If you keep thinking about someone is that a crush or is it love?

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    Sep 22, 2014 10:34 PM GMT
    Well?
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    Sep 22, 2014 10:38 PM GMT
    Orange-Crush.jpg

    I vote Crush, until said person provides something reciprocal and substantive enough to turn it into Love.
  • Vivi_Carol

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    Sep 22, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    You so stupid. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 22, 2014 10:40 PM GMT
    I have developed 2 crushes haha . I both told the them how I felt. It's so easy finding a person on here that u can relate to .
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    Sep 23, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    I think is love :s

    b.c you meet so many guys and like - how do you just crush if you think about one all the time @-@

    crush is like ooo hes cute blahblahhblah

    love is like omg I think about you everyday wtf :S
    ^^
    or like close to it :s and feel all wobbly and warm :S
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    Sep 23, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
    Obsession?
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    Sep 23, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    ^^
    or maybe that :S

    q-q

    I just spam texted my ex so, maybe don't ask me :S Buuut, I can think of one other time this happened and I wanted to marry them @-@
    Very glad that didn't work out now :S
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 23, 2014 4:46 AM GMT
    Def crush!
    End of thread.

    If you feel the same way a year later might be love!

    Even Satan is good for the first 6 months. He's exciting, fun dates good in bed. But he is the devil. Lol
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 23, 2014 4:52 AM GMT
    I'd say:

    Puppy love=your first few feelings as a kid. A mix of feelings such as love and hate. It's confusing and primarily non-sexual in nature.

    Crush=that hot and bothered feeling from 1 to 90 days. You can have multiple crushes at a time.

    Infatuation=Burns hotter than a crush, all consuming. You can only have 1 infatuation at a time. You think and dream about the person and obsess over them. Infatuation can start after the first few days of a crush, but generally develops after a crush burns for a month or so and becomes more embedded.

    Love=Can only form with time-served and after an intimate bond forms deeper than mere friendship. You can only have one true love at a time.

    ......so it sounds like you're majorly infatuated with someone. It's not a bag thing. I think it's perfectly normal and I think most psychologists would agree from what I've read. Just embrace it and enjoy it as much as you can.
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:01 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidObsession?

    It is not. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:27 AM GMT
    Infatuation
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:39 PM GMT
    you're obsessed.
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    Sep 23, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
    It's just a crush, go out and meet new guys, it will take your mind off of him. icon_eek.gif
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Sep 24, 2014 12:04 AM GMT
    By the scrap of info you gave... I'd say crush... Got me thinking of my personal trainer now icon_rolleyes.gificon_redface.gif
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    Sep 24, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    Ravensong saidWell?
    If you can't get that person off of your mind, the answer to your question is both! lol. I'm so happy for you, hahaha. It's a rare thing that you are experiencing now with this person. And it happens less and less the older you get and learn what people are really like in this world. Enjoy this man.
  • Falconcc_24

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    Sep 24, 2014 2:29 PM GMT
    I'm for team Infatuation.
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    Sep 24, 2014 5:21 PM GMT
    Well... Tell him how u feel, make the effort to spend time with him, and maybe he will to
  • Svnw688

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    Sep 24, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    Ravensong: So after reading these responses, answer truthfully, do you (1) simply like that people are talking about and reminding you of the guy in question OR (2) do you feel defensive of the guy in question?

    If you simply are enjoying that this discussion reminds you of him, then you're likely just crushing on him, and it'll pass in a week or few months.

    If you feel defensive of the guy, as if people are "attacking" the situation or your feelings, then you're likely REALLY emotionally invested in the concept of you two and your superego is going into overdrive to protect that union.

    So if this is all fun, you're crushing on him. If you feel hurt, insulted or defensive after reading the comments, then you're infatuated and need to prepare for months of idealization of this man until your mind gives up and lets go. I had an infatuation that lasted 2 years (straight guy in school I couldn't have, but we were best friends, and he kept saying if he were gay he'd want to be with me, so that kept it burning).
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    Sep 25, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    It's a crush, or maybe a mixture of crush/infatuation.
    Unless you personally know this guy very well, I'd say it's more of a lingering 'lust at first sight'.
    Then again, I can't really say because I'm very unfamiliar with this particular feeling.
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    Sep 30, 2014 7:21 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidRavensong: So after reading these responses, answer truthfully, do you (1) simply like that people are talking about and reminding you of the guy in question OR (2) do you feel defensive of the guy in question?

    If you simply are enjoying that this discussion reminds you of him, then you're likely just crushing on him, and it'll pass in a week or few months.

    If you feel defensive of the guy, as if people are "attacking" the situation or your feelings, then you're likely REALLY emotionally invested in the concept of you two and your superego is going into overdrive to protect that union.

    So if this is all fun, you're crushing on him. If you feel hurt, insulted or defensive after reading the comments, then you're infatuated and need to prepare for months of idealization of this man until your mind gives up and lets go. I had an infatuation that lasted 2 years (straight guy in school I couldn't have, but we were best friends, and he kept saying if he were gay he'd want to be with me, so that kept it burning).
    ouch !! That's a stinger...
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    Sep 30, 2014 7:48 AM GMT
    It's a crush.