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    Oct 06, 2014 4:54 PM GMT
    So, I was thinking about this today. Most of my friends (aside from gay men) are women. I just don't feel like I connect with the vast majority of straight men. It's almost like I have to put on an act and can't be myself. I doubt most guys even care, but, yeah...

    Ftr, I'm not at all camp or anything like that.

    Is it just me?
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    Oct 06, 2014 5:11 PM GMT
    I have 1 gay friend. Only 1. Rest are women or straight men.
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    Oct 06, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    Most of my friends are straight guys. Women are too whiny and gays are weird.
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    Oct 06, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Opposite happens to me, all my friends are straight. Dont really have girl friends except for some of the gfs and wives of my friends that also became my friends.
    I have some gay friends too but they're online (from RJ mostly )

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    Oct 06, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    I'm a loner, I don't really have anybody whom I could call best friend but I have very good buddies. Half girls half dudes, almost all of them are straights. I'm in the closet probably that's why I only have a couple gay buds.
    Maybe you are not that easy going that's why you have more girl friends, talking to girls is easier, you talk to them face to face while to guys you talk shoulder to shoulder you know what I mean? Like fishing next to each other both looking at the water and you talk about serious things like that. So guys who talk a lot have more girl friends imo.
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    Oct 06, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    ^sounds about right icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 06, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidSo, I was thinking about this today. Most of my friends (aside from gay men) are women. I just don't feel like I connect with the vast majority of straight men. It's almost like I have to put on an act and can't be myself. I doubt most guys even care, but, yeah...

    Ftr, I'm not at all camp or anything like that.

    Is it just me?


    Right? I mean I can't be 100% myself in front of straight guys cause I'm afraid they won't be able to handle it (not that i'm super extravagant or anything, but straight guys are just so uptight).
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    Oct 06, 2014 8:50 PM GMT
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    Jms31 saidSo, I was thinking about this today. Most of my friends (aside from gay men) are women. I just don't feel like I connect with the vast majority of straight men. It's almost like I have to put on an act and can't be myself. I doubt most guys even care, but, yeah...

    Ftr, I'm not at all camp or anything like that.

    Is it just me?


    Right? I mean I can't be 100% myself in front of straight guys cause I'm afraid they won't be able to handle it (not that i'm super extravagant or anything, but straight guys are just so uptight).


    Glad it's not just me...
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    Oct 06, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    I have acquaintances and all except one are middle aged women lol but i tend to be liked by everyone even a tough muscle fella lol
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    Oct 06, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    I know how you feel.
    I know this is just my own little extreme but I actually try avoid straight guys because growing up as an effeminate guy, most of the hostility I ever faced were from straight homophobic men.
    I guess that's why I've never understood the straight fetish phenomena of some gay men because I am more likely to feel afraid of one then have a crush on one.
    I don't have any gay friends which is a little sad because I wished I had some. I don't know if I'm just thrown off by the straight acting.

    It's probably the stereotype of an effeminate guy but all the people close to me are all female. In my experience I've just found them to be more willing to accept me as I am.

    lad89I have acquaintances and all except one are middle aged women lol but i tend to be liked by everyone even a tough muscle fella lol

    That's because you're a nice guy icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 06, 2014 11:12 PM GMT
    But then some guys are very open minded and you can tell them anything and they seem so intrigued.
    Well of course they're intrigued, I'm so fab, hello! LOL
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    MartyredNeons saidI know how you feel.
    I know this is just my own little extreme but I actually try avoid straight guys because growing up as an effeminate guy, most of the hostility I ever faced were from straight homophobic men.
    I guess that's why I've never understood the straight fetish phenomena of some gay men because I am more likely to feel afraid of one then have a crush on one.
    I don't have any gay friends which is a little sad because I wished I had some. I don't know if I'm just thrown off by the straight acting.

    It's probably the stereotype of an effeminate guy but all the people close to me are all female. In my experience I've just found them to be more willing to accept me as I am.

    lad89I have acquaintances and all except one are middle aged women lol but i tend to be liked by everyone even a tough muscle fella lol

    That's because you're a nice guy icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:37 PM GMT

    old school

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0-X164HhVDE

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    Oct 07, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
    I have straight , bi and gay mates .
    I also have girlfriends
    My point : if your friends cannot handle your sexual orientation , they not really your friends !
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:58 PM GMT
    I have a good number of both gay and straight friends, and they're all wonderful! I met all of them in person and now that I think about it, I seem to have issues trying to meet and be friends with guys online. I'm hoping this changes when I head to the West Coast for my travel work assignment, as I've met (on this site) some very cool guys from California and Arizona.
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    Oct 07, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    ^^^^^If you're coming to SF (Silicon Valley), we're still looking forward to meeting up and showing you around. PM us with your dates / etc. when you know them!
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    Oct 07, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    ^^^^^ Thanks and I certainly will! You and eb925guy! Most likely, I'll get an assignment at UCSF or in Walnut Creek. icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif