What would you do?

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    Sep 23, 2014 4:33 AM GMT
    What would you do in this situation?.. I have been casually seeing this guy for about a month now and we seem to have electric and intense chemistry. Words are cheap, but we both have said (and I am genuine) that neither of us have felt a connection like this in a long time and we really like each other a lot-- there is something there. That being said our life situations are not compatible to really BE together, but we agree we want to be good friends, have a deep meaningful relationship, and see each other and screw like rabbits when we can (maybe twice a month... obviously not enough to date each other). We have both said that we haven't been sleeping with anyone else since we met, and that we do not feel the urge to because we cant seem to stop thinking about each other, and sex with anyone else just doesn't seem desirable. I was feeling all these things, but HE was the one to bring it up. Long story short, I have found out he is online a lot, and having lots of sex with lots of different people... We have a mutual acquaintance (friend of mine) who has SHOWN me all kinds of proof. We are not boyfriends, we are free to see other people, but its bothering me that he would LIE about this? Why say that you aren't sleeping with other people and can only think about me, when that's not true? No reason to lie about it? Especially when HE is the one bringing this up?! We also talked about (again provoked by him) always being honest with each other and trusting each other... My question is-- would you say something? Or just let it go and have fun (and not trust the guy)?
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    Sep 23, 2014 4:37 AM GMT
    He's a liar ! Fuck that move on !
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    Sep 23, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:11 AM GMT
    :S

    You've only been seeing each other a month :S


    I would ask the friend w/ the info if is ok to bring it up and then bring it up... Don't wanna cause them grief.

    Then maybe let the dust settle and see what you see.

    I try not to lie all the time but, I forget stuff or misunderstand or whatever. :S

    Ultimately just for peace of mind.. Doubt is a terrible poison.

    I dunno why a person would lie about that.. Seems really random :S I would ask LOL :S :S :S

    I mean that would be putting you more towards a relationship..

    You could leave, ignore, or approach :S icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif

    good luck :3


    I don't get how people can call a person a player when they don't actively know their thinking... That is assuming a lot.
    My ex called me a player but, then said I unload the trailer of a truck I drive... Without even asking me about my job.. I helped restack a shipment once because it tipped over - it was a disaster.

    I give people payment to unload the trailer... Paid by my corporate employer...

    Also

    How much fun will you have sleeping with a person you don't trust :S

    :S :S :S :S :S :S :S :S
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:14 AM GMT
    What would I do? I would try to be as honest with myself as possible and I would say

    go fuck yourself, hope you d*e of a*ds and ca**er and slow painful death screaming your lungs out while defecating every time and I would love to take a kn*fe and cut your intestines open.



    ''I have been casually seeing this guy for about a month now and we seem to have electric and intense chemistry. Words are cheap, but we both have said (and I am genuine) that neither of us have felt a connection like this in a long time and we really like each other a lot-- there is something there.''

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    Sep 23, 2014 5:16 AM GMT
    Bonapart saidWhat would I do? I would try to be as honest with myself as possible and I would say

    go fuck yourself, hope you d*e of a*ds and ca**er and slow painful death screaming your lungs out while defecating every time and I would love to take a kn*fe and cut your intestines open.


    :S

    :S :S :S :S

    Bad advice :S Stabbing people is not a good idea.
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:20 AM GMT
    He's a liar. Reason number 6 to always wear a condom!! Ever see the movie Grease. I'm sure he is hopelessly devoted to each and everyone of his fuck buds.
    Marty in the movie said don't sweat it take one of mine. He is Marty Marrichino from that movie. You are a Sandy, from the same movie.

    Get a genuine guy.
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
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    Bonapart saidWhat would I do? I would try to be as honest with myself as possible and I would say

    go fuck yourself, hope you d*e of a*ds and ca**er and slow painful death screaming your lungs out while defecating every time and I would love to take a kn*fe and cut your intestines open.


    :S

    :S :S :S :S

    Bad advice :S Stabbing people is not a good idea.


    It's a better idea than having a nonsense relationship
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    ^^

    I dunno if its nonsense... I think you being jaded...


    And always wear a condom :S One of my boyfriends from like five years ago gave me an std from his previous relationship he didn't know he had.. We hadn't even had sex @_@

    GROSS @-@

    [and he didn't even tell me.. I had to find out from a co-worker who saw him at a bar :S] <-- she went through his bag :S

    omg :S

    q-q
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 23, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    Chance of him having an std is high!icon_idea.gif

    And now so is yours.
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidChance of him having an std is high!icon_idea.gif

    And now so is yours.


    Yes :s q-q
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:28 AM GMT
    Snaz said^^

    I dunno if its nonsense... I think you being jaded...


    And always wear a condom :S One of my boyfriends from like five years ago gave me an std from his previous relationship he didn't know he had.. We hadn't even had sex @_@

    GROSS @-@

    [and he didn't even tell me.. I had to find out from a co-worker who saw him at a bar :S] <-- she went through his bag :S

    omg :S

    q-q


    I think you are being delusional
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    A saying comes to mind - "Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies." So, you're having mindless intense sex every 2 weeks, and you're not in love and not going to fall in love. Enjoy it for what it is and don';t expect anything more. He hooks up with other guys? Like you didn't contemplate that possibility before you hooked up with him?
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:30 AM GMT
    Bonapart said
    Snaz said^^

    I dunno if its nonsense... I think you being jaded...


    And always wear a condom :S One of my boyfriends from like five years ago gave me an std from his previous relationship he didn't know he had.. We hadn't even had sex @_@

    GROSS @-@

    [and he didn't even tell me.. I had to find out from a co-worker who saw him at a bar :S] <-- she went through his bag :S

    omg :S

    q-q


    I think you are being delusional


    Maybe, but, at least I'll make sure I have that answer before I go stabbing people! :S
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:35 AM GMT
    Snaz said
    Bonapart said
    Snaz said^^

    I dunno if its nonsense... I think you being jaded...


    And always wear a condom :S One of my boyfriends from like five years ago gave me an std from his previous relationship he didn't know he had.. We hadn't even had sex @_@

    GROSS @-@

    [and he didn't even tell me.. I had to find out from a co-worker who saw him at a bar :S] <-- she went through his bag :S

    omg :S

    q-q


    I think you are being delusional


    Maybe, but, at least I'll make sure I have that answer before I go stabbing people! :S


    like I said - delusional - drama queen, I did not say anything about actually stabbing anyone
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:39 AM GMT
    Be careful, use a condom!
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    Thanks for the (helpful) replies.

    The issue is not that the guy is sleeping around. The issue is that he is volunteering to me that he is NOT sleeping with anyone but me and doesn't want to... I guess this is to manipulate me into doing the same thing? I don't see the point, when you have a casual relationship with someone, to make shit up. Why volunteer dishonest bullshit? Im not ASKING him or expecting anything of him. I just don't like the dishonesty. Why lie?
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:51 AM GMT
    Gymrat123 saidThanks for the (helpful) replies.

    The issue is not that the guy is sleeping around. The issue is that he is volunteering to me that he is NOT sleeping with anyone but me and doesn't want to... I guess this is to manipulate me into doing the same thing? I don't see the point, when you have a casual relationship with someone, to make shit up. Why volunteer dishonest bullshit? Im not ASKING him or expecting anything of him. I just don't like the dishonesty. Why lie?


    I can kinda understand where's he's coming from.

    It's like he just doesn't want for you to think he is a slut. And TBH, he owes you nothing. If you were dating it would be a different story. But so far, you too have nothing official. Let this play out for a few more months. If he continues to be dishonest, then dump him...
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    Sep 23, 2014 5:58 AM GMT
    jmusc, I appreciate your perspective. What makes it more strange though, is that he has said things like "I was really going through a whore phase before I met you, Im glad you have given me a reason to cool it" etc... WHY even say that if its not true??? He's still a whore! The phase hasn't ended! So why lie about it? LOL
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:00 AM GMT
    Gymrat123 saidjmusc, I appreciate your perspective. What makes it more strange though, is that he has said things like "I was really going through a whore phase before I met you, Im glad you have given me a reason to cool it" etc... WHY even say that if its not true??? He's still a whore! The phase hasn't ended! So why lie about it? LOL


    WELL, if he knows you think he's a whore, why should he be honest with you?


    Let that simmer for a second....
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:01 AM GMT
    Gymrat123 saidWhat would you do in this situation?.. I have been casually seeing this guy for about a month now and we seem to have electric and intense chemistry. Words are cheap, but we both have said (and I am genuine) that neither of us have felt a connection like this in a long time and we really like each other a lot-- there is something there. That being said our life situations are not compatible to really BE together, but we agree we want to be good friends, have a deep meaningful relationship, and see each other and screw like rabbits when we can (maybe twice a month... obviously not enough to date each other). We have both said that we haven't been sleeping with anyone else since we met, and that we do not feel the urge to because we cant seem to stop thinking about each other, and sex with anyone else just doesn't seem desirable. I was feeling all these things, but HE was the one to bring it up. Long story short, I have found out he is online a lot, and having lots of sex with lots of different people... We have a mutual acquaintance (friend of mine) who has SHOWN me all kinds of proof. We are not boyfriends, we are free to see other people, but its bothering me that he would LIE about this? Why say that you aren't sleeping with other people and can only think about me, when that's not true? No reason to lie about it? Especially when HE is the one bringing this up?! We also talked about (again provoked by him) always being honest with each other and trusting each other... My question is-- would you say something? Or just let it go and have fun (and not trust the guy)?


    Met with the conditions of inconstancy, don't expect anything well from it.
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:02 AM GMT
    Uh-oh! Cray cray is back ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:04 AM GMT
    I would take a baseball bat and get it over with
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:07 AM GMT
    The only reason I think he is a whore is because he VOLUNTEERS all of this information and is telling me he was whoring around. I don't pry or ask a ton of questions. He is telling me all of this without any provocation. THAT is why it is bothering me more. I could understand if I was asking him and putting him on the spot, for him to lie, but he is volunteering this bullshit. No one is pressuring him into this.
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    Sep 23, 2014 6:10 AM GMT
    Gymrat123 saidThe only reason I think he is a whore is because he VOLUNTEERS all of this information and is telling me he was whoring around. I don't pry or ask a ton of questions. He is telling me all of this without any provocation. THAT is why it is bothering me more. I could understand if I was asking him and putting him on the spot, for him to lie, but he is volunteering this bullshit. No one is pressuring him into this.


    Uhhh...yes you are sweetie.....icon_confused.gif