How much would YOU pay... for a CUDDLE?

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    Sep 21, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    I know this looks a tad trifling on the surface...

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    http://www.businessinsider.com/professional-cuddler-2014-7

    ...but I say, if there's a market for it, go for it!

    Business Insider"Let's hold hands and cuddle up on the couch, or listen to some soft music while we curl up in your bed — I am happy to be the big spoon or the little spoon."

    This is one of the first things you'll read when you visit Samantha Hess' website, Cuddle Up To Me.

    At the age of 30, Hess is a professional cuddler. For $60 an hour, she'll intimately snuggle with strangers of all types, and bring them one-on-one cuddle time without the complications of a relationship.

    The idea came to her in 2012, when she read an article about a guy with a "Free Hugs" sign at a local Saturday market. Another man stood next to him with a "Deluxe hugs, $2" sign, and ended up getting more hugs than the first guy.


    Business InsiderCurrently, professional cuddling is her only job, and Hess says she is making far more money from this business than she did in her previous jobs as a customer service representative or personal trainer.

    "It's definitely enough to make a living just doing this job, and I never need to take more than five sessions a day," she says. By working six days a week, Hess can make up to $7,200 in a month.

    About 90% of her clients are men between the ages of 20 and 75, and she says many suffer from severe traumatic diseases or disabilities that prevent them from having frequent human contact.

    "I call my service a 'massage for the mind,'" Hess says. "It's meant to rejuvenate you and make you feel that openness and happiness in your brain by resetting your system from top to bottom."


    I think it's awesome. Escorts have probably been offering this all along... just not exclusively. I'd be more inclined to get a comfy pillow or something, but for human contact I can imagine there's a lot of buyers out there. It's like high-class hookering but without the sex.

    Business InsiderWhat makes her service so great? Hess loves each and every one of her clients with a "human grace." "It's about being able to genuinely look anyone in the eye and make them feel loved and accepted exactly as they are," she says. "My clients know that I don't judge them at all; I just accept people." She treats everyone like her family, no matter who they are.

    Plus, Hess will go almost anywhere for a cuddle session, whether it's a love seat in a movie theatre, local park, or their bedroom. What's most important to her is keeping her client comfortable. She has pre-arranged cuddle mixes and meditation music to set the mood. Hess will even wear make-up, a certain color of clothing, or specific hairstyle if her clients request it.


    Business InsiderAlthough rewarding, Hess' work doesn't come without challenges. "It can be a little tough, because my clients get extremely attached to me," she says. One gave her a physical key to their heart. "It was the sweetest thing, but I had to remind him what the service is, and that we weren't going to be anything romantic," she recalls.

    She is quick to prevent any inappropriate actions, through her in-person vetting process, a full-page waiver with preset rules and boundaries, and transparency with her clients. "In our culture, the only experience someone has with this kind of touching has been in a romantic sense," Hess says. "It's not always easy for people to switch their brains to simply being platonic about it."

    Hess emphasizes that it is only appropriate to touch her where it would be OK to touch a child. If she's uncomfortable with anything, she gives her client two taps to signal for them to stop. "If they're looking for a replacement for sex, they're not going to be happy with my service," she says.


    As a "pro cuddler," she has to listen a LOT of stuff, not all of it easy to listen to. She manages this quite well.

    Business InsiderThis work also comes with its share of emotional burdens. "It can be very draining," she says. "Some people have difficult emotional issues they want to talk to me about during our sessions." To cope with this, she meditates before every session. She also showers and changes into different clothes afterward, because she wants to make sure she's completely fresh in both her mind and her body before taking on her next client.

    Hess has a boyfriend who is very accepting of her service. "He knows what I do is a form of therapy and that it really makes a difference to people," she says.

    Next month, Hess will open her first retail store and create a national cuddling certification through a 40-hour training program. "This is my life's work. I want to change the view of Western culture on platonic touch," she says. "Everybody should have a way to reach out and feel comfortable with that."
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:09 PM GMT
    Love and a connection cannot be bought at all let alone be expressed in a paid for hug or any other type of paid for human sexual contact in my mind and opinion as there as to be a meaning and a feeling for it and contact to be initiated and continued for its meant for time. So i couldn't pay for one.
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    Sep 21, 2014 3:22 PM GMT
    I would consider it. Haven't had anyone to cuddle with in a long time.
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    Sep 21, 2014 4:01 PM GMT
    So funny that you start a thread about cuddling when I just read somewhere about this:
    http://cuddlrapp.com
    GRINDR for cuddling

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    Sep 21, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidSo funny that you start a thread about cuddling when I just read somewhere about this:
    http://cuddlrapp.com
    GRINDR for cuddling



    That's fucking epic haha thanks for the link!!!!
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    Sep 21, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    I've never bought or sold sex but I certainly don't rule it out. For me it's been a very free ride so far, outside of some emotional cost, but I don't rule it out for my future, the buying part, probably not the selling part so much. What happens if I hit my 70s, especially 80s or even 90s and if my mind is still active and working well but if I'm not partnered then. What am I gonna do, hit the gay bars? Noooo. So before life takes me out, I'm probably gonna call for some delivery take-out. And as I don't rule that out for later, I don't judge it for now.

    We provide all sorts of services for the bodies of each other, and even more intimately, for each other's minds and hearts. People sell their souls to corporations, talk about prostitution. So I think there is nothing wrong with hooking and certainly not with hugs for sale.

    I think it is wonderful that someone would find a career in hugging even those many might consider to be untouchable. Human touch is so very important for each other. Even while my mom was suffering the later stages of Alzheimer's in the nursing home, aside from all the hugs and kisses she continued to get during her visits from family and friends, I had her masseuse weekly massage her body so that she would continue to have lots of human contact. If I remember right I stopped that only in the last year, along with some medical exams and procedures because that all started to scare her. Those were some tough decisions. But I kept her life as normal as she'd have lived it on her own for as long as possible. That included human touch.

    Besides that I have complete respect for a person providing hugs for sale, I have a lot more respect for that than I do spirituality for sale, deemed to be not just respectable by most of society, but institutionalized as a natural aspect of society whether in religion, in new age storefront, in a Santeria Botanica or in Oprah's well funded estate.

    At some point, people have to stop bullshitting each other and accept reality as it presents itself. These are just our bodies, get used to it.
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    Sep 21, 2014 6:33 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidSo funny that you start a thread about cuddling when I just read somewhere about this:
    http://cuddlrapp.com
    GRINDR for cuddling



    Awesome! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 21, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    Can I get a refund if it's too sweaty?
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    Sep 21, 2014 6:42 PM GMT
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  • buddycat

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    Sep 21, 2014 10:28 PM GMT
    A whore is a whore. I'd pay nothing.
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    Sep 21, 2014 10:30 PM GMT
    $0
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    Sep 21, 2014 10:43 PM GMT
    leafgreen saidCan I get a refund if it's too sweaty?

    LOL
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    Sep 21, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    buddycat saidA whore is a whore. I'd pay nothing.
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    Sep 21, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    Ravensong said$0


    what about in euro? yen?
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    Sep 21, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
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    Sep 21, 2014 11:27 PM GMT
    cutelad89 saidLove and a connection cannot be bought at all let alone be expressed in a paid for hug or any other type of paid for human sexual contact in my mind and opinion as there as to be a meaning and a feeling for it and contact to be initiated and continued for its meant for time. So i couldn't pay for one.


    Exactly. It's not genuine Geez mankind really has jumped the shark. Cuddlr? What's else? Poopr?
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    Sep 22, 2014 12:24 AM GMT
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    cutelad89 saidLove and a connection cannot be bought at all let alone be expressed in a paid for hug or any other type of paid for human sexual contact in my mind and opinion as there as to be a meaning and a feeling for it and contact to be initiated and continued for its meant for time. So i couldn't pay for one.


    Exactly. It's not genuine Geez mankind really has jumped the shark. Cuddlr? What's else? Poopr?

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    You're full of good ideas today. How about
    Fuckr
    Blowr
    Jerkr
    Pissr

    Btw. She's selling her services mostly to men who otherwise don't have anybody to cuddle with. I recently watched the movie "the Sessions" about a man with polio, unable to move and his sex-surrogate. Great movie!

  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 22, 2014 12:39 AM GMT
    I'm not a cuddler unless it is cold
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    Sep 22, 2014 1:19 AM GMT
    antijock said
    "Besides that I have complete respect for a person providing hugs for sale, I have a lot more respect for that than I do spirituality for sale"

    AMEN!
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    Sep 22, 2014 11:58 AM GMT
    I don't pay for a cuddle, I fight for it icon_lol.gif
    But seriously, my ex never wanted to cuddle so I always had to wrestle him till he gave up and let me enjoy my very well deserved snuggle time.
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    Sep 22, 2014 12:04 PM GMT
    I wouldn't pay….and thats just creepy
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    Sep 22, 2014 12:45 PM GMT
    bhp91126 said
    kevex said
    cutelad89 saidLove and a connection cannot be bought at all let alone be expressed in a paid for hug or any other type of paid for human sexual contact in my mind and opinion as there as to be a meaning and a feeling for it and contact to be initiated and continued for its meant for time. So i couldn't pay for one.


    Exactly. It's not genuine Geez mankind really has jumped the shark. Cuddlr? What's else? Poopr?

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    You're full of good ideas today. How about
    Fuckr
    Blowr
    Jerkr
    Pissr

    Btw. She's selling her services mostly to men who otherwise don't have anybody to cuddle with. I recently watched the movie "the Sessions" about a man with polio, unable to move and his sex-surrogate. Great movie!



    This i do understand though, also the fact that in a town near me a woman made news for simply doing it with strangers for free around town and i get that, also it is sort of like a smile in that it can help people through their day. Maybe with this response i have gone back on what i originally said.
  • xBEHEMOTHx

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    Sep 22, 2014 12:54 PM GMT
    I wouldn't pay to cuddle ... But..I'd definitely sell em
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    Sep 22, 2014 1:54 PM GMT
    Love cuddles but not everything should be a fucking commodity !
  • jaroslav123

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    Sep 22, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
    Bitch please, I get my cuddles for free. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif