MartyredNeons saidHonestly enough with this whole white pedestal!
We get it.
Gay men and general society populated within white dominated countries value Caucasians over other races.
There it's been said.
Who gives a shit any more, it's not as if it's going to change in this generation and perhaps not even in the next one too.
Let them be attracted to whatever they find attractive and be done with it.
Just take it with a grain of salt and refocus your attention on other things besides white guys.
The fact that someone would act intimidated or nervous in front of a guy for being white will only just further inflate the egos of those who really do believe in white superiority.
Everyone in society will be measured to some general standard of attractiveness. Some will be higher up the line and some will be lower down the line; for whatever the reason may be. I think of it more factually as opposed to personally.
I've accepted my place and now that it's not something that bothers me any more, I can dedicate my time doing things I enjoy and that are positive.
They probably said the same thing about desegregation, interracial marriage, etc. If you had told me in 2002 (mind you I was 14) that gay marriage would be legal in nearly half the country, I would have laughed and walked away.
Of course, these analogies are not entirely apt, but at their base they hold up: these ideologies changed in a short amount of time with enough awareness, activism, and back and forth dialogue. I don't think "de-colonizing" the sexual desires of gay men should be a primary focus, but challenging racism and/or prejudice in the somewhat self contained world of the gay community, along with emphasizing "inclusion", might just yield some interesting societal changes in ten years.
All I'm saying is, you never know.
I get what you're trying to say but the basic gist of what we are talking about is trying to convince white people to be attracted to other races.
Attraction has nothing to do with respect.
A white person may be happy to work with, be friends with, associate with another race but that doesn't mean therefore they should also find that particular race sexually attractive.
People will like what they like but just because someone isn't attracted to you isn't disrespectful.
If they felt you deserved less opportunity or rights because of your race then yes that's racist and disrespectful.
If they don't want to sleep with you because they aren't attracted to you, then it's not racism or disrespectful, it's choice.