Public displays of affection

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    Oct 02, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    How do you feel about this?

    It's not always wise to do so in certain places, but any previous guys I've been with have always held my hand or hugged me in public.

    I never care what people think. We're only going to advance forward in terms of acceptance if people are desensitised to this sort of thing.

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    Oct 02, 2014 12:28 PM GMT
    I'll hold my BFs hand in public and peck on the lips but I don't get my mack on in public its just wrong, it doesn't freak me out when others do it just so long as its in public I'm entitled to watch icon_razz.gif lol

    I saw a couple in the mall the other day and the girls was walking around and her boyfriend had his hand cupped on her butt…..was the most forced/awkward thing I have ever witnessed in breeder couples ever apart from this.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wha7bA9NRZ0
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    Oct 02, 2014 12:54 PM GMT
    That vid was just horrible icon_lol.gif

    I kiss my boyfriend and hug him or hold his hand when I want to but not all the time like I have to just because we are a couple. That's awkward.
    When I kiss my man when we meet instead of shaking hands, people almost never look at us, not because we are gay and they don't want to stare but because kissing somebody once is a totally usual thing. I think they don't even realize it's two men. If you keep kissing for minutes or sit in your boyfriends lap or you are a fem guy it's different of course but it's not how we do it.
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    Oct 02, 2014 1:33 PM GMT
    Right and middle Americans need to see more same sex pda.
    You usually dont see promant gay men come out but with out their partners. the nfl was in a tizzy about Michael Sam kissing his partner Vito Cammisano, SHOCKING:
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    the nfl is ok with this:
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    Oct 02, 2014 2:05 PM GMT
    I think all couple do this, but when my boyfriend bends over to grab something at Target, I dryhump him.

    Does that count ?

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    Oct 02, 2014 2:16 PM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidI think all couple do this, but when my boyfriend bends over to grab something at Target, I dryhump him.

    Does that count ?

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    This vid never gets old! icon_mad.gif
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    Oct 02, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    I prefer PDS (public displays of sex).
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    Oct 02, 2014 4:21 PM GMT
    As long as ones hands are not wildly groping the object of affection and remain on the outside of the other's clothing I have no problem with PDAs whether homo or hetero in nature.

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    Oct 02, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    Holding hands , hugs are perfectly ok .

    But French kissing and grinding isn't , and that goes as well for gays or straights .
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    Oct 02, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike said
    Disasterpiece saidI think all couple do this, but when my boyfriend bends over to grab something at Target, I dryhump him.

    Does that count ?

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    This vid never gets old! icon_mad.gif


    There is a similar gif to this with one guy bumming another one in front of a swimming pool and you can guess what happens next. Unfortunately it will get deleted if I post it because it is from porn icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 02, 2014 6:06 PM GMT
    I don't care for it and the only reason why is because of safety. I think showing PDA invites the crazies and their goons to mess with you. I'm not interested in being assaulted and ending up in the trauma ICU just because I decided to hold my bf's hand in public.
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    Oct 02, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    I don't mind when people hold hands in public, but I find it repulsive and put off when people hang on each other and do long grinding on each other and keep kissing eachother all the time, I just find it is a form of insecurity and pushed feelings
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    Oct 02, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    pazzy saidi HATE it with a passion though i get giddy like a little girl on the inside when i see two gay men kissing in public or holding hands. icon_redface.gif i've seen some gay guys giving each other a quick smooch or holding hands walking together here and there in crowded ass streets in manhattan in broad daylight.


    I'd have thought that would have been totally acceptable in NYC, with no one even batting an eyelid?

    Seems like a pretty liberal city where people don't have time to care what others are doing.
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    Oct 02, 2014 8:44 PM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidI think all couple do this, but when my boyfriend bends over to grab something at Target, I dryhump him.

    Does that count ?

    Ah yeah I do that too icon_razz.gif

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    Oct 03, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Not a fan of any form of PDAs (gay, straight, platonic, etc.).
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    Oct 03, 2014 7:32 AM GMT
    sweetyork saidNot a fan of any form of PDAs (gay, straight, platonic, etc.).

    I agree!!
    If I wanted to see your petting habits in your relationship I'd ask.
    Otherwise keep it to yourselves, I do not need to witness it.
    Can't stand PDA.
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    Oct 03, 2014 10:53 AM GMT
    I think it is important and healthy to show real affection
    gyrating for attention is never attractive
    when if ever I am even vaguely involved ...I want my hand held ...I want an arm around my neck I want the whole world to know that we are happy !... I love seeing happy people I think as long as you are not fondling body parts normally covered by underwear its ok.
    I am honestly shocked by the level of prudishness that comes out on these sorts of threads .
    I think there would be a lot less violence in the world if more people kissed and held hands

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    Oct 03, 2014 10:53 AM GMT
    Kissing is fine, I have made out with my boyfriend in public before.
    Plus I have and a lot of my friends have had sex out in public before. That includes parks, etc.
    Ofcourse no one was around
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    Oct 03, 2014 3:51 PM GMT
    I live in NYC but in Staten Island which is more like the suburbs.We have never ever had a problem after telling people we are a couple.Just the opposite actually.As for PDAs..I dont hold his hand or kiss him unless we are at a gay event etc.
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    Oct 03, 2014 3:57 PM GMT
    I don't mind people holding hands. As for hugging or kissing on the cheek - In Greece people greet my kissing and in Bulgaria by hugging each other (sex is irrelevant). Having said that, I would never kiss my bf in public. I suppose there is something about the way I was raised - again, I am fine with other people doing it, just terrified of it myself haha
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    I would hold hands, but not kiss in public.
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:04 PM GMT
    sed4561 said...

    just terrified of it myself haha


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    Oct 03, 2014 4:10 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidI think it is important and healthy to show real affection
    gyrating for attention is never attractive
    when if ever I am even vaguely involved ...I want my hand held ...I want an arm around my neck I want the whole world to know that we are happy !... I love seeing happy people I think as long as you are not fondling body parts normally covered by underwear its ok.
    I am honestly shocked by the level of prudishness that comes out on these sorts of threads .
    I think there would be a lot less violence in the world if more people kissed and held hands

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    So does that mean that since you are extending that openly to the public, your relationship is then open for them to comment on whether they like it or not?
    It doesn't mean you aren't happy if you aren't holding hands or kissing, and I think it's less to do about being a prude as as it is about letting people mind their own business.
    People can mind their own business when you don't make it theirs by flaunting it publicly.
    Coupled by the fact that so many gay bashings happen in the U.S. where the culprits are always set free and blame is placed on the gay victims, I'd say it's also about being street smart.
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    Oct 03, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    MartyredNeons said
    secondstartotheright saidI think it is important and healthy to show real affection
    gyrating for attention is never attractive
    when if ever I am even vaguely involved ...I want my hand held ...I want an arm around my neck I want the whole world to know that we are happy !... I love seeing happy people I think as long as you are not fondling body parts normally covered by underwear its ok.
    I am honestly shocked by the level of prudishness that comes out on these sorts of threads .
    I think there would be a lot less violence in the world if more people kissed and held hands

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    So does that mean that since you are extending that openly to the public, your relationship is then open for them to comment on whether they like it or not?
    It doesn't mean you aren't happy if you aren't holding hands or kissing, and I think it's less to do about being a prude as as it is about letting people mind their own business.
    People can mind their own business when you don't make it theirs by flaunting it publicly.
    Coupled by the fact that so many gay bashings happen in the U.S. where the culprits are always set free and blame is placed on the gay victims, I'd say it's also about being street smart.



    I could not care what "the public " or anyone else thinks ...not an iota
    If I am with a guy and he is supposed to "be with me" I get very unhappy especially at the start of a relationship if I do not feel his hand in mine...I dont think it is called for to "smooch" as my mom would put it....but wherever a kiss may be appropriate definitely
    There is a marked difference between being proud and flaunting I refuse to be in any kind of clandestine relationship - I understand for some people in some countries have a security problem....however in my personal experience I have held hands in the streets and Malls of Johannesburg London Pretoria Capetown Tel-Aviv and Haifa ......never had a problem ...
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    Oct 03, 2014 6:43 PM GMT
    As a spectator I prefer public displays of disaffection.