christastic said
To me it doesn't make sense not to be prudent?
Much of this depends on your friends. Will they be objective, or do they have an agenda of their own, in how they advise you? Are they providing you with good information, or just a rehash of what they've heard on the gay rumor mill? Which is about as reliable as Fox News.
Also, maybe in this case they don't wanna get involved, to say yay or nay, lest you later hold them accountable if it shouldn't turn out well with this guy. Some friends just don't wanna get entangled in that sort of thing.
In my case, when I started dating my husband his friends "circled the wagons" around him like I was shooting arrows at him, and not the Cupid kind. He'd been exploited and hurt before by strangers he'd met, just like he had met me.
My responses? First, I tried to win THEM over as much as him, and also my future "in-laws". You can either have allies or enemies, and when you take a guy you get the whole package, his family & friends as well.
Second, I told my future husband I knew exactly what his friends were doing. And that I didn't resent it, rather I viewed it as a mark of how much his friends loved and protected him, which increased his own worth in my eyes. It became a challenge for me to win them all over.
Afterwards his friends & family became my biggest boosters, still are. So consider that aspect with this new guy, especially once you meet him, maybe start dating him. Often friends will let you know what they think of him, directly or indirectly. And the way that guy handles your friends, in accepted by them or not, can be important considerations for you.
