Overweight Men

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    Oct 06, 2014 9:54 PM GMT
    Anybody have a thing for hairy overweight men? Kind of like bears, but not in shape.
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    Oct 06, 2014 11:02 PM GMT
    Yup, that's why I joined a site called RealJOCK. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 1:39 PM GMT
    Sorry, no.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:28 PM GMT
    Yeah. Especially when they sweat a lot and have bad hygiene.
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:59 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidYeah. Especially when they sweat a lot and have bad hygiene.


    Agreed! The back hair is really attractive too! icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    Oh well, at least there won't be a shortage of your "type"...

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    Oct 07, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    MakarOO5 saidAnybody have a thing for hairy overweight men?
    Yeah, that "thing" is called the door. icon_twisted.gif
  • vhotti26

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    Oct 07, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    Maybe the address of a good nutritionist and a gym as well, but that would be about it...
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 07, 2014 6:38 PM GMT
    An overweight and out of shape man?

    No, I do not.
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    Oct 07, 2014 6:42 PM GMT
    oh the condescension in this thread
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 07, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidoh the condescension in this thread


    Oh come on. So boyfriend material?

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  • FRE0

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    Oct 07, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    I find obesity unattractive. However, to be fair, we have to admit that some obese people have been very productive in various fields, including medicine, science, politics, etc. So, although I could be a friend of an obese person, I could not imagine going beyond that.
  • vhotti26

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    Oct 07, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidoh the condescension in this thread


    Nothing to do with that. We were asked for our sexual preference and gave an honest answer. It's hardly condescending to say 'I'm not into overweight guys'. Or is it also condescending that I am not into women?
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    Oct 07, 2014 9:48 PM GMT
    No matter how nice, honest and intelligent someone is I just cannot find them attractive if they allow their physical health to deteriorate that way. I'll admit that I'm certainly no Men's Health covermodel myself but obesity combined with intelligence almost makes me desire them even less since it shows a lack of desire to take care of themselves even though they're probably aware that they should.

    I don't have a personal problem with obese people except for a few specific circumstances. When I hear about so-called "Fat advocacy groups" who lobby the gov't to recognize obesity as a medical condition i get pretty angry and also when they pitch a fit because you won't even consider going out with them, regardless of how polite you were in saying "no" as if their interest in you somehow overrides your disinterest in them.
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    Oct 07, 2014 11:19 PM GMT
    As an overweight person myself (currently working to fix that), I do understand and respect people who say that they're not attracted to someone because of their weight. In fact, I myself am not attracted to other guys who are overweight so why should I expect anyone to be attracted to me? This is the reason why I'm working hard to get in the shape that I want to be in.

    However, there are a lot of different factors as to why someone might be overweight or obese. For me, a lot of it had to do with depression (and me being physically ill back in high school) and I think the same is the case for a lot of other people who are overweight or obese. When you're in a depression, the last thing you want to do is go to the gym or play a sport. It's hard enough to do your basic daily activities, let alone work out and cook/eat properly. Not to mention that doctors putting you on antidepressants doesn't help either.

    You don't know what someone is going through or has been through that has caused them to be the way they are, so think before you pass judgment. It's okay if you don't find someone attractive, but you don't have to look down on them either. Being healthier doesn't make you a better person than them.
  • An0n12

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    Oct 08, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    I do not but to each their own.
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    Oct 08, 2014 1:55 AM GMT
    Are we talking cookie crumbs in fat folds obese?

    Sorry, but I'm not "all about the bass."
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 08, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    ant811 saidAs an overweight person myself (currently working to fix that), I do understand and respect people who say that they're not attracted to someone because of their weight. In fact, I myself am not attracted to other guys who are overweight so why should I expect anyone to be attracted to me? This is the reason why I'm working hard to get in the shape that I want to be in.

    However, there are a lot of different factors as to why someone might be overweight or obese. For me, a lot of it had to do with depression (and me being physically ill back in high school) and I think the same is the case for a lot of other people who are overweight or obese. When you're in a depression, the last thing you want to do is go to the gym or play a sport. It's hard enough to do your basic daily activities, let alone work out and cook/eat properly. Not to mention that doctors putting you on antidepressants doesn't help either.

    You don't know what someone is going through or has been through that has caused them to be the way they are, so think before you pass judgment. It's okay if you don't find someone attractive, but you don't have to look down on them either. Being healthier doesn't make you a better person than them.


    I appreciate your response. I'd say the following:

    (1). Fetish question? The OP asked if "we" (all of us, gay/straight, fat/skinny) had a "thing" for "overweight" AND "out of shape" guys. There's a difference between "digging" overweight guys (as if they're better than average weight or slim guys) and NOT being attracted to overweight guys period. I admit it's a bit of a technicality, but it's honestly how I thought of the question. I don't have a "thing" for skinny, average, or overweight guys. However, I do specifically have a thing against "out of shape" guys. And for the record, any person can be "out of shape," there are countless "skinny fat" guys who look like skinny starving men with a pudgy belly that resembles a pregnant woman. "Out of shape" crosses ALL types, but I will readily admit "out of shape" comports more to overweight guys. Perhaps I'm quibbling, but I took the question as a fetish question, not a judgment on overweight people as a general category. For example, I DO have a thing for guys wearing socks, but I don't have an aversion against sex with a guy without socks. My fetish adds to the equation, it doesn't block barefoot guys (my b/f is usually, without even thinking, barefoot when we have sex).

    (2). I readily see how in re-reading what I wrote, that I came across as a bit anti-fat. However, I still stand behind the substance of my posts, which is that I honestly don't think most guys on RJ--sadly myself included--would consider dating an overweight AND out of shape guy (you an be overweight and in shape....look at any body builder).

    (3). Not that it matters, but I personally find you attractive physically.

    (4). I'm not going to try to say being skinny is "like" being fat in modern America. However, I would say that skinny guys (especially when I was younger and skinnier) get rebuked by society a bit. Images of "healthy" men are always ripped, adonis bodies that look like you have to take steroids to attain the physique. And not that it scarred me for life, but let's just say that I was called "XXXX Bones" because it rhymed all throughout elementary school. I admit being larger is WAY more difficult than being slimmer in our society, but unless you fit the GQ ideal, I suspect most men go through a phase (a few years or so?) of body image issues.

    (5). I agree that being slimmer does not make you a better person (obviously, but I thought I'd say it for the record). I'll take Melissa McCarthy over Jenny McCarthy any day.
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    Oct 08, 2014 2:34 AM GMT
    Lol I just saw a movie called *Bear City about a young cub chasing Bears in NYC. Cute movie. As for me, no, I don't like Bear guys in a sexual way but most of them are pretty cool and nice. I was in a bar in SF a long time ago, called 440 Bar or Daddys? Lol I met some friends and ordered a drink and this Bear guy just came over and grabbed me and squeezed me from behind. Lol hahaha too bad i'm not a bear-chaser. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 08, 2014 3:20 AM GMT



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  • ATLANTIS7

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    Oct 08, 2014 8:38 AM GMT
    Never if i wanted a whale on top of me i would go for a swim in the ocean!
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    Oct 08, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
    I have found my tolerance for overweight has decreased significantly as I have worked hard to remain somewhat fit. People seem to believe that if you're thin, you're born that way and have to do nothing to maintain that look. That is SO wrong and I've begun resenting that attitude. I see people regularly who just need to stop eating or rethink their eating habits but they chose not to. Even commercials on TV embrace it as OK, a recent commercial where a woman had diabetic nerve pain shows she and her husband shopping, both (especially him) clearly overweight/obese! She wouldn't have pain in her feet if she wasn't carrying an extra couple of hundred pounds around daily and she wouldn't have diabetes if she wasn't so overweight!

    No, not attractive and not preventable. People are just becoming lazy and complacent and that is NOT attractive at all!
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    Oct 08, 2014 6:32 PM GMT
    ant811 saidI myself am not attracted to other guys who are overweight so why should I expect anyone to be attracted to me?

    Exactly. And it doesn't bother me a bit that guys aren't interested in someone my age (61). Of course, this acceptance is no doubt easier for me since I've been celibate for decades. When I was young I was shocked to find out that there were young guys who liked older guys.

    We can't dictate what people "should be" sexually attracted to.
  • FRE0

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    Oct 08, 2014 7:09 PM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidLol I just saw a movie called *Bear City about a young cub chasing Bears in NYC. Cute movie. As for me, no, I don't like Bear guys in a sexual way but most of them are pretty cool and nice. I was in a bar in SF a long time ago, called 440 Bar or Daddys? Lol I met some friends and ordered a drink and this Bear guy just came over and grabbed me and squeezed me from behind. Lol hahaha too bad i'm not a bear-chaser. icon_cool.gif


    Why is it called the 440 bar? Is that 440 as in A 440?
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    Oct 08, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidI have found my tolerance for overweight has decreased significantly as I have worked hard to remain somewhat fit. People seem to believe that if you're thin, you're born that way and have to do nothing to maintain that look. That is SO wrong and I've begun resenting that attitude. I see people regularly who just need to stop eating or rethink their eating habits but they chose not to. Even commercials on TV embrace it as OK, a recent commercial where a woman had diabetic nerve pain shows she and her husband shopping, both (especially him) clearly overweight/obese! She wouldn't have pain in her feet if she wasn't carrying an extra couple of hundred pounds around daily and she wouldn't have diabetes if she wasn't so overweight!

    No, not attractive and not preventable. People are just becoming lazy and complacent and that is NOT attractive at all!


    the boldfaced statement is SO F*CKING TRUE! I'm by no means overweight but I'm not in the best shape I could so when i tell people i'm "going on a diet" or "cleaning my diet up" they FREAK THE FUCK OUT and say things like "You're too skinny already" and "You don't need to diet, you look fine!". Of course if I then tell them that I actually weigh 160lb (not now) median weight they don't believe that either: "No way! You're lying, what are you? 140?" (also it should be noted that people here don't know what 140 looks like unless its an Asian person). Even other skinny people are assholes about it! My mom is a size NOTHING and when i can tell her till i'm blue in the face that I need to lose weight and get into shape and she doesn't believe me unless i pull up my shirt and stop "sucking it in". She also recently claimed my rapid weight loss was NOT a result of me eating healthy and exercising and IN FACT a result of a medication i was taking. Which is bullshit because the next day i fell off the wagon and i've gained it all back by now....bitch