xBEHEMOTHx saidSomething isnt right..I tell you something isn't right!! If he isn't cheating now he will be soon
so do i confront him about this? and how? i know if i do he's going to flip his shit and say that i'm spying on him -- which i'm not.
Of course you should speak to him about it. You and he need to come to an understanding. Perhaps he doesn't see it as cheating, perhaps he isn't aware that you know. You have to make your feelings known or else it will fester. Get it out in the open so that you have the information that you need, then you can make the best decision for yourself that you can live with.
i don't know how to bring it up to him or what to even say without him getting pissed off at me -- he doesn't communicate very well and gets very confrontational when challenged. he will think that i am spying on him and betraying his privacy. is there a way to subtly bring it up you think?
You sounds like a battered housewife. Why should you alter how you express your feelings because HE can't communicate like an adult? It sounds like you've put your needs as subservient to his, which never ends well. You had better put your pants back on.
However, forgetting about this imbalance for a minute, you have left many things out. First of all, does he know you're on RealJock? This is much more of a dating/hookup site than Instagram. Double standards are poisonous to any relationship. Also, have you agreed to monogamy? If so, have you set boundaries within this monogamous relationship?