Have you ever been in love?

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    Oct 02, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    When I say 'in love' I mean really love the person to the point of giving your life for them or even let them go if they're happy with somebody else. Have you?
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    Oct 02, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    weird that I am posting here considering recent events

    But yes I have loved a person who used me and never loved me. It actually got worse ...
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    Oct 02, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
    yes and its hard to let go
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    Oct 02, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    Yes...

    I guess you could say he was the first guy I truly "loved".

    We weren't together as a couple mega long, but knew each other for several years and always chatted. We had quite a bit in common.

    I tried hard not to fall for him, as I knew something major was happening in his life very soon. You see, he was offered the job of a lifetime in Hong Kong. I didn't want to make things awkward.

    Obviously we fell madly in love, and it wasn't long before that day came. We hugged and kissed each other at the train station, before he hastily hurried away past the ticket barriers.

    He texted me later to say he loved me so much and couldn't do the long goodbye. I never saw him again after that and we split up a few months later.

    We're good friends on Facebook, so we're not totally apart. He will always be special though.
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    Oct 02, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    Yes! The very first time, everything was perfect, seriously. I just got into the university I always wanted to go, found a cute little lovehole for the two of us downtown in my favorite street near to the bank of Danube. I was ready coming out because of him and when I was brave enough to tell him that I love him (saying it for the very first time) and wanted to ask him to move in with me.. He said he didn't want to tell me till it's not for sure, his dad had got a job in Canada and he wanted to go with him, he said sorry but no, kissed me good bye and never saw him ever after icon_sad.gif
    Everything was perfect then BOOM in less than a minute it was all over.
    Fuck it, his cock was huge anyway, at least my wrist joint won't hurt when I'm old
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    Oct 02, 2014 8:19 PM GMT
    my ex was in the closet and so am i.. we broke up cause he basically chose his family and decided he can never be with a guy .. we never said we loved each other while we were together, but we jus kinda stared into each others eyes n knew..

    but the day he told me he loved me was the day we broke up.. we avoided saying it to each other for the longest time i guess because once we said it .. it would be that much more real.
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    Oct 03, 2014 3:27 PM GMT
    David3K saidWhen I say 'in love' I mean really love the person to the point of giving your life for them or even let them go if they're happy with somebody else. Have you?


    I don't think there are many people who love someone so much that they are willing to let them go. Humans by nature are selfish.

    It has been my experience that when it was time for me to move on (for whatever reason) from a relationship, the person who supposedly "loved" me suddenly became hateful, mean, spiteful, and nasty. There is a very fine line between love and hate.

    I guess I find love too easily and have no problem letting someone go if they feel they are better off without me. That's not to say I'm not sad, but mean, hateful, or spiteful? Never.

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    Oct 03, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    keho92 saidmy ex was in the closet and so am i.. we broke up cause he basically chose his family and decided he can never be with a guy .. we never said we loved each other while we were together, but we jus kinda stared into each others eyes n knew..

    but the day he told me he loved me was the day we broke up.. we avoided saying it to each other for the longest time i guess because once we said it .. it would be that much more real.


    That's one of the saddest things I've read. Same happened to me and when I asked him to live openly with me he chose career and family over me. I calmly told him we were through and walked away never looking back. He's now old, balding, pudgy, short and alone. Sometimes life has a way of sorting things out for you.

    Your story and mine is an excellent reason to steer clear of closet cases.
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    Thankfully I'm immune to this so no.
    By the responses so far, I'd rather not know any way.
    Good on everyone else though.
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    Oct 03, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    keho92 saidmy ex was in the closet and so am i.. we broke up cause he basically chose his family and decided he can never be with a guy .. we never said we loved each other while we were together, but we jus kinda stared into each others eyes n knew..

    but the day he told me he loved me was the day we broke up.. we avoided saying it to each other for the longest time i guess because once we said it .. it would be that much more real.


    Wow that's awfully sad. I'm so sorry for that. Sounds like you had something real.
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    Oct 03, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    I started to love the guy that I dated for a couple of months each time more and more. We met in March.
    His friends were amazing, my parents thought he was perfect, my brother that was afraid that I would come home with a girly gay even loved him and my friends loved hanging out with him.
    Sadly i had plans to leave the Netherlands to go to Canada for a year, and he wanted to go back to Portugal after 5 years in the Netherlands.

    We still talk and keep eachother updated about how things are going. I'd be devasteded if he found someone else, but I would be happy for him too, 'cause he deserves a special guy and a happy future.

    When I'm back home in july/august, i want to visit him in Portugal and hope it is all like when we split up.... icon_redface.gif

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    Oct 03, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Yup, he was a lying prick.
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    Oct 03, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    I'm still in love with the guy I consider the love of my life, though he's dead for longer than we were together. It's real strange because the relationship continues in my thoughts. This is why those of us widowed rarely again ever truly consider ourselves as single. We can love again. Our hearts might even be bigger to accommodate new love, but we never stop loving who we lost.

    I also still love my next guy who also died, though that was never quite as "in love" as was my true love. I also even still love my friends who betrayed me, though that love has been corrupted with such hate for what they'd done to us that I'd never risk letting my guard down with them again. So that ends that.

    In all cases, when I love, either a partner or a friend, I'd take a bullet for that person. So it is particularly difficult for me to realize that someone I thought a friend would throw me under the bus.
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    Oct 03, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    I'm in love right now.
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    Oct 03, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
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    keho92 saidmy ex was in the closet and so am i.. we broke up cause he basically chose his family and decided he can never be with a guy .. we never said we loved each other while we were together, but we jus kinda stared into each others eyes n knew..

    but the day he told me he loved me was the day we broke up.. we avoided saying it to each other for the longest time i guess because once we said it .. it would be that much more real.


    Wow that's awfully sad. I'm so sorry for that. Sounds like you had something real.


    Nope. Anyone who has ever REALLY loved someone will tell you that family, friends, job, everyone else becomes secondary to your beloved and you are empowered to do whatever it takes to be together.

    When my boyfriend of EIGHT YEARS refused to leave the closet and live as an openly gay man with me by his side I knew he loved his mother, brothers, career, etc. more than me. I gladly let him go. I truly believe his still closeted, no-significant-other self regrets that decision to this day - 25 years later.
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    Oct 03, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    Let them go if they are happy with someone else.Fuck that.
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    Oct 03, 2014 8:51 PM GMT
    Oh yes, and it was the best feeling ever.
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    Oct 03, 2014 11:11 PM GMT
    theantijock saidI'm still in love with the guy I consider the love of my life, though he's dead for longer than we were together. It's real strange because the relationship continues in my thoughts. This is why those of us widowed rarely again ever truly consider ourselves as single. We can love again. Our hearts might even be bigger to accommodate new love, but we never stop loving who we lost.

    I also still love my next guy who also died, though that was never quite as "in love" as was my true love. I also even still love my friends who betrayed me, though that love has been corrupted with such hate for what they'd done to us that I'd never risk letting my guard down with them again. So that ends that.

    In all cases, when I love, either a partner or a friend, I'd take a bullet for that person. So it is particularly difficult for me to realize that someone I thought a friend would throw me under the bus.


    Yeah, but they all died...
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    Oct 03, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    Have you ever been in love?

    Yes, it happened with my first gay partner. Very late in life, I was 52.

    And I was madly in love with him. I had never experienced that before, although I'd been in straight marriages before. Now, for the first time in my life, I understood what real love was all about. And realized what I had before was pretend love. Going through the motions.

    Well, I suppose it's easy to really love, when you've finally got the right person, of the right sexual orientation. I'd been doing it wrong.

    Every day when I'd come home from the college I'd sing out to him as I entered the door : "Hello, my love!" My heart would leap, to use the phrase.

    Kinda basic, right? But I had never done that before in my life. Never felt the sincere joy of seeing someone again each day, of kissing them with a hug. I was like a dog who gets all out of control when its master comes home, whether it was me coming home, or when my partner did.

    But as many of you know, he tragically died unexpectedly of AIDS. The great love I had was turned into great grief, I likely suffered an emotional breakdown from it. The cost of love can be loss.

    But I managed to move on, and now I have a new partner. I love him no less. Yeah, I was in love. and now I'm in love again. I do recommend it.

    Because it really does exist for gay men, despite all the BS propaganda you may hear. Some of it from our anti-gay opponents, and some of it from our own camp, those who haven't found it yet.
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    Oct 04, 2014 12:15 AM GMT
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    keho92 saidmy ex was in the closet and so am i.. we broke up cause he basically chose his family and decided he can never be with a guy .. we never said we loved each other while we were together, but we jus kinda stared into each others eyes n knew..

    but the day he told me he loved me was the day we broke up.. we avoided saying it to each other for the longest time i guess because once we said it .. it would be that much more real.


    Wow that's awfully sad. I'm so sorry for that. Sounds like you had something real.


    Nope. Anyone who has ever REALLY loved someone will tell you that family, friends, job, everyone else becomes secondary to your beloved and you are empowered to do whatever it takes to be together.

    When my boyfriend of EIGHT YEARS refused to leave the closet and live as an openly gay man with me by his side I knew he loved his mother, brothers, career, etc. more than me. I gladly let him go. I truly believe his still closeted, no-significant-other self regrets that decision to this day - 25 years later.


    wow 8 years is a long time :s how come u didnt break up earlier wen u noticed after being with him for a few years he still wudnt come out?

    my ex and i had an odd situation where we flew to each other by plane and he wud drive 10+ hour every month across the border and 10+ hours back across the u.s/canada border to come see me.

    I believe wen u love someone u give a piece of ur heart to them.. ull always love them in someway. But life goes on and the heart has many more pieces to give..

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    Oct 04, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Yes...and I let him go. I am friends with him and his current.
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    Oct 04, 2014 1:53 AM GMT
    Yes, all the time! I have so much love to give, that sometimes have to hold back a little, because I tend to put my partner's needs over my own! love is a very powerful force in my daily interactions with people. Letting someone I love because they found it in someone else? there are two possible things wrong with that! either I didn't pay much attention to his needs, or he did not appreciate me for giving my all! Love can be both selfish and devotional, and that is why one need to find a balance between the two!

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    Oct 04, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    About 4 times, never requited.

    1. Straight
    2. Straight
    3. Gay, but thought I was too tall, too pale, too thin. He's mostly into black guys, which makes it harder for a pale guy like me
    4. Gay bear, had a 3 month relationship with me, then his muscle bear ex came to town and he fell in love with him instantly, dropping me as if nothing had happened. We're still good friends and I lunch at his house every Friday
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    Oct 04, 2014 2:38 AM GMT
    Yep, I have...and I go back and forth about whether it was a good thing or not. Before I knew how love felt, I didn't miss it. Now that I've had it and lost it, I know what I'm missing...and that kinda sucks. It's been years, and that feeling has never shown back up.

    I'm not so sure about the old saying "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".
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    Oct 04, 2014 3:36 AM GMT
    bon_salieri, the piece of shit, said

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