Guys checking Grindr on a date

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    Sep 21, 2014 12:29 AM GMT
    So I went out with this guy tonight and the whole time he kept checking grindr on his i phone. How f***ing disrespectful is that ?

    I didn't confront him about it because I was nervous and awkward as it was, but my god, can't there be even a little hint of romance anymore when you go out with a guy ?

    Even if he didn't like me, couldn't he think of some excuse to leave before checking out which guy he was gonna sleep with that night.

    Dating sucks.

    Rant over.
  • Webster666

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    Sep 21, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    That's shocking.
    You were way too kind to him.
    Next time, just get up and leave, telling him, "Obviously, you've got more important things to do."

  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Sep 21, 2014 1:39 AM GMT
    I would never check Grindr on a date. I try to not use my phone during an entire date either.
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    Sep 21, 2014 1:45 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidSo I went out with this guy tonight and the whole time he kept checking grindr on his i phone. How f***ing disrespectful is that ?

    I didn't confront him about it because I was nervous and awkward as it was, but my god, can't there be even a little hint of romance anymore when you go out with a guy ?

    Even if he didn't like me, couldn't he think of some excuse to leave before checking out which guy he was gonna sleep with that night.

    Dating sucks.

    Rant over.
    You don't have abs. Other guys on Grindr do. Can you blame him?
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:11 AM GMT
    Honestly think of it as this guy doing you a favour.
    The fact that even on a date he can't focus his attention on you just means he'd most likely turn out to be one of those pricks that string people along in a relationship until he finds the next best thing.
    As soon as that happens, at the drop of a hat he's not into you any more.

    If he was expecting some kind of important call or text (i.e. family emergencies, call back for a job etc) the courteous thing to do is at least excuse yourself, which by the sounds of it he didn't do at all.
    Don't even bother wasting your time on guys like this.
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:14 AM GMT
    Where are your balls dude? I would have told that fuktard off so quick and left his sorry ass there.
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:39 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Saad22 saidSo I went out with this guy tonight and the whole time he kept checking grindr on his i phone. How f***ing disrespectful is that ?

    I didn't confront him about it because I was nervous and awkward as it was, but my god, can't there be even a little hint of romance anymore when you go out with a guy ?

    Even if he didn't like me, couldn't he think of some excuse to leave before checking out which guy he was gonna sleep with that night.

    Dating sucks.

    Rant over.
    You don't have abs. Other guys on Grindr do. Can you blame him?


    Seriously? Just kick him while he's down why don't you??

    Saaad...I am sorry for that people are really shallow these days.

    Anyway, move on; that guy was too in too himself and seemed like a real jackass, if he didn't disrespect you on your date, you would have learned his real true colors later.
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:54 AM GMT
    That's sad, turn the cell off during dates and focus on the person across from you is my motto. icon_rolleyes.gif Consider it a dodged bullet.

    I recently went to a gay bar here in NYC to check it out after a few years of having not been in one... 1/2 the guys were staring down at their phones. I had to ask the bartender (and strike up a conversation with him since he was cute) I was curious what was up, "So everyone seems addicted to their phones these days"

    He just said: "Yeah, they're all on Grinder looking for guys" Seriously? And inside the bar at that.

    This is part of a larger issue that I could go on a rant about but I'll just say a lot of people seem to be unable to turn their phones off these days without having an anxiety attack.
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    Sep 21, 2014 4:35 AM GMT
    checking your cell phone during a date is a no-no imo, grindr just warrants him a punch.
  • buddycat

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    Sep 21, 2014 8:32 AM GMT
    He was obviously more interested in the guys on Grindr than the guy across from him so move on.
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    Sep 21, 2014 9:08 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Saad22 saidSo I went out with this guy tonight and the whole time he kept checking grindr on his i phone. How f***ing disrespectful is that ?

    I didn't confront him about it because I was nervous and awkward as it was, but my god, can't there be even a little hint of romance anymore when you go out with a guy ?

    Even if he didn't like me, couldn't he think of some excuse to leave before checking out which guy he was gonna sleep with that night.

    Dating sucks.

    Rant over.
    You don't have abs. Other guys on Grindr do. Can you blame him?


    lol guess I better get to work then
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    Sep 21, 2014 9:15 AM GMT
    Ive had this before where ive been on a date with a guy and his phone rung and then he decided to have a full on convo with the person calling. Its bad enough when their phone rings but to act on it is downright disrespectful icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 21, 2014 9:41 AM GMT
    On a date, using phone in itself is a big deal-breaker, unless it's an emergency situation. I try not to use my phone at all. You should have left once you saw him using grindr.
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    Sep 21, 2014 11:42 AM GMT
    Go on it yourself and message him a picture of lemonparty or something like that
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    Sep 21, 2014 11:46 AM GMT
    Lol omg...

    I'm glad I don't own a phone so I can never embarrass myself like that...


    Q-Q for you.
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    Sep 21, 2014 1:37 PM GMT
    I would have clocked it...

    I've had it happen to me before... when i go on dates.. I turn the apps off and disable them...


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    Sep 21, 2014 1:50 PM GMT
    Some people are so disrespectful !

    I would have thrown a drink over him !!

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  • Kinneticbrian

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    Sep 21, 2014 1:55 PM GMT
    Though decency, respect, manners and authenticity may be going out the window, they're certainly not going out of style.

    I've had this happen as well, not with a date on Grindr, but one who felt the need to constantly text his friends while we were at dinner. I said nothing, and just enjoyed myself in spite of him. Instead, I focused on the food, and thought of how much work had gone into making such a nice dinner. The server was working hard, and someone had to think of the restaurant and then take the risk to make it real. In considering that, he and his texting somehow seemed very sad, small, rude and shallow.

    I paid the bill and asked if he had enjoyed himself. He said something to the effect of "I thought we were going to do something after dinner". I just smiled and told him that clearly he was far too busy for a date, and that I wouldn't want to keep him from his agenda.

    The reality is - whether it's Grindr or text, the one who you're responding to is who you're on a date with. (Paraphrase from The Devil Wears Prada)

    Be encouraged though, if you feel and act the way you do, there are other guys who believe and behave similarly. When you stop loathing dating and begin enjoying the journey, you find them. I've had awful dates - we all have. But sometimes bad dates are a glimpse of what we don't want or need in our lives.

    So you met a guy who was immature, unmannered, self-centered and rude. I believe the majority of guys aren't that way. We all take the trip through life. Whether we enjoy it or not is up to us.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Sep 21, 2014 2:19 PM GMT
    Wait details are missing here

    Where do you go and how did you see he was checking Grindr? Did he make it that obvious?
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    Sep 21, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    Just plain ignorant, even when i was out with friends i never hardly take my phone out of my pocket, plus i have it on silent too.
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    Sep 21, 2014 2:34 PM GMT
    Kinneticbrian said
    I paid the bill and asked if he had enjoyed himself. He said something to the effect of "I thought we were going to do something after dinner". I just smiled and told him that clearly he was far too busy for a date, and that I wouldn't want to keep him from his agenda.

    The reality is - whether it's Grindr or text, the one who you're responding to is who you're on a date with. (Paraphrase from The Devil Wears Prada)

    Exactly what the OP should have done, although perhaps even earlier.

    I'm even more devious. I used to keep my phone turned on during a date. Then when it rang, and I hoped it did, I'd take it out and apologize for "forgetting" to silence it. I'd mute it without even looking at the screen and put it back in my pocket. Now THAT would impress a guy.
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    Sep 21, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
    Gawd, what kind of message does that send? "You're interesting enough to sit across from me, while I try to find someone hotter."

    At least you know at the outset, the guy isn't worth your time.
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    Sep 21, 2014 2:38 PM GMT
    well that was rude. Wtf is wrong with people.
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:20 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidSo I went out with this guy tonight and the whole time he kept checking grindr on his i phone. How f***ing disrespectful is that ?

    I didn't confront him about it because I was nervous and awkward as it was, but my god, can't there be even a little hint of romance anymore when you go out with a guy ?

    Even if he didn't like me, couldn't he think of some excuse to leave before checking out which guy he was gonna sleep with that night.

    Dating sucks.

    Rant over.


    His way to tell you, you were boring him and he wasn't in to you. Just don't understand why you didn't cut the date short.
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    Sep 21, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    Lol guess he's very rude, I'd say something like. ..dude, im ending the date so u can jo with those guys on grindr.