Coming out good and bad stories

  • GaryCox

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    Sep 30, 2014 12:05 AM GMT
    Hey everyone I'm new here, my names Gary I never had the courage to come out but lately I can feel it getting stronger, i'm 29 now so want to move on with my life and live how I want to live, the only problem is I have a very homophobic father if he seen two gays on tv, ya'd hear him go gross fuking faggots etc, so he's going to be tough, I also live in a rough area where you have to be manly, which I always was and am I do worry if coming out might make me seem weaker in the communities (its the type of place like projects in US where its dog eat dog) Anyway anyone care to share their coming out story?
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    Sep 30, 2014 12:12 AM GMT
    I had been clubbing for 2 days straight and I forgot it was mothers day and that my mum was visiting me and I only lived down the road from the club I was at so when I checked my phone and saw heaps of missed calls I bolted home to find my pissed off mum with her luggage at the front of my house. After we put her shit away I wanted to take her to the gay bar I was just at to meet my friends and on the way being mothers day and all I decided to blurt out "hay mum you've always known i was gay right"? and she have be a sideways glance and said "not really" and I said "well I am" and by then we were at the club and we went in and I introduced her to my amazing friends and i think one of them gave her a valium so it was all good haha
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    Sep 30, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    Lol man great story your mother seems pretty laided back and cool as it is even with out the valium, but the benzos always help some situations, maybe ill spike my dad with few xanax icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 30, 2014 11:34 AM GMT
    My dad knew I was gay and always joked with me, indirectly trying to make me admit it. I did come out to him because he was so pushy with his jokes which always made me laugh. I finally admitted I liked guys, and we sat down and had a deep talk. Long story short, he told me it was ok. I used to be distant and sometimes wouldn't say a word to him, but now I joke and laugh with him; I love that I can finally be myself with him.

    He used the same method to joke with my older brother (2 gays in the family), but my older brother is stubborn, I told my older brother, "dad accepted me, so he'll accept you."

    But my older brother didn't believe me. My dad saw my older brother and his boyfriend and playfully said, "so which one of you is the guy and which one is the girl (referring to masc and fem)?"

    Though, my dad does wish that I could have children.

    My mom thinks I'm going through a phase, but we still get along fine.
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    Sep 30, 2014 11:49 AM GMT
    I would share my coming out story but my elements were at least together and yours are not. Keep it to yourself, sexuality is not as big a deal as it use to be. For your own safety protect yourself. You are not REQUIRED TO COME OUT. Doesn't mean you will be handicap just means you need to guard your own stability. PM me if any questions.
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    Sep 30, 2014 11:59 AM GMT
    I'm 31 and came out back in the summer. I was seeing a guy at the time and we were both madly into each other. My mum was giving me grief about who I was seeing, where I was going, why I was out so late etc. (she's very domineering and overprotective).

    I came straight out with it in front of my mother one afternoon, and she was completely fine with it. I think her words were something along the lines of: "if you're happy, so am I. I just don't like the lies".

    My father still hasn't accepted it and occasionally will come out with stupid sarcastic remarks. I try to let these things rise above me.


    The feeling of liberation is out of this world. Whatever the outcome may be, you'll be free. A life with no lies and freedom is better than being unhappy and living someone else's way.

    Good luck and keep up posted on how it goes.
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    Oct 01, 2014 2:01 AM GMT
    I admitted to myself a year ago I was gay.
    Started to tell people beginning of this year.
    Told my mama this summer. She cried. To me I'd never have kids and would die alone. Since then she's suggested reparative therapy and told other members of my family whom I would've preferred to tell myself. None of the people she told have been in touch with me.
    Prior to this i was very close with my family.
    It's still worth it. I only wish I had done it sooner.
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    Oct 01, 2014 9:27 AM GMT
    So far so good, Everyone I have told has basically said " if your happy Im happy". And its NOT like I have only told "Liberal" people either. Much More hellish in my mind then it ever was in reality.
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    Oct 01, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    I'm 49 , I came out back in high school in the early 80's, not many gay guys back then coming out.....actually knew I was gay at 10.
    When I told my closest friends they were like who cares, but the girl I was half seeing she freaked.
    That same year I was on high school baseball team and met three guys on team who were gay, also met two guys on wrestling team who were gay.
    We all talked regularly and got along great , none of us hooked up but had fun plucking on each other in locker rooms.
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    Oct 02, 2014 12:01 AM GMT
    I came out with my mother 5 years ago, and it was enough for me. I dont have the need to come out to anyone else as I have the good feeling that the most important people in my life already know and are ok with it.

    Actually, my mother is my best friend
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    Oct 02, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    Marco_Polo saidI came out with my mother 5 years ago, and it was enough for me. I dont have the need to come out to anyone else as I have the good feeling that the most important people in my life already know and are ok with it.

    Actually, my mother is my best friend


    You're very lucky. I was close with my mother. We've barely talked in the last few months.
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    Oct 02, 2014 3:26 AM GMT
    "I don't give a f if I made you feel bad. Pull up your skirt and grab your nuts if you even have any"


    Told to me by my cousin/big brother after 20+years and he said he knew and to not ever contact him unless it was important. Haven't spoken since. Rest of the family knows/knew/or doesn't care though. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 02, 2014 10:29 AM GMT
    My outing was slow... But mostly well accepted.

    Obviously the guys i messed around with knew... Then after my divorce I went more and more open... Friends first... Then my mom... Later I told my aunt, and they were the only family I gave a crap about. They both were accepting and told me how my late father would have accepted me as well.

    My ex wife kind of found out and confronted me about it, and I confirmed it. She said "I cant believe that i"m the last woman you're going to be with..." I told her "Look at it this way... You're the woman that's made me never want to be with a woman again..."

    At my mom's funeral, I had my bf with me, so the rest of the family found out, and most appeared to shun me, but I only ever see these people at funerals anyway, so I really don't give a crap what their impression is.

    Finally, and most recently I'm out at work. No one seems to mind.

    My bf, on the other hand had a horrific coming out to hos folks. I'll ask him if its ok to share his story here...