Does my friend like me? Advice


  • Oct 06, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
    So I met a new friend. Weve been hanging out everyday for a couple of weeks now. Im a couple of years older than him. I know I am not his type, but he always wants to hang out with me everyday and tries to plan things for us (watch movies, theme parks, dinner). I feel like we are a couple only without a label. He always texts and calls me. I am afraid that I might fall for him. We get along great. The only thing is that I am not his type. We talk about guys and check out guys the same time. I wonder if its just because he finds me the most convenient to hang out with. He has mentioned how some of my traits reminds him of his parents. He lives alone too. I do not really know what to do. Advice?
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    Oct 06, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 saidSo I met a new friend. Weve been hanging out everyday for a couple of weeks now. Im a couple of years older than him. I know I am not his type, but he always wants to hang out with me everyday and tries to plan things for us (watch movies, theme parks, dinner). I feel like we are a couple only without a label. He always texts and calls me. I am afraid that I might fall for him. We get along great. The only thing is that I am not his type. We talk about guys and check out guys the same time. I wonder if its just because he finds me the most convenient to hang out with. He has mentioned how some of my traits reminds him of his mom. He lives alone too. I do not really know what to do. Advice?


    Dude....it's called "friendship."

  • Oct 06, 2014 11:41 PM GMT


    Dude....it's called "friendship." [/quote]


    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?
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    Oct 07, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 saidHe lives alone too. I do not really know what to do.


    Spending time together is what friends do.

    But, spend the whole day together?? Are you both unemployed? (Sorry to hear it, if you are) or have independently means?

    Get a life? And enjoy the time you do spend with the friend.


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    Oct 07, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?[/quote]

    yes....
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:45 AM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?[/quote]


    Ummm........yes. You already know you're not his type, plus if he were interested in you in that way, he would not be foaming at the mouth over other guys when he was with you. And the mother comment is the last nail in the coffin. Would you be attracted to someone who reminded you of your mother?
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:28 AM GMT
    Why do I see so many guys do the stupid tongue thing in their profile pics, like the OP's pic? Is that a reference to something? icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:36 AM GMT
    It seems like the both of you are really good friends. Don't over think it.
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:38 AM GMT
    how many years is he younger by?

    Younger folk always need a "buddy" to hang out and do stuff with, they hate being "bored" like its a disease or something.

  • Oct 07, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
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    oliverkrant2000 saidHe lives alone too. I do not really know what to do.


    Spending time together is what friends do.

    But, spend the whole day together?? Are you both unemployed? (Sorry to hear it, if you are) or have independently means?

    Get a life? And enjoy the time you do spend with the friend.





    we hang out mostly the whole day on weekends and when are not working or going to schol

  • Oct 07, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    Omega_Einhorne saidhow many years is he younger by?

    Younger folk always need a "buddy" to hang out and do stuff with, they hate being "bored" like its a disease or something.


    im only 3 years older than him

  • Oct 07, 2014 5:47 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?


    And the mother comment is the last nail in the coffin. Would you be attracted to someone who reminded you of your mother?[/quote
    ]

    I read a study that yorue normally attracted to someone whom has similar traits with the person you look up to... like I am similar to one fo my exes father. Thats all
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    Dude, you're in the friend zone with this one. Don't think too much about it otherwise you're bound to do something and eventually fuck up the friendship because you can't leave well enough alone.
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?[/quote]

    Yes, my best friend and I do it all the time and he's been my best friend for almost 20 years.
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    Omega_Einhorne saidhow many years is he younger by?

    Younger folk always need a "buddy" to hang out and do stuff with, they hate being "bored" like its a disease or something.


    This question is irrelevant!
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:54 PM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 said
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?


    And the mother comment is the last nail in the coffin. Would you be attracted to someone who reminded you of your mother?[/quote
    ]

    I read a study that yorue normally attracted to someone whom has similar traits with the person you look up to... like I am similar to one fo my exes father. Thats all


    Dude.....get a fucking clue. You remind him of his MOM.....ya know......a nagging FEMALE? Good grief, get a clue. icon_rolleyes.gif

  • Oct 07, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?


    And the mother comment is the last nail in the coffin. Would you be attracted to someone who reminded you of your mother?[/quote
    ]

    I read a study that yorue normally attracted to someone whom has similar traits with the person you look up to... like I am similar to one fo my exes father. Thats all


    Dude.....get a fucking clue. You remind him of his MOM.....ya know......a nagging FEMALE? Good grief, get a clue. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Sorry I mean I remind him of his Mom and Dad...but thanks... reaffirming my thoughts
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    Oct 07, 2014 9:42 PM GMT
    Just enjoy what you have. Let him know you are still interested, because he should know that. But also go on a date with some other guys, so you know what's out there.
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    Oct 07, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    Bromance bro !! Lol, don't overthink it, just try to get together with other guys. If he's turning jealous, then hell yeah he wants you. Until then, you two are just friends.
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    Oct 08, 2014 10:45 PM GMT
    your original post said parents, not mom, so no need for the sorry. And off topic stop replying so nicely to people, particularly the mouthy ones.
    But yes prob not worth acting on. I've very deep friendships with guys that are nothing more then that. It's those bloody straight boys thats the problem; tryen to cop a feel when they got a drink in em!

    Maybe ease up on the time spent together for your own sake.
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    Oct 09, 2014 2:16 AM GMT
    Irishlad_1 saidyour original post said parents, not mom, so no need for the sorry. And off topic stop replying so nicely to people, particularly the mouthy ones.
    But yes prob not worth acting on. I've very deep friendships with guys that are nothing more then that. It's those bloody straight boys thats the problem; tryen to cop a feel when they got a drink in em!

    Maybe ease up on the time spent together for your own sake.


    Agree with this and also sounds like you like him more than friends.icon_idea.gif
  • C_Dezi

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    Oct 09, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    you're in love with him. so sad. why can't gay dudes just be friends with each other instead of always wanting to jump into bed. don't worry, he doesn't want anything to do with you like that. he's made that clear. you won't have to worry about it any more after you fuck it up by trying to have sex with him and he never wants to see you again. problem solved.
  • Bevik

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    Oct 09, 2014 2:30 AM GMT
    As someone who has been on the receiving end of this a number of times.

    Be careful. I've lost two friends because they took "hanging out" with them for "interested" despite being very obvious. I would talk about other guys I liked. I told him I didn't like effeminate guys and within the hour DESCRIBED him as effeminate. Come to think about it I was pretty rude about it. He fell for me hard and I ended up having to just cut him off because he started going nuts.

    Also, yes. When I'm liking a friendship I will hang out with the guy daily. When I was in college I would just pack a bag and crash at a buddy's place every day on weeks off despite the fact that we lived in the same town.

    I mean I'm not there with you. Maybe this is more. The way you described it though, it doesn't sound like it is.

    Good luck either way =D
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    Oct 09, 2014 2:42 AM GMT
    oliverkrant2000 said
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said
    Scruffypup said
    oliverkrant2000 said

    Dude....it's called "friendship."



    I know...but would you really hang out with your friend for more than 2 weeks straight? and spend the whole day with them?


    And the mother comment is the last nail in the coffin. Would you be attracted to someone who reminded you of your mother?[/quote
    ]

    I read a study that yorue normally attracted to someone whom has similar traits with the person you look up to... like I am similar to one fo my exes father. Thats all


    Dude.....get a fucking clue. You remind him of his MOM.....ya know......a nagging FEMALE? Good grief, get a clue. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Sorry I mean I remind him of his Mom and Dad...but thanks... reaffirming my thoughts


    Now you're just lying. icon_rolleyes.gif