An question to non white men

  • Matthew56

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    Sep 16, 2014 12:28 PM GMT
    Are some of you intimidated and scared/nervous to approach white men that are good looking because you believe or think that you will get rejected as non white men(the ones who are not Caucasiod) are not considered to be as beautiful in the gay world and also you will most likely interpret a rejection from a white men as down to racial reasons even though it may probably be not racial related and makes you feel ugly

    Just curious
  • vhotti26

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    Sep 16, 2014 12:52 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidas non white men(the ones who are not Caucasiod) are not considered to be as beautiful in the gay world


    When did that evolve? Last time I checked many gays fetishized black guys. I think you are the one being racist here by tracking down your insecurity to racial reasons when really it's just a matter of personal preference. I've never rejected anyone just for his ethnicity. If anyone does, just let it go and go on with your life; he's the jerk, not you.
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    Sep 16, 2014 1:09 PM GMT
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  • xBEHEMOTHx

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    Sep 16, 2014 1:28 PM GMT
    Nope never intimidated.. I've had many white boys even the ones who don't like black guys..so no can't say I have
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    Sep 16, 2014 3:14 PM GMT
    many white men have called me beautiful, and that word in particular, never hot, but for some reason beautiful. I take it with a grain of salt and just say thank you, and move on. So, no I do not find white men intimidating at all.
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    Sep 16, 2014 3:31 PM GMT
    I'm intimidated to approach any good looking man in general. But since I'm not really attracted to black or Asian men, I've rarely approached or been rejected by them.

    I have been rejected (mostly online) by attractive white and Latin men. It sucks every time but I quickly get over with...
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    Sep 16, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidAre some of you intimidated and scared/nervous to approach white men that are good looking because you believe or think that you will get rejected


    Nope!!

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    Sep 16, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
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  • Inque

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    Sep 16, 2014 4:00 PM GMT
    Yeah pretty much so I just act like a bitch from the jump
  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 17, 2014 1:11 AM GMT
    I've mostly been with "white" and black men, "white" meaning ethnic white (Greek, Italian, Russian, French, otherwise non-American). I don't think I've ever been with a regular old American WASP male, and that's because at times I don't think I could relate to someone from that background. So yeah, I guess I am a little intimidated some times, but usually after talking to white guys, any anxieties I had are proven to have been quite stupid.

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    Sep 17, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    In general, I don't approach guys period, but when I do, I don't worry about race and just give it a try. I pretty much only attract white or Hispanic men, anyway, but I don't have a preference, but my pool is limited based on who approaches me most.
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    Sep 17, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    The question should be: Why would they be scared?
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    Sep 17, 2014 1:27 AM GMT
    I'm intimidated by all good looking guys, but I don't approach white guys because I don't want them to reject me for racial reasons. Also I don't approach any man until I know I look good enough.
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    Sep 17, 2014 3:47 AM GMT
    Not at all! My 2nd ex was a good looking, intelligent white guy. He stole my heart and broke it at the same time……asshole!!
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    Sep 17, 2014 3:57 AM GMT
    Gotta respond to this even though I am white.

    BACK IN THE DAY... all I knew was I found every race interesting when it came to sex.

    Blacks in particular (and I can't believe I am saying this) I loved when they sweat because their body shined better than any white man I have ever seen. I mean it fucking glistened. Man was I into that. Just have to express that.

    And for the record I haven't done sex in many years because I grew past the obsession or need.
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    Sep 17, 2014 4:32 AM GMT
    vhotti26 said
    Matthew56 saidas non white men(the ones who are not Caucasiod) are not considered to be as beautiful in the gay world


    When did that evolve? Last time I checked many gays fetishized black guys. I think you are the one being racist here by tracking down your insecurity to racial reasons when really it's just a matter of personal preference. I've never rejected anyone just for his ethnicity. If anyone does, just let it go and go on with your life; he's the jerk, not you.


    This x 1000

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    Sep 17, 2014 4:47 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidAre some of you intimidated and scared/nervous to approach white men that are good looking because you believe or think that you will get rejected as non white men(the ones who are not Caucasiod) are not considered to be as beautiful in the gay world and also you will most likely interpret a rejection from a white men as down to racial reasons even though it may probably be not racial related and makes you feel ugly

    Just curious
    Interesting question. Is your principle attraction only to white guys or non-black guys? If your answer is yes then you should probably examine yourself. Most white guys are not normally attracted to black guys. In fact, many of them find the thought of such a thing gross, disgusting, or offensive. So you probably have some other issues going on that you need to look in to I would imagine. But I don't know you personally so I'm just shooting darts in the dark here. I hope I contributed to answering your dilemma a little.
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    Sep 17, 2014 4:53 AM GMT
    Racism is the last thing that goes through my mind when i approach white guys, although Ive encountered many dark guys that preferred white guys over me and I was like Oh hell naww!!!!! and I was hotter than them to begin with, thats the part that always gets me.
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    Sep 17, 2014 5:02 AM GMT
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    Matthew56 saidAre some of you intimidated and scared/nervous to approach white men that are good looking because you believe or think that you will get rejected as non white men(the ones who are not Caucasiod) are not considered to be as beautiful in the gay world and also you will most likely interpret a rejection from a white men as down to racial reasons even though it may probably be not racial related and makes you feel ugly

    Just curious
    Interesting question. Is your principle attraction only to white guys or non-black guys? If your answer is yes then you should probably examine yourself. Most white guys are not normally attracted to black guys. In fact, many of them find the thought of such a thing gross, disgusting, or offensive. So you probably have some other issues going on that you need to look in to I would imagine. But I don't know you personally so I'm just shooting darts in the dark here. I hope I contributed to answering your dilemma a little.


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    "Most white guys are not normally attracted to black guys. In fact, many of them find the thought of such a thing gross..."

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  • Matthew56

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    Sep 17, 2014 6:58 AM GMT
    kevex saidThe question should be: Why would they be scared?


    Because as I said the fear of getting rejecting on something they cannot control I.e. race if a white man gets rejected because of their race I guess it does not sting as much given that white men are considered to be highly desireable in the gay community
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    Sep 17, 2014 9:38 AM GMT
    Honestly enough with this whole white pedestal!
    We get it.
    Gay men and general society populated within white dominated countries value Caucasians over other races.
    There it's been said.
    Who gives a shit any more, it's not as if it's going to change in this generation and perhaps not even in the next one too.
    Let them be attracted to whatever they find attractive and be done with it.

    Just take it with a grain of salt and refocus your attention on other things besides white guys.
    The fact that someone would act intimidated or nervous in front of a guy for being white will only just further inflate the egos of those who really do believe in white superiority.

    Everyone in society will be measured to some general standard of attractiveness. Some will be higher up the line and some will be lower down the line; for whatever the reason may be. I think of it more factually as opposed to personally.
    I've accepted my place and now that it's not something that bothers me any more, I can dedicate my time doing things I enjoy and that are positive.
  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 17, 2014 10:19 AM GMT
    MartyredNeons saidHonestly enough with this whole white pedestal!
    We get it.
    Gay men and general society populated within white dominated countries value Caucasians over other races.
    There it's been said.
    Who gives a shit any more, it's not as if it's going to change in this generation and perhaps not even in the next one too.
    Let them be attracted to whatever they find attractive and be done with it.

    Just take it with a grain of salt and refocus your attention on other things besides white guys.
    The fact that someone would act intimidated or nervous in front of a guy for being white will only just further inflate the egos of those who really do believe in white superiority.

    Everyone in society will be measured to some general standard of attractiveness. Some will be higher up the line and some will be lower down the line; for whatever the reason may be. I think of it more factually as opposed to personally.
    I've accepted my place and now that it's not something that bothers me any more, I can dedicate my time doing things I enjoy and that are positive.


    They probably said the same thing about desegregation, interracial marriage, etc. If you had told me in 2002 (mind you I was 14) that gay marriage would be legal in nearly half the country, I would have laughed and walked away.

    Of course, these analogies are not entirely apt, but at their base they hold up: these ideologies changed in a short amount of time with enough awareness, activism, and back and forth dialogue. I don't think "de-colonizing" the sexual desires of gay men should be a primary focus, but challenging racism and/or prejudice in the somewhat self contained world of the gay community, along with emphasizing "inclusion", might just yield some interesting societal changes in ten years.

    All I'm saying is, you never know.
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    Sep 17, 2014 11:44 AM GMT
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    MartyredNeons saidHonestly enough with this whole white pedestal!
    We get it.
    Gay men and general society populated within white dominated countries value Caucasians over other races.
    There it's been said.
    Who gives a shit any more, it's not as if it's going to change in this generation and perhaps not even in the next one too.
    Let them be attracted to whatever they find attractive and be done with it.

    Just take it with a grain of salt and refocus your attention on other things besides white guys.
    The fact that someone would act intimidated or nervous in front of a guy for being white will only just further inflate the egos of those who really do believe in white superiority.

    Everyone in society will be measured to some general standard of attractiveness. Some will be higher up the line and some will be lower down the line; for whatever the reason may be. I think of it more factually as opposed to personally.
    I've accepted my place and now that it's not something that bothers me any more, I can dedicate my time doing things I enjoy and that are positive.


    They probably said the same thing about desegregation, interracial marriage, etc. If you had told me in 2002 (mind you I was 14) that gay marriage would be legal in nearly half the country, I would have laughed and walked away.

    Of course, these analogies are not entirely apt, but at their base they hold up: these ideologies changed in a short amount of time with enough awareness, activism, and back and forth dialogue. I don't think "de-colonizing" the sexual desires of gay men should be a primary focus, but challenging racism and/or prejudice in the somewhat self contained world of the gay community, along with emphasizing "inclusion", might just yield some interesting societal changes in ten years.

    All I'm saying is, you never know.


    I get what you're trying to say but the basic gist of what we are talking about is trying to convince white people to be attracted to other races.
    Attraction has nothing to do with respect.
    A white person may be happy to work with, be friends with, associate with another race but that doesn't mean therefore they should also find that particular race sexually attractive.

    People will like what they like but just because someone isn't attracted to you isn't disrespectful.
    If they felt you deserved less opportunity or rights because of your race then yes that's racist and disrespectful.
    If they don't want to sleep with you because they aren't attracted to you, then it's not racism or disrespectful, it's choice.
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    Sep 17, 2014 11:48 AM GMT
    Why would they be scared? This thread is very ignorant.
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    Sep 17, 2014 12:29 PM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    kevex saidThe question should be: Why would they be scared?


    Because as I said the fear of getting rejecting on something they cannot control I.e. race if a white man gets rejected because of their race I guess it does not sting as much given that white men are considered to be highly desireable in the gay community



    What makes you think all white gay men will reject non-whites?