Is your being "outside the stereotype" a conscious effort?

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    Jan 14, 2009 8:43 AM GMT
    DISCLAIMER: The OP predicts the subject line will be misconstrued yet again.
    Anyway, I have been reading a lot of guys here claiming that they do not, in any way, fall into the "gay stereotype". I just want to know is this a conscious effort on your part (perhaps for closeted reasons, profession, religion, etc.)?
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    Jan 14, 2009 8:49 AM GMT
    I'm a gay stereotype because I console my unstable emotions deeply rooted in a repressed childhood by engaging in constant sexual gratification with various men.

    Am I the win?
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    Jan 14, 2009 8:53 AM GMT
    Just a C-

    Next!!!
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jan 14, 2009 8:53 AM GMT
    Being gay is only a small part of what I am. It alone does not define me anymore than does playing sports, my height and weight or my age.
    I do not pay attention to gay stereotypes so I don't try to be one thing or another.
    Perhaps by definition that puts me AND most of the men on this site outside the stereotypical gay man but let's see what others say.
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    Jan 14, 2009 8:54 AM GMT
    FBfugitive saidJust a C-

    Next!!!


    LIES!

    Admit it I make you wet yourself.
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    Jan 14, 2009 9:21 AM GMT
    jakebenson saidAdmit it I make you wet yourself.

    Yah... from laffing in tears.

    TallGWMvballer saidI do not pay attention to gay stereotypes so I don't try to be one thing or another.

    BINGO!!! Now back to the queschun: Is this a conscious effort?
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    Jan 14, 2009 10:11 AM GMT
    No.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 14, 2009 10:45 AM GMT
    On the whole no

    ... but then again there are certain parts of me that actually DO fit the stereotype
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    Jan 14, 2009 10:49 AM GMT
    SurrealLife saidNo.

    How so?
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    Jan 14, 2009 1:15 PM GMT
    FBfugitive said a lot of guys here claiming that they do not, in any way, fall into the "gay stereotype"... is this a conscious effort on your part (perhaps for closeted reasons, profession, religion, etc.)?


    No. I've lived my life as I've wanted to without caring whether the results were stereotypical or not. The subject comes up only in the form of teasing among friends, e.g., whose car is the gayest (the BMW 3 series!).

    I was much more concerned about avoiding the stereotypes during the coming-out process. My first contact in college was with someone who was pretty flamboyant and I feared that self-defining as gay meant adopting that persona. For about 5 years afterwards I tried to be as unlike him as possible. Since then it's not been an issue.
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    Jan 14, 2009 1:17 PM GMT
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    SurrealLife saidNo.

    How so?


    If I could tell how so then it would be a conscious effort. I honetly don't self monitor my behaviour, I am too busy living.

  • Jan 14, 2009 1:26 PM GMT
    The Gay Stereotype = what most of america see on TV and what they get through the media.

    We all come in different shapes, sizes, and colors. Some peoples "flames" burn stronger than others. That doesn't make them less gay.

    It's just annoying to see the phrase "Str8-acting". If your sucking cock that's not really "Str8-acting".

    I say just be yourself.

    There are tons of very masculine, athlethic (meaning plays sports) gay men out there and that is one of the reasons for this site ...

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    Jan 14, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    A stereotype is just that, a stereotype.

    When I look at myself and my friends I see so many different kinds of people. I have one friend who is a hardcore bodybuilder/trainer, one who is a comupter geek, one who is like the little latin queen, one who is the partier, etc.

    I don't think there is a gay stereotype. We all are who we are. Well I would hope that most people would at least try to be themselves. I know I do!
  • Timbales

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    Jan 14, 2009 2:02 PM GMT
    I make a conscious effort to try and be myself and not succumb to cultural expectations.
  • MattyC0709

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    Jan 14, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    Dunno... my friends say I don't look it at all, they wouldn't have guessed. Other than wanting to date guys and having no stimulation whatsoever from the size of breasts, nothing tips off my sexuality.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    I am the stereotype, massively and grotesquely. Revile me, won't you? It makes me feel dirty
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    I am who I am.... what you see is what you get.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    I am first and foremost a GAY man. I embrace my gayness....I wouldn't want to be any other way.....even if given the choice.....

    However, I've never (according to my friends and family) ever fit the exact gay stereotype.....I was telling some friends of mine over the weekend how my Mom, to this day says...."I don't understand it....you have always been "all boy"!

    I laugh about that when she says it.....

    Then, one of my friends said....."she hasn't seen him walk down a flight of stairs holding his pant legs like they're a skirt".icon_biggrin.gif

    My opinion, we all fit some sort of stereotype......I don't think too much about it to be honest.....I think when gay men tend to point out over and over their lack of "gay ness" or their "straight-acting" ways....well, I think...."somebody has issues!".

    But....whateva....
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:24 PM GMT

    No conscious effort.
  • cowboyathlete

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    Jan 14, 2009 2:25 PM GMT
    FBfugitive saidDISCLAIMER: The OP predicts the subject line will be misconstrued yet again.
    Anyway, I have been reading a lot of guys here claiming that they do not, in any way, fall into the "gay stereotype". I just want to know is this a conscious effort on your part (perhaps for closeted reasons, profession, religion, etc.)?
    Of course not. That would mean the stereotype is still controlling me. I have never followed fads or "in group" rules. I just do and act in a way that seems natural for me. The only "designer labels" I wear have names like Wrangler, Montana, and Panhandle Slim. I am who I am.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    More than a concious effort, it's a misperception. The phrase "we are our own worst critic" doesn't mean we're too harsh on ourselves. It means it's impossible to be objective. Most of you guys who look in the mirror and see Rambo would see Bernadette Peters if you squinted your eyes just a little.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:40 PM GMT
    no effort
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:42 PM GMT
    No, it should just be you being yourself.
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    Jan 14, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    I quit trying to be someone else over 20 years ago.

    Now I don't think twice about listening to opera while I'm working on my car.
  • DiverScience

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    Jan 14, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    Nope. But that's because in some ways I meet the stereotype and other ways I break it. It would take me waaaaay too much thought and energy to *either* specifically meet or break stereotypes all the time. So I don't bother. I just live. It's easier.