and went on a really bad trip and was thrown in the hospital by police a few times. It was crazy because I waited until I was twenty nine to delve into sex and I caught it that same year. What bothered me the most was my Health Science teacher taught us two or three years just prior that you only have a one percent chance of getting it but he did not say that it was as a high percentage in the gay community. I really didn't know what I was getting into.
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    Sep 15, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    Had a few near misses but managed to dodged the bullet icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 16, 2014 5:24 AM GMT
    Jerred said
    ColeMan69 saidI'm not infected but what was your reaction?


    It was in 1998 and I just sat in front of the nurse and cried. They immediately took me to a couselor. It was a very hard first year after that as I am Schizoaffective and went on a really bad trip and was thrown in the hospital by police a few times. It was crazy because I waited until I was twenty nine to delve into sex and I caught it that same year. What bothered me the most was my Health Science teacher taught us two or three years just prior that you only have a one percent chance of getting it but he did not say that it was as a high percentage in the gay community. I really didn't know what I was getting into.
    Your story breaks my heart because your teacher didn't seem to know the facts about the infection. Hopefully more teachers and guidance counselors have learned better so that they don't subject young people to the ignorance you identify here. I'm proud of how brave you have apparently dealt with this challenge. You rock as a person with your courage and using your intelligence to continue going on with life! Good for you.
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    Sep 16, 2014 5:41 AM GMT
    Shock, then acceptance.

    It was 1984.

    When I asked how long I could expect to live, the answer was "about 1 year".

    At the time it seemed like a death sentence. But that was 30 years ago. For me, what I think made the difference is that I did not give up on living. In fact, I made the effort to live a more full, purpose driven life from that day forward.

    So, to all the people out there who are not yet HIV positive, I urge you to consider "Prevention over Treatment" in regards to ANY STD and not just HIV.

    You don't have to have that moment in your life when you think it's all over.

    And, to all those out there who are HIV positive, know that it doesn't have to be a death sentence. I'm living proof positive that you can live a full, healthy, happy life with treatment.
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    Sep 18, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    I was nonplussed.

    I had already lost a previous BF to AIDS in 1984. Although I was just breaking up from a 3 year relationship in 1986, I wanted to know my status. But my chiropractor found swollen lymph nodes....so I wasn't surprised.

    My Dr. told me I had 3 years. So I fired him! Got a Doctor with a less cynical take on things. (Not that I blame him for being cynical....any Gay Doc could be in those days).

    So I sold my Hot Rod Mustang 5.0, bought a new Taurus and got my Real Estate license. I wasn't giving in at all. But in January 87 I cried all the way from San Diego to LA....my old BF from LA was dying. He was truly the love of my life.

    You live or you die. Make it count.
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    Sep 18, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidShock, then acceptance.

    It was 1984.

    When I asked how long I could expect to live, the answer was "about 1 year".


    That being said, this was back when we didn't yet realize that certain people can live for a decade or more before onset of full AIDS. I'm sure a lot of people were told they would die who did not, given that antiretroviral drugs were introduced only a few years after this.
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    Sep 19, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidShock, then acceptance.

    It was 1984.

    When I asked how long I could expect to live, the answer was "about 1 year".

    At the time it seemed like a death sentence. But that was 30 years ago. For me, what I think made the difference is that I did not give up on living. In fact, I made the effort to live a more full, purpose driven life from that day forward.

    So, to all the people out there who are not yet HIV positive, I urge you to consider "Prevention over Treatment" in regards to ANY STD and not just HIV.

    You don't have to have that moment in your life when you think it's all over.

    And, to all those out there who are HIV positive, know that it doesn't have to be a death sentence. I'm living proof positive that you can live a full, healthy, happy life with treatment.



    Wow, I was still in high school and I did not know anything about AIDS/HIV until I came to the mainland (USA) and in my senior year I had to do a report about the virus actually everyone in my class had to do the report.

    Love your positive out look in life.
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    Sep 19, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    You ARE a Troll MuchMoreTHanMuscle.... I had six years clean and sober when I caught HIV and I didn't go to bathhouses but two times after I caught HIV and I used protection. Plus you have already shown yourself to EVERYONE here that you are all about bareback sex EVEN WITH HIV.
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    Sep 19, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    Jerred saidYou ARE a Troll MuchMoreTHanMuscle.... I had six years clean and sober when I caught HIV and I didn't go to bathhouses but two times after I caught HIV and I used protection. Plus you have already shown yourself to EVERYONE here that you are all about bareback sex EVEN WITH HIV.


    Your argument with MMTM is what it is. But your last sentence is despicable.

    HIV...yes. But more importantly Undetectable. His partner is fully aware.


    CDC:
    In addition to the positive impact it can have on a person’s health and well-being, people who start and continue treatment are 96 percent less likely to transmit HIV to others. Treatment for health and prevention is a key element in CDC’s HIV prevention toolkit.

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/newsroom/2014/HIV-Treatment-Works-press-release.html


    An HIV person shaming another HIV person? Especially when it's at odds with medical science? Shameful.
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    Sep 19, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    Timmm55,

    BULLSHIT! It is shameful that he promotes bareback sex PERIOD!!! Take that lack of judgement to the grave with you.

    Let me guess, you support him because he's got a nice body... Sounds like it for you to EVEN put your foot down on my point. Sorry bud, lust don't cut it for me in this world anymore. And your THEORY on HIV transmission being low because of medicine is also nothing but PURE speculation still. THe medicine hardly affects what amount of virus is in the semen... The semen is actually one of it's hiding places. So your post is full of bullshit.
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    Sep 20, 2014 4:45 PM GMT
    Here is proof of what I just posted:

    http://www.thebodypro.com/content/68538/hiv-can-be-found-in-semen-even-when-viral-load-is-.html
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    Sep 20, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Jerred saidHere is proof of what I just posted:

    http://www.thebodypro.com/content/68538/hiv-can-be-found-in-semen-even-when-viral-load-is-.html


    Stuart/Sustenance, I'm fully aware of this.

    "That said, no study to date has identified a seminal viral load “threshold” at which HIV transmission becomes likely. Questions clearly remain about the links between HIV viral load, viral load in semen, and risk for HIV transmission in the setting of antiretroviral treatment."
    http://betablog.org/rapid-changes-possible-in-semen-viral-load/
    Yet no HIV/undetectable transmissions have occurred.

    Why is that? Is DNA HIV viral shedding a higher threshold? Is it a dead virus that is still detectable?
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    Sep 20, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
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    Jerred saidHere is proof of what I just posted:

    http://www.thebodypro.com/content/68538/hiv-can-be-found-in-semen-even-when-viral-load-is-.html


    Stuart/Sustenance, I'm fully aware of this.

    "That said, no study to date has identified a seminal viral load “threshold” at which HIV transmission becomes likely. Questions clearly remain about the links between HIV viral load, viral load in semen, and risk for HIV transmission in the setting of antiretroviral treatment."
    http://betablog.org/rapid-changes-possible-in-semen-viral-load/
    Yet no HIV/undetectable transmissions have occurred.

    Why is that? Is DNA HIV viral shedding a higher threshold? Is it a dead virus that is still detectable?


    A DEAD VIRUS??? Virus's aren't even living.
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    Sep 21, 2014 8:00 PM GMT
    Jerred said
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    Jerred saidHere is proof of what I just posted:

    http://www.thebodypro.com/content/68538/hiv-can-be-found-in-semen-even-when-viral-load-is-.html


    Stuart/Sustenance, I'm fully aware of this.

    "That said, no study to date has identified a seminal viral load “threshold” at which HIV transmission becomes likely. Questions clearly remain about the links between HIV viral load, viral load in semen, and risk for HIV transmission in the setting of antiretroviral treatment."
    http://betablog.org/rapid-changes-possible-in-semen-viral-load/
    Yet no HIV/undetectable transmissions have occurred.

    Why is that? Is DNA HIV viral shedding a higher threshold? Is it a dead virus that is still detectable?


    A DEAD VIRUS??? Virus's aren't even living.


    Really?
    Live virus vaccine vs. killed virus vaccine: What's the difference?
    http://childrenshospitalblog.org/live-virus-vaccine-vs-killed-virus-vaccine-whats-the-difference/

    It was a question. Why no transmissions in otherwise undetectable if semen has detectable levels?

    Here's a Q and A about detectable semen,

    "We know that people who have an undetectable viral load in the blood can sometimes have detectable (although lowered) levels of the virus in their other bodily fluids, including semen, vaginal fluid and rectal fluid. However, as you point out, the implications of this phenomenon for HIV transmission are not well defined.

    While some studies show that the viral load discordancy between blood and other bodily fluids is common, others suggest it is uncommon. Unfortunately, the PARTNER study didn’t monitor the viral load in the genital and rectal fluids, so we don’t know how common this phenomenon was among participants in the PARTNER study. This makes it difficult to come to any definitive conclusions. However, it’s very likely that at least some of the participants had detectable levels in their other bodily fluids, so it is reassuring to some extent that no HIV transmissions occurred."

    http://www.catie.ca/en/news/partner-study-conversation-james-wilton

    Perhaps semen detection needs to be done more often. It certainly needs to be studied.
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    Oct 05, 2014 5:03 PM GMT


    A DEAD VIRUS??? Virus's aren't even living.[/quote]Yes they are. Modern flu vaccines are done with dead virisis as the body acts apon them as they do to live ones and using dead keeps down the chance of getting flu sx apon vaccinatiion. The main reasin ppl skip the vaccinatiin when offered.
    How can a thing multiply if not alive?? Hmmmm?