The Age when it Clicks

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    Oct 03, 2014 2:06 PM GMT
    I'm soon to be 28 yrs young/old. I've had my straight friend say 28 is the age when you start getting your "sh*t" together and everything clicks.

    Not to say there won't be future troubles but apparently at 28 a persons life improves exponentially.

    This is geared towards the mature RJ crowd but anyone can chime in, what are your thoughts? Did your life change course by the time you turned 28 or was it earlier/later?
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    Nobody really knows what will happen in the future. I hope my situation does get better when I'm 28. There are people at my work that are very old and they complain about their life.

    I'm doing everything I can to improve my situation. I think time is wasted by complaining, and should be spent doing something to get out of a situation.
    I think I went off topic. But anyway, sometimes things don't work out for people when they turn 28 or any age where they want to be stable. But, they can keep on trying until the desired result is achieved.
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    It's when you get a crapton of money for doing nothing e.g. redundancy, relative dying, something like that.
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    Oct 03, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    I am the exception then. Not really a good phase in my life.
    I am still struggling in terms of my career choices. I don't really have money, and I am quite unsure where my life is going.
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    Oct 03, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Remember how when you were a kid you just couldn't wait to be grown up?

    But now that we're adults we're doing everything we can to put the brakes on aging. But that kind of thinking doesn't kick in until your late 20s.

    Maybe this is someone's spin on accepting getting older.
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    Oct 04, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
    Gahh!!
    Well I'm obviously far behind because I know I won't have any kind of shit together by 28 and I knew it which is extra annoying.
    I won't be able to have enough money to put a deposit down into some 1 bedroom apartment investment property until the end of next year!!
    I will literally be starting from the basic beginnings by the end of next year and by the time I have a property that I like (if I do ever get it) it won't be until I'm one foot in the grave!!

    It just bothers me sooo much that I have little in my life to show for in the sense that I don't own anything yet and I'm going to be 30 soon. Like it really shits me.
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    Oct 04, 2014 4:04 AM GMT
    MartyredNeons saidGahh!!
    Well I'm obviously far behind because I know I won't have any kind of shit together by 28 and I knew it which is extra annoying.
    I won't be able to have enough money to put a deposit down into some 1 bedroom apartment investment property until the end of next year!!
    I will literally be starting from the basic beginnings by the end of next year and by the time I have a property that I like (if I do ever get it) it won't be until I'm one foot in the grave!!

    It just bothers me sooo much that I have little in my life to show for in the sense that I don't own anything yet and I'm going to be 30 soon. Like it really shits me.

    I was renting until I was 38. That could be because I live in California where real estate prices are inflated. Or because I was working for the state (and I was what I considered to be a reasonably paid computer programmer and sysadmin).
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    Oct 04, 2014 4:18 AM GMT
    Riko_sal saidI'm soon to be 28 yrs young/old. I've had my straight friend say 28 is the age when you start getting your "sh*t" together and everything clicks.

    Not to say there won't be future troubles but apparently at 28 a persons life improves exponentially.

    This is geared towards the mature RJ crowd but anyone can chime in, what are your thoughts? Did your life change course by the time you turned 28 or was it earlier/later?


    It was true for me, but for better or worse I spent most of my 20s trying to consciously work toward specific goals (and maybe missing out on a bit of fun in the process). If you've been working toward any sort of goal for the last few years, you're at an age where you can expect the overlap between youth and maturity (your "prime", so to speak) to serve you well in that pursuit.

    Even if you've been slacking icon_wink.gif, you're finally at the age where you don't have to let kids dominate your life, and where the rest of us will give you the benefit of the doubt and take you seriously without making you prove you're not going to waste our time. That, combined with the fact that you've likely been taking care of yourself for nearly 10 years now (on average, maybe more/less in your specific case), reduces the amount of BS you encounter on a daily basis at this point.
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    Oct 04, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
    lol Gay men are definitely the demographic that complains the most abut age.
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    Oct 04, 2014 6:30 AM GMT
    kevex saidlol Gay men are definitely the demographic that complains the most abut age.


    In the 1950s and 60s gay guys must have had so much disposable income, you could run a household on one income and there would not be those extra mouths to feed... if it wasn't for the whole being illegal thing, it could have been a pretty good deal.
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    Oct 04, 2014 7:11 AM GMT
    I don't think there's a set age when suddenly you're an "adult" and know what you want in life. I've met a few guys, both gay and straight, that seemed to get their act together by the time they hit 25. And I know a few guys in their 30s and 40s that still think they're in college without a care in the world. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 05, 2014 4:46 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI don't think there's a set age when suddenly you're an "adult" and know what you want in life. I've met a few guys, both gay and straight, that seemed to get their act together by the time they hit 25. And I know a few guys in their 30s and 40s that still think they're in college without a care in the world. icon_confused.gif


    I agree with this 100%, it depends on the person and their situation and opportunities in life. I have friends that have everything together already and they're no older than 23, and some friends who are almost 30 and just getting things together. I'm 24 and have known what I wanted sense 21. I just have to get through school. But I have my priorities straight, I put school and work first, have my carefree moments when I can, and I'm turning 25 in a week and I just feel myself cracking down more and more serious on life. In other words, I feel that it's just the whole, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." saying and the whole what you make of life in the moment.
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    Oct 05, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    if you believe it....thats how it will work.

    My life started to improve and stabilize DRAMATICALLY after age 35.....
    alot of guys are out of school and working in their field of interest....have come to terms with their orientation, have identified and are making peace with their personal demons, are finding their footing in life.....and you stop worrying about what everyone thinks about you....a bit of self confidence....and start to really understand your likes and dislikes....I know a lot of men that continue to grow taller upto about age 30.....so its very individual.
    I know 18 year olds....that are "OLD MEN"...and 70 year olds that never grew up and still want to be "party boys" looking for a daddy to take care of them.....everyone is different. don't worry about the numbers....you will be ok.
    Good luck.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 05, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
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    xrichx saidI don't think there's a set age when suddenly you're an "adult" and know what you want in life. I've met a few guys, both gay and straight, that seemed to get their act together by the time they hit 25. And I know a few guys in their 30s and 40s that still think they're in college without a care in the world. icon_confused.gif


    I agree with this 100%, it depends on the person and their situation and opportunities in life. I have friends that have everything together already and they're no older than 23, and some friends who are almost 30 and just getting things together. I'm 24 and have known what I wanted sense 21. I just have to get through school. But I have my priorities straight, I put school and work first, have my carefree moments when I can, and I'm turning 25 in a week and I just feel myself cracking down more and more serious on life. In other words, I feel that it's just the whole, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." saying and the whole what you make of life in the moment.


    The people it happens for first are often the ones who know what they want to do for a career. It makes a huge difference.
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    Oct 06, 2014 1:18 AM GMT
    lol.. didn't get the clicker ..If you live your life by the Myths of... at this time ...I should be this or that... You won't be Happy.....mine clicked at 36 and keeps on
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    Oct 06, 2014 2:00 AM GMT
    Nonsense! the age equals success/stability/maturity things is absolutely a myth! when I was younger and without much of anything, I felt just as fulfilled as I feel today when I have much, of what I did not have when younger! I have never ever put monetary or materialistic value on my accomplishments or love life, ever!! looking back now maybe, just maybe, that is why at 50 (my age) I am not jaded, bittered, unhappy, or complacent in every aspect of my life; even if at times the things that suppose to make me happy may slip away from time to time! I'm just thankful each day I grow older, that I get sweeter, happier, and more successful then the day before!

    To the OP; just be happy and thankful of what you already have and have accomplished! don't forget your true call in life is to be human! what is to be human? just be yourself and learn to appreciate and try to understand others, who like you are also striving to be themselves!

    Don't value your self worth on how much money you have in the bank, what kind of car you drive, where you live or how nice an apartment you live in, but what type of home you have made for yourself and those you welcome in; and finally stop looking for Prince Charming, because that is the biggest myth of them all!
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    Oct 06, 2014 2:23 AM GMT
    It "clicks" when you get a new mouse after your old one stops clicking.