My 11 years old niece "joked" about committing suicide

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    Sep 15, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    She said "it would be better if i was dead. I should take pills and OD, i just hope no one finds me before im dead" - It took me unprepared so I just bashed her like what the fuck are you saying, and the she laughed and left the room.

    So I told my brother in law about this but he dismissed the subject like my niece was just kidding, but Ive been thinking that ive read many news about teenagers who actually committed suicide.

    So what do you think? Should I do something? (I already told her that suicide is for pussies).
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    Sep 15, 2014 6:50 PM GMT
    Condemning people for being suicidal isn't going to help either. Sounds like she should see a therapist who deals with children and these types of issues.
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    Sep 15, 2014 6:52 PM GMT
    I don't think committing suicide is for 'pussies'. In terms of your niece, you probably have a better read on her than any of us. Did she seem like she was kidding? Does she have dark humor?
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    Sep 15, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    If I would have an uncle like that I would probably think about suicide as well
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    Sep 15, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    Tell her mom as well.
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    Sep 15, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    If i had you as an uncle, i'd wanna die too, so i cant blame her
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    Sep 15, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    Also nice name calling - suicide is for pussies, tell that to families who have lost someone because of a suicide
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:01 PM GMT
    Some kids think it's fun to be inappropriate but you should ask why she said it and say how sad you and the rest of her family would be if she did kill herself.
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    Ohno saidSome kids think it's fun to be inappropriate but you should ask why she said it and say how sad you and the rest of her family would be if she did kill herself.

    Yeah been thinking that I should tell her that right, Just in case
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:17 PM GMT
    Fiyero27 saidCondemning people for being suicidal isn't going to help either. Sounds like she should see a therapist who deals with children and these types of issues.



    Yep
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/recognizing-suicidal-behavior
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    For once kevex is posting something useful and not being his usual troll-self. Im gonna give that a read

    Edit: OK there are a couple things that could apply here but at the same time are normal for teenagers like changing appearance or want to be left alone. btw the last thing that article say is "Every threat of suicide should be taken seriously"
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:26 PM GMT
    She's probably just trying to act grown up but I'd talk to your sister. She really should talk to a therapist. That isn't normal.
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    David3K saidFor once kevex is posting something useful and not being his usual troll-self. Im gonna give that a read

    Edit: OK there are a couple things that could apply here but at the same time are normal for teenagers like changing appearance or want to be left alone. btw the last thing that article say is "Every threat of suicide should be taken seriously"


    those dont involve mentioning the word suicide in joking sense. not even.

    well, i would suggest looking into this and see how serious this is. (unless you're the kind of person like me who covers on the outside and even read up on things like this to avoid making symptoms back when i was depressed for a bit)
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
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    David3K saidFor once kevex is posting something useful and not being his usual troll-self. Im gonna give that a read

    Edit: OK there are a couple things that could apply here but at the same time are normal for teenagers like changing appearance or want to be left alone. btw the last thing that article say is "Every threat of suicide should be taken seriously"


    those dont involve mentioning the word suicide in joking sense. not even.

    well, i would suggest looking into this and see how serious this is. (unless you're the kind of person like me who covers on the outside and even read up on things like this to avoid making symptoms back when i was depressed for a bit)

    hm what? dont think i follow the last part, but yeah Ill look into this
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    jaroslav123 saidI tried to commit suicide multiple times (it's also not for pussies - you'd be surprised how fucking difficult it is to kill yourself - you have to be pretty determined psychologically to be "successful" at it).

    The way I got through those days was humour and very fucking dark humour.

    I tried to hang myself. Wrapped a belt round a curtain pole. Curtain pole fell down. My weight took the curtain pole off of the wall. My dad's shitty DIY saved my life. Fucking IKEA curtains. icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    funny
    why did you want to do it if it is not a secret?
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    Sep 15, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    jaroslav123 saidI tried to commit suicide multiple times (it's also not for pussies - you'd be surprised how fucking difficult it is to kill yourself - you have to be pretty determined psychologically to be "successful" at it).

    The way I got through those days was humour and very fucking dark humour.

    I tried to hang myself. Wrapped a belt round a curtain pole. Curtain pole fell down. My weight took the curtain pole off of the wall. My dad's shitty DIY saved my life. Fucking IKEA curtains. icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    Yeah my niece has a pretty dark humor too, now Im starting to get real worried. I wanna tell my sister but shes not in the city and if I text her telling her this she will freak out over nothing (because nothing really happened). So I might wait until she comes back to tell her
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    Sep 15, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    David3K said
    leafgreen said
    David3K saidFor once kevex is posting something useful and not being his usual troll-self. Im gonna give that a read

    Edit: OK there are a couple things that could apply here but at the same time are normal for teenagers like changing appearance or want to be left alone. btw the last thing that article say is "Every threat of suicide should be taken seriously"


    those dont involve mentioning the word suicide in joking sense. not even.

    well, i would suggest looking into this and see how serious this is. (unless you're the kind of person like me who covers on the outside and even read up on things like this to avoid making symptoms back when i was depressed for a bit)

    hm what? dont think i follow the last part, but yeah Ill look into this


    oh i was talking about myself icon_razz.gif

    there was a time i was kinda(?) depressed for being gay and i thought about suiciding but having watch too many mystery show i thought about making it look like an accident but i dont know enough science to make it happen
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    Sep 19, 2014 5:22 AM GMT
    No one jokes about committing suicide. You should be mindful of what your neice is saying to you. Sometimes children just want attention, but talk of suicide is not the normal way that teens, or children, attempt to get attention. That's usually a cry for attention on a much deeper level.
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    Sep 20, 2014 5:26 PM GMT
    During lunch the other day with a psychologist friend I mentioned this thread and she thought it odd that a child would bring up suicide. We even discussed how sometimes people might use the threat as leverage but 11 seems a bit young to use the concept of death as a bartering tool. It could also just be mimicry, but you don't know so you have to monitor that.

    And then just this morning I received a text from a friend now at the hospital to be near another one of our friends who last night attempted suicide with an overdose of pills. I've no other details yet.

    He's a real nice guy, very handsome too, I always liked him, but life has been beating the crap out of him lately. He suffered huge financial losses including his accounting job and his young wife who he put through medical school left him when she graduated and got a job.

    Our friend who is with him runs support groups so he's the perfect guy to be there now.
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    Sep 20, 2014 9:50 PM GMT
    Yay! Hold fast to your philosophy of letting those wishing to die, die!

    I can walk you to the edge of the cliff and I can pick up the pieces...everything in between is up to you....

    So nice for when first 10-year was for all intents and purposes, suicidal. Way to go, big guy!
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    Sep 21, 2014 12:09 AM GMT
    David3K saidMy 11 years old niece "joked" about committing suicide
    I would too if I were your niece.
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    Sep 21, 2014 1:42 AM GMT
    theantijock saidDuring lunch the other day with a psychologist friend I mentioned this thread and she thought it odd that a child would bring up suicide. We even discussed how sometimes people might use the threat as leverage but 11 seems a bit young to use the concept of death as a bartering tool. It could also just be mimicry, but you don't know so you have to monitor that.

    And then just this morning I received a text from a friend now at the hospital to be near another one of our friends who last night attempted suicide with an overdose of pills. I've no other details yet.

    He's a real nice guy, very handsome too, I always liked him, but life has been beating the crap out of him lately. He suffered huge financial losses including his accounting job and his young wife who he put through medical school left him when she graduated and got a job.

    Our friend who is with him runs support groups so he's the perfect guy to be there now.

    Its cool you brought this up with your psychologist friend and thank you for telling me what she said.
    I will certainly keep an eye on her.
    And sorry about your friend. Suicides are the worst kind of things because people that do it think its better for them and many times think the rest will be better without them (of course its not true but thats what they feel when they do it) its a true tragedy.
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    Sep 21, 2014 1:45 AM GMT
    bon_pan saidYay! Hold fast to your philosophy of letting those wishing to die, die!

    I can walk you to the edge of the cliff and I can pick up the pieces...everything in between is up to you....

    So nice for when first 10-year was for all intents and purposes, suicidal. Way to go, big guy!

    what philosophy are you talking about motherfucker? its my 11 yo niece here, have some respect.
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    Sep 21, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    David3K saidMy 11 years old niece "joked" about committing suicide
    I would too if I were your niece.


    This is the 3rd time I get the same joke in this thread, LOL. Truth is Im an awesome uncle and will be a better dad icon_cool.gif