Gay Twins or brothers question

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    Jan 15, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    Just wondering if anyone else have a twin here and if so are they gay too?

    I have a cousin who i call my twin cousin because we both look exactly the same.. i dunno how it's a strange phenomenon . anyhow we're the same mix, same looks (we confuse our own family members and close friends) , same taste, very similar personalities and such.

    for some reason i suspect he's gay as well but won't admit to it but its like i know it.. if you have a twin you know what i'm talking about by saying the 'twin instinct'

    how did you guys come out to each other? my brother lives in another country right now so yeah it's a big of an obstacle but when we talk, its more than words that i can sense in him.
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    Jan 15, 2009 9:26 PM GMT
    i have dated several guys with twin brothers. none of their twins were openly gay. my first boyfriend's twin might have been closeted.
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    Jan 15, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    My sister is my twin. She is a lesbian. Either she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body, or I am a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

    Just kidding.

    Being one of the few males in the family, I am aware of several cousins and a couple of aunt's who are lesbian. Who says it doesn't run in the family?

    She came out to me officially I guess about 10 years ago, matter of factly. Was no big thing. I finally admitted it 9 years ago. It wasn't forced. I don't believe it should be a forced event as a result.
  • ajw18

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    Jan 15, 2009 11:48 PM GMT
    My male older cousin is gay. I have not come out to my family (besides my older brother). It is interesting to see how everyone reacts to him.

    Although I read online that identical twins are almost always both homosexual or both heterosexual.
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    Jan 16, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    Being an identical twin I understand the “twin instinct” thing. We have lived apart for a very long time but yet lived very similar lives. I often wonder if he is struggling as I. I’m still working on who I am in all this so can’t speak to how you talk with him. I would say if you understand those instinct feelings well, you will know when to talk with him. From the stats I’ve read it like 50% chance that both twins are gay, not sure about the cousin factor. Really, there is so little actual data yet so many questions we all want to know. I guess that’s why life is called a journey.

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    Jan 16, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    I have a twin brother. He is married with kids. I never got the vibe that he was even remotely gay. My older sister is a lesbian though
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    Jan 16, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    My identical twin bro and I both turned out gay. We have differnces but are still the "double mint twins.
  • westguy79

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    Jan 16, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    My indentical twin and I are both gay. It took him 5 years after I came out for him to come out.
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    Jan 16, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    I was in a serious relationship with someone who's brother is a major closet case. We agreed with his older brother that the other brother was in a serious state of denial about it.
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    Jan 16, 2009 2:43 AM GMT
    My older brother might be in the closet. It's sad, cause it's gonna be tough for my parents when they find out their two sons are gay (I haven't come out to them yet).

    I've seen it in other families too. It seems to be a combination of genetics, absent father and a possesive mother.
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    Jan 16, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    curshav saidMy older brother might be in the closet. It's sad, cause it's gonna be tough for my parents when they find out their two sons are gay (I haven't come out to them yet).

    I've seen it in other families too. It seems to be a combination of genetics, absent father and a possesive mother.


    sexual orientation has nothing to do with how one was raised. other wised id still be pre-pubescent cause my dad never gave me the talk. and my mom died when i was 8. so technically id be more LESBIAN than gay lol

    get a life lol
  • packy70

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    Jan 16, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    My identical twin and i are called "mirror twins" opposites. He is straight, I am obviously not. He is happily married and has a beautiful daughter. I do imagine coming out to him was a bit hard for him, if it made him wonder about him. But he was very supportive.

    A study says that twins with opposite orientations could have experienced a difference in hormone acquisition in utero. I may not have gotten as much testosterone in the womb...He always had a hard time sharing! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 17, 2009 12:47 AM GMT
    Patrick88 said
    curshav saidMy older brother might be in the closet. It's sad, cause it's gonna be tough for my parents when they find out their two sons are gay (I haven't come out to them yet).

    I've seen it in other families too. It seems to be a combination of genetics, absent father and a possesive mother.


    sexual orientation has nothing to do with how one was raised. other wised id still be pre-pubescent cause my dad never gave me the talk. and my mom died when i was 8. so technically id be more LESBIAN than gay lol

    get a life lol


    Well, I was just pointing out that those characteristics were present in all the cases I've seen in real life. My personal belief is that it is a genetic factor environmentally triggered, but who knows... Every study says a new thing.
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    Jan 17, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    I have an identical twin brother, he's heterosexual. We were both involved in a study regarding this very issue, begs the question of genetics apropos to one's upbringing.
  • lifeat84

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    Apr 09, 2009 3:16 AM GMT
    My older brother and I are both gay, and for a while right after high school one of our older sisters thought she was a lesbian...but it turns out all 4 of us are attracted to men...Very different types of men, but men one the less.
  • sportsjockla

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    Apr 09, 2009 3:28 AM GMT
    I dated a guy several years back, who had 4 brothers. All were gay! the parents realized the grandkid scenario is out!
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    Apr 09, 2009 3:30 AM GMT
    I've got an identical twin, he's anything but gay. I sometimes wonder, but in every discussion I've ever had with him, it's been a stern "hell no".

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    Apr 09, 2009 3:31 AM GMT
    I'm an identical triplet, and I'm the only gay one. One (suspected) closeted cousin though.
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    Apr 09, 2009 3:39 AM GMT
    sexual orientation has nothing to do with how one was raised. other wised id still be pre-pubescent cause my dad never gave me the talk. and my mom died when i was 8. so technically id be more LESBIAN than gay lol

    get a life lol


    a li'l rude icon_rolleyes.gif

    just because he has an opinion doesn't mean he doesn't have a life, geez.
  • iiheartwaves

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    Apr 09, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    I have three friends who are identical triplets and all gay as well
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    Apr 09, 2009 4:14 AM GMT
    I'm somewhat relieved that my twin brother isn't gay, given his tendency to be casual with his relationships--i.e., frequent hookups.

    Albeit the risk is still present for transmitting HIV among heterosexual couples, I feel that given his reputation he would've caught something had he slept around with men--if at the same rate as with women.

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    Apr 09, 2009 4:22 AM GMT
    I'm oldest as a triplet and I'm the only gay one. The 2nd oldest is straight and sadly the youngest of the three didn't live past 5 so we can't quite say how he would've turned out.

    Money says he would've been straight.
  • styrgan

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    Apr 09, 2009 4:27 AM GMT
    My older brother is straight, but he's messed around with guys a couple times when he was younger... I guess that would be a phase?
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    Apr 09, 2009 4:27 AM GMT
    I'm the only gay one in my family, but my family is kinda conservative. I've not seen any skeletons in the closet, but I haven't been looking.
  • styrgan

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    Apr 09, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    Oh!!!! I feel like I should have remembered this. My friend Tom who lives out in Pittsburgh has two brothers and a sister. But all three of the boys are gay. Which is pretty rare...