Finding a date

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    Sep 27, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    If you don't trust dating sites and apps where can you meet honest decent gay men. Everyone one says all around and in the most unlikely places but how come it seems so hard to meet these men. I have always been suspicious of dating sites as apart from the trust and security fact it just seems odd to me.
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
    I don't know. I'm sure you could find common interest LGBT groups around the area and meet people there, but otherwise all of my LTR have been on dating sites and it's been great!
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    The supermarket? (A very cruisy one in San Francisco). Don't know what social life is like in the UK, but on this side of the pond there are gay clubs for every sport. But generally organizations where men of like mind might hang out - whether it's a bridge club (you still pay whist in England?), garden society, political club, NGO, or local Save-The Endangered-Badger group. There are gay men everywhere, and some are bound to be available. How many straight guys do you know that met their partner or wife on a dating site?
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    I have no trouble finding a date at the grocery store.
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI don't know. I'm sure you could find common interest LGBT groups around the area and meet people there, but otherwise all of my LTR have been on dating sites and it's been great!

    Josh, weren't you living in the middle-of-nowhere Alabama? (Without a lot of gay running/cycling/etc clubs?)
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    I don't know what it is with some "men" on this site but when you ask a serious question that means alot to a person alot of you seem to make a joke of them and take alot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.
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    Sep 27, 2014 4:48 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    JumpMan_Josh saidI don't know. I'm sure you could find common interest LGBT groups around the area and meet people there, but otherwise all of my LTR have been on dating sites and it's been great!

    Josh, weren't you living in the middle-of-nowhere Alabama? (Without a lot of gay running/cycling/etc clubs?)


    I still am but am moving in the next couple of weeks. Still, I've met all my boyfriends online.... but they've all lived in Chicago, Las Vegas, or far away LOL! Morale of the story: dating sites work just don't live in Alabama icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 27, 2014 5:03 PM GMT
    guyliner said a lot of you seem to make a joke of them and take a lot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.

    You really are new. If you are on RJ, you will just have to get used to the style of the members. It is what it is. Paul's sarcasm and joking isn't directed at the recipient (usually), and others find it funny. There is always the "Ignore His Posts" button. Hit it, and you will never again see someone's posts.
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    Sep 27, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    Put a sign on your forehead ''looking for honest, decent gay men'' and why would you need more than one?
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    Sep 27, 2014 5:06 PM GMT
    guyliner saidI don't know what it is with some "men" on this site but when you ask a serious question that means alot to a person alot of you seem to make a joke of them and take alot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.

    You're new here, and have no profile and no pics. You could very well be a troll for all we know. Probably assumed to be my most.
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    Sep 27, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    guyliner saidI don't know what it is with some "men" on this site but when you ask a serious question that means alot to a person alot of you seem to make a joke of them and take alot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.


    What is this "alot" thing you speak of?
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    Sep 27, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
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    guyliner saidI don't know what it is with some "men" on this site but when you ask a serious question that means alot to a person alot of you seem to make a joke of them and take alot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.


    What is this "alot" thing you speak of?

    alot = meanings and emotion to someone.

    Troll i am not that i am just asking a question that is all.
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    Sep 27, 2014 9:17 PM GMT
    guyliner said
    Scruffypup said
    guyliner saidI don't know what it is with some "men" on this site but when you ask a serious question that means alot to a person alot of you seem to make a joke of them and take alot at their expense just because you have managed to get along in life and learn the ropes whether it have been a nice ride to get where you are or not just try to help others by being nice and not sarcastic or condescending all the time please.


    What is this "alot" thing you speak of?

    alot = meanings and emotion to someone.

    Troll i am not that i am just asking a question that is all.


    Can you show me this word in the dictionary? icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 28, 2014 7:33 AM GMT
    guyliner saidIf you don't trust dating sites and apps where can you meet honest decent gay men. Everyone one says all around and in the most unlikely places but how come it seems so hard to meet these men. I have always been suspicious of dating sites as apart from the trust and security fact it just seems odd to me.
    What do you look like?
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    Sep 29, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    See if friends can set you up with someone decent. And sites like RJ aren't likely to help you if you aren't going to show yourself in your profile.
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    Oct 04, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    I've never been without good, quality men in my life. Here are some places I've met them:

    * Through other friends.
    * Through business contacts (but be careful not to fish off of the company pier).
    * Through clubs / organizations I belonged to (Rotary especially).
    * At alumni association gatherings, and tailgate parties.
    * On my water polo team while I was an undergrad.
    * At the gym, and out running (waiting for a light to change).
    * While swimming & catching some sun during my apartment years.
    * While running on a men-only beach (San Gregorio).
    * At a Yoga class I was a member of (in the 90s).
    * R.J. My current s.o. I met in '08 here in Forums. We began slowly - by writing comments about each others' contributions. Later we phoned and spoke, and then did that for a year. Finally we met - at an airport (since we lived on opposite sides of the U.S.) We did the cross country travel several times, and then realized we had something, and one of us moved cross-country.

    My relationships have run the gamut - from short ones to long term things. (Sooner or later, they all found out what a son-of-a-bitch I am!) I came to R.J. for fitness & health stuff and look what happened. You never know where you'll meet someone good. Just go out everyday with a good attitude; look and feel your best; and one day........
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    Oct 04, 2014 4:50 PM GMT
    guyliner saidIf you don't trust dating sites and apps where can you meet honest decent gay men...
    sounds like you have lo trust in things;
    dating sites
    dating applications
    and the gay men you meet

    Relationships are all about:
    respect
    trust
    communication


    -a little catch22 but you might avoid entering in to a doomed relationship if you not willing to do the trust thing (from the list above)? Better to experience life's little triumphs and failures. Than re address your expectations.
    -Are your trust worthy yourself?