Does anyone (namely gay men over 21) still do movie dates anymore?

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    Oct 07, 2014 7:38 AM GMT
    Is it just me, or has it been a long time since you've been asked out to a movie, or asked a guy out to a movie? There's literally only 2 guys I know as of present, who are actually open to going to movies with me occasionally. Nowadays, I don't ever get asked out to a movie. I will say, this wasn't an issue until I moved to Denver (guys don't seem to be into movies out there)...but even in other places, I notice it still isn't quite #1 on priority. I wonder if it's an age thing, where now going to a movie was something you did when you were 19 and shit.

    Now, I know Netflix/Rebox plays a big part in changing how people see movies, but it seems to me like some guys go out of their way to avoid GOING to a movie. It just doesn't ever come up in conversation anymore. I also know the whole "never go to a movie on 1st date" theory...but people are still going out on dates to the movies though. I think we as a culture seem to be centering our entertainment around hookup apps and bars (if I had $50 million for every gay person saying they're having their birthday/going to someone who's having a birthday party at a damn circuit club, I'd be a billionaire'). How uninspiring can a culture be to have their birthday party at the same ole, tired ass club they go to every week anyway?

    What do you think? I think this is a by-product of not being able to say you're dating someone. When straight people are seen at a movie together, they're dating. Too many guys want to avoid appearing to be dating in public, but want to be everything under the sun at night.
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    Oct 07, 2014 7:46 AM GMT
    The only time, besides cuddling with someone, I enjoy the feeling of being touched by a guy.
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    Oct 07, 2014 7:47 AM GMT
    The thing is that movie dating is awkward? Guys these days seem to prefer a chat over a coffee and then maybe a walk. You can't do that easily in a cinema environment.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:11 PM GMT
    Lol I still.do movie dates xP but not much cause movie dates u can't reaalli talk to the person..
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:26 PM GMT
    A movie would be a bad date for when you're getting to know someone. If he's your boyfriend it's a fine way to spend an evening.
    I'm not a huge fan of movies but my boyfriend loves them so we go every once in awhile.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:28 PM GMT
    Well I did until 2007, when I settled down with my present partner. We'll go to movies, but not "dates" anymore in the classic sense. But we're still 2 guys going to the movie together. We don't give that aspect a thought, and I never hear any comments behind our backs.

    At the same time, we see fewer movies today, because a theatre can be a hassle. The uncomfortable seats bother us, and you're stuck in place the whole time. The price is exorbitant and the sound level is usually too loud. If you leave your seat you miss something. And of course the prices for snacks are ridiculous. And these "multi-plexes" are nothing more than bare boxes, not the grand experience the old movie palaces once were.

    Whereas we have an HDTV at home, with 3-D, and a Blu-ray player. I'd rather buy a disk, that we can watch as many times as we like. Enjoy our own snacks, no concerns about driving or parking, pause the player when we get up for something, even watch it reclining, can be in our boxers or even naked if we like. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
    I would advise against it as a first date. Unless you are grabbing lunch/dinner beforehand. I have done this before and it lead to a second, third, fourth date.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    I go to the movies all the time with my friends. Either in group or 1-on-1.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:51 PM GMT
    I really don't see the point of movie dates. When I go on a date, I want to talk to the person and get intimate. How is that possible while watching a movie? When I'm in a theater, I go to watch movies and that's it, not to chat or make out with someone.
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    Oct 07, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    Movie dates generally suck as first dates because establishing chemistry is the first priority not watching a movie. It's something you do once you are an established couple and enjoy doing things together.

    Guys that you meet on gay hookups sites don't want to waste their time watching a movie when they just want a quick fuck . They want to go to the movies with friends.
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    My partner and I go to a movie together every week or so. Then we go out to dinner. I don't know why that wouldn't be considered a date.
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:12 PM GMT
    I love em..you can talk after the movie
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
    xBEHEMOTHx saidI love em..you can talk after the movie
    if u would only talk...icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 3:28 PM GMT
    Movie tickets are too expensive! Rent a movie through Redbox instead so you can watch it privately. Then forget the movie and hookup. It's really easy! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 07, 2014 4:56 PM GMT
    Only rarely, and then for the few truly good films that sporadically come out. "Life of Pi" was the last. Theatre prices, rude audiences, and the general hassle involved all counsel for cuddling a casa on the couch. Having friends over for drinks, dinner, and a movie is also much easier and more enjoyable than trooping off to a flick.
  • stratavos

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    Oct 07, 2014 5:10 PM GMT
    I love going out to see movies... as long as we're actually seeing the movie or discussing it. (video is sacred to me, especially if I haven't seen it yet)

    However, if this is a time when they're expecting to be able to put their hand down my pants, or for me to put mine in theirs, it's gotta be a really boring movie, or they mid as well just state they wanted to "fool around" in the first place. (I've yet to be in an adult theater yet though so different etiquette there)
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    Oct 07, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    I have Netflix, a 3D TV, a Bose, and beer in the fridge. No need for an over-priced theater.
  • buddycat

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    Oct 07, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    The only time I went to a movie on a date was with a guy I wasn't interested in at all. Probably best not to be to go unless I specify only as friends. I usually prefer doing something in a more gay friendly place or area. The only movie theater there is a porn theater if any. icon_lol.gif.
  • wellwell

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    Oct 07, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    ...Don't like them; because, I'm still waiting for someone to do that popcorn box surprise on me.
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 07, 2014 6:35 PM GMT
    There will always be a need for movie theatres (perhaps simply fewer). I'm not a huge movie theatre guy, but I had one former boyfriend and my current boyfriend both love seeing movies in a threatre, so I get dragged about twice a month. I'd never want to do a movie date on the first date because you can't talk or communicate.

    (1). There is no substitute for movie theatre popcorn and butter. Period.

    (2). There is no substitute for a 3D IMAX screen viewing of an action/adventure film.

    (3). There is no substitute for the camradarie or "together" feeling that happens when you intuitively understand that EVERYONE in that room is experiencing the same dialogue/music/scene and therefore likely feeling. I suppose this same feeling could turn you off, but that's probably some disorder. Most humans like to feel "connected" every now and then.

    I say thumbs-up to movie dates.
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    Oct 07, 2014 8:10 PM GMT
    i do, i think movies dates are cute and fun. Been a while since I was on one.
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    Oct 07, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    wellwell said...Don't like them; because, I'm still waiting for someone to do that popcorn box surprise on me.


    So romantic! Imagining it makes me horny...
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    Oct 07, 2014 9:52 PM GMT
    If you start dating a guy and go to a movie with him, and don't understand a thing about the movie cause you too busy not watching it, then you know you like the guy ...

    I think going to the movies is cute, but only if you've been dating for a little while.

    (That being said I did go to a movie with a guy I had been dating for a month and we were sitting on the balcony, at the back. We did not watch the movie. At all... wink wink)
  • Chargermuscle

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    Oct 07, 2014 11:00 PM GMT
    Yes, my boyfriend and I do dinner and movie dates occasionally. It is good to mix it up...hikes, skiing, museums, concerts, and festivals.
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    Oct 07, 2014 11:11 PM GMT
    rigsby saidMy partner and I go to a movie together every week or so. Then we go out to dinner. I don't know why that wouldn't be considered a date.

    A matter of definition, I suppose. I thiink of dating activities as something you do while dating, not while LTR partners. But it's nice to go out with your guy at any time, with all the fixings, no matter what we call it. icon_biggrin.gif