Sep 22, 2014 10:34 PM GMT
Ravensong saidWell?If you can't get that person off of your mind, the answer to your question is both! lol. I'm so happy for you, hahaha. It's a rare thing that you are experiencing now with this person. And it happens less and less the older you get and learn what people are really like in this world. Enjoy this man.
Svnw688 saidRavensong: So after reading these responses, answer truthfully, do you (1) simply like that people are talking about and reminding you of the guy in question OR (2) do you feel defensive of the guy in question?ouch !! That's a stinger...
If you simply are enjoying that this discussion reminds you of him, then you're likely just crushing on him, and it'll pass in a week or few months.
If you feel defensive of the guy, as if people are "attacking" the situation or your feelings, then you're likely REALLY emotionally invested in the concept of you two and your superego is going into overdrive to protect that union.
So if this is all fun, you're crushing on him. If you feel hurt, insulted or defensive after reading the comments, then you're infatuated and need to prepare for months of idealization of this man until your mind gives up and lets go. I had an infatuation that lasted 2 years (straight guy in school I couldn't have, but we were best friends, and he kept saying if he were gay he'd want to be with me, so that kept it burning).