Gays that dated, married and/or slept with women: Why?

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    Oct 14, 2014 1:57 AM GMT
    Why did you do it? Did you wanted to change your sexuality, please your parents, you wanted to have children? What were you thinking? icon_question.gif Why didn't you just wait awhile until you met a guy you could date or have sex with? icon_question.gif


    Additional awkward question: What were you thinking while you were kissing or having sex with her? Did it disgust you? lol

    I just want answers from gay men and not bisexuals. It's pretty obvious why a bisexual would have sex with women so that's why I don't care about a bisexual's response, I want a gay man's response.

    EDIT: If you feel that there is too much drama caused by the hetero-normative trolls, you can PM me your story. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 14, 2014 6:21 AM GMT
    I actually hooked up with a girl after I came out.

    Just like how some straight guys experiment with a guy to see if they like it, my experience was the same in reverse.

    She was my best friend, she isn't anymore because of other issues but this was years ago.

    I told her I wanted to try it once just so I could say that I did it.
    Physically it felt good, and it was also a lot easier because you don't have to force your d*ck in at first and wait for it to loosen up like a guys ass, a vagina is designed to be penetrated so it slips right in. Downside is that there is less friction and unlike an ass, a vagina bottoms out at a point where you cannot go any deeper if you wanted too.

    However, it wasn't something I want to do again, although I don't regret it at all.
    My thoughts were: at first "do I like this? why are most guys so crazy about this?" and at a certain point I was like "I just want to finish and not insult her by stopping before she comes, so I'm gonna pretend she's Zac Efron and pound her accordingly."

    For reference, this happened in 2008.
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    Oct 14, 2014 8:26 AM GMT
    jayfromBK93 said
    My thoughts were: at first "do I like this? why are most guys so crazy about this?" and at a certain point I was like "I just want to finish and not insult her by stopping before she comes, so I'm gonna pretend she's Zac Efron and pound her accordingly."

    For reference, this happened in 2008.

    icon_lol.gif That isn't very hard to imagine.
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    Oct 14, 2014 10:02 AM GMT
    kevex saidWhy did you do it? Did you wanted to change your sexuality, please your parents, you were bi-curious, you wanted to have children? What were you thinking? icon_question.gif Why didn't you just wait awhile until you met a guy you could date or have sex with? icon_question.gif


    Additional awkward question: What were you thinking while you were kissing or having sex with her? Did it disgust you? lol


    I think a lot of gay guys fall into the bisexual category. Having sex with a woman is not bad. For me being gay was connecting with a guy not just sexually but mentally as well. I have had relationships with women and men. The ones with men were always the deeper ones.
    If I see an incredibly beautiful woman I will feel attracted but I would also get intimidated as thinking I am not worthy, if that makes sense. But if I see a hot guy I never intimidated and always feel like I have a great shot at dating him.
    The dynamic is completely different. Dating a beautiful woman you feel like you have to be worthy of her in every way not just physically but professionally etc.
    Men are so much easier to date. Aside from the competitive thing the conversations, gestures are very straightforward.
    Off on a tangent but I was thinking about this for a while and just had to get it out.
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    Oct 14, 2014 1:38 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidBisexuality is a real thing. It's not just a label used by self-loathing gays to be able to say "I'm not REALLY gay". Granted, there are many that use it like that, but I'm not one of them.

    I've posted it around here before, but I find that for me - I'm not speaking for everyone that says they are bi - but for me, I find that I'm attracted to the personality, humor, attitude, grasp of life, etc... all the things that make a person attractive except what genitals they were born with.

    I won't deny that a well-maintained body falls into play, as a) it looks good and 2) it speaks to the person's dedication to keeping fit.

    So yes, gentlemen... sex with a woman can be a beautiful and amazing thing. Those who find it disgusting and repulsive are, for lack of any better word, "Heterophobic" and your attitude is just as hateful as the attitude you rail against "homophobes" for having.



    Yeah, it's really great and feels better than gay sex because your head is stimulated by the cervix :Guys feel hollow in that respect. The lube is natural . I would get lost in all of the voluptuous softness. Boobs are a whole other dimension of sensual pleasure and in the lovemaking process another life is created.

    Connected Gay sex is thoroughly satisfying on other levels. The feeling of a hard, strong, muscular body , the heat and the sweat and the brotherhood of same sex is a satisfying feeling of I'm Home. Kissing a man is so sweet . A feeling of sharing and coming together rather than the give and take of male female relations.
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    Oct 14, 2014 1:40 PM GMT
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    JonSpringon saidBisexuality is a real thing.
    I find that I'm attracted to the personality, humor, attitude, grasp of life, etc... all the things that make a person attractive except what genitals they were born with.
    So yes, gentlemen... sex with a woman can be a beautiful and amazing thing. Those who find it disgusting and repulsive are, for lack of any better word, "Heterophobic" and your attitude is just as hateful as the attitude you rail against "homophobes" for having.


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    Oct 14, 2014 2:24 PM GMT
    Pressure from family, and career conformity within the Army, where virtually every male officer was married.

    Physically vaginal sex felt good, but I usually had my eyes closed (and sometimes got criticized for it) while thinking of fantasies involving naked men. Though not of me actually having sex with them, but maybe us swimming nude or showering together, as I did in real life.

    So that ironically it was while having sex with women that I would come closest to questioning my sexuality. But as soon as the sex was over I'd put the thought out of my mind until the next encounter.

    I also closed my eyes because I've never liked looking at naked women. Especially their genital area, which is more a turn-off for me than a turn-on, unlike a man's stuff that I can watch all day. Even at nude beaches I try to avert my eyes away from the women, and stay in the men's area (and gay) if they have that informal division.
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    Oct 14, 2014 2:39 PM GMT
    I want it all - a true hemaphrodite.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:07 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidBisexuality is a real thing. It's not just a label used by self-loathing gays to be able to say "I'm not REALLY gay". Granted, there are many that use it like that, but I'm not one of them.

    I've posted it around here before, but I find that for me - I'm not speaking for everyone that says they are bi - but for me, I find that I'm attracted to the personality, humor, attitude, grasp of life, etc... all the things that make a person attractive except what genitals they were born with.

    I won't deny that a well-maintained body falls into play, as a) it looks good and 2) it speaks to the person's dedication to keeping fit.

    So yes, gentlemen... sex with a woman can be a beautiful and amazing thing. Those who find it disgusting and repulsive are, for lack of any better word, "Heterophobic" and your attitude is just as hateful as the attitude you rail against "homophobes" for having.


    Who the fuck is talking abut bisexuality? You didn't answer my question. Also, what does finding sex with women gross have to do with heterophobia? Are men that find gay sex disgusting homophobic? Are you one of those unverified heterosexual conservative trolls? Fuck off unverified fake troll.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:10 PM GMT
    ...Neither is a particularly intelligent question. I've done it; because, I'm Bi !

    Easy Right?
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    The question is:

    Gays that dated, married and/or slept with women: Why?


    I don't care about bisexuals, the question is directed at gay men. Bisexuals answering and saying how awesome sex with women is will waste their time. This question is for gays.


    Ugh, now this thread will turn into a "women are beautiful" "I'm bisexual" circlejerk. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    kevex said
    Who the fuck is talking abut bisexuality? You didn't answer my question. Also, what does finding sex with women gross have to do with heterophobia? Are men that find gay sex disgusting homophobic? Are you one of those nverified heterosexual conservative trolls? Fuck off unverified fake troll.


    Actually, I'd say that's the most basic example of being heterophobic. And same goes with sex with men and homophobia. It's the fear/aversion/disgust of same-sex sexual activity. A non-homophobic person doesn't have to make a point of how they are sickened by two guys having sex. Unfortunately, certain circles of LGBT communities encourage hatred of opposite-sex sexual activity, just as groups among hetero people do the same. The idea of being a "gold star gay" for never having had sex with a woman is what I'm talking about. And it's for some reason fashionable to be disgusted by vaginas.

    Also, cool your jets. Why so hostile?
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    kevex saidI don't care about bisexuals, the question is directed at gay men. Bisexuals answering and saying how awesome sex with women is will waste their time. This question is for gays.


    You realize that you started a thread about sex with women right? That happens to be a subject of interest for bisexuals, so you'll be grabbing our attention whether you like it or not. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
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    kevex said
    Who the fuck is talking abut bisexuality? You didn't answer my question. Also, what does finding sex with women gross have to do with heterophobia? Are men that find gay sex disgusting homophobic? Are you one of those unverified heterosexual conservative trolls? Fuck off unverified fake troll.


    Actually, I'd say that's the most basic example of being heterophobic. And same goes with sex with men and homophobia. It's the fear/aversion/disgust of same-sex sexual activity. A non-homophobic person doesn't have to make a point of how they are sickened by two guys having sex. Unfortunately, certain circles of LGBT communities encourage hatred of opposite-sex sexual activity, just as groups among hetero people do the same. The idea of being a "gold star gay" for never having had sex with a woman is what I'm talking about. And it's for some reason fashionable to be disgusted by vaginas.

    Also, cool your jets. Why so hostile?



    That's not heterophobia. It's normal if you're gay to find hetero sex gross. Finding something unappealing or unattractive is not hatred or fear. Gay men don't hate women or heterosexuals. Stop trying to shove heteronormatvity and vaginas down gay mens throats. sigh Another idiot that didn't answer my question and keeps gay shaming.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    go_dreaming said
    kevex saidI don't care about bisexuals, the question is directed at gay men. Bisexuals answering and saying how awesome sex with women is will waste their time. This question is for gays.


    You realize that you started a thread about sex with women right? That happens to be a subject of interest for bisexuals, so you'll be grabbing our attention whether you like it or not. icon_lol.gif



    The question doesn't mention bisexuals:


    Gays that dated, married and/or slept with women: Why?
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    drunk and horny simple as that icon_lol.gif
    with a friend. Was weird and funny.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:48 PM GMT
    Such anger and hostility... No wonder no one loves you.

    Don't ask for opinions if you don't want them.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:51 PM GMT
    If the bi guys on this forum were only to read topics that they are specifically invited to, we'd be left out of 99% of conversations. The only exception would be in the threads where our identity is called into question, or when we get accused of being promiscuous and unable to keep a stable relationship.

    You created a topic about sex with women. That will likely pique the interests of bi guys. Rather than insist people need permission to comment on a thread, just leave it alone and wait for other gay guys to weigh in.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidSuch anger and hostility... No wonder no one loves you.

    Don't ask for opinions if you don't want them.



    Dude, everyone knows you're a fake account and a troll. You're always teasing people. Go away. Also, you didn't answer my question, you just shoved heterosexuality down my throat.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:54 PM GMT
    go_dreaming saidIf the bi guys on this forum were only to read topics that they are specifically invited to, we'd be left out of 99% of conversations. The only exception would be in the threads where our identity is called into question, or when we get accused of being promiscuous and unable to keep a stable relationship.

    You created a topic about sex with women. That will likely pique the interests of bi guys. Rather than insist people need permission to comment on a thread, just leave it alone and wait for other gay guys to weigh in.



    Bingo! And nobody called your identities here. It was specifically gay men, not bisexuals. Bye.
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    Oct 14, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    janu88 saiddrunk and horny simple as that icon_lol.gif
    with a friend. Was weird and funny.




    Art_Deco saidPressure from family, and career conformity within the Army, where virtually every male officer was married.

    Physically vaginal sex felt good, but I usually had my eyes closed (and sometimes got criticized for it) while thinking of fantasies involving naked men. Though not of me actually having sex with them, but maybe us swimming nude or showering together, as I did in real life.

    So that ironically it was while having sex with women that I would come closest to questioning my sexuality. But as soon as the sex was over I'd put the thought out of my mind until the next encounter.

    I also closed my eyes because I've never liked looking at naked women. Especially their genital area, which is more a turn-off for me than a turn-on, unlike a man's stuff that I can watch all day. Even at nude beaches I try to avert my eyes away from the women, and stay in the men's area (and gay) if they have that informal division.




    lol The only 2 that actually answered my question. Unlike these butthurt bisexuals. I think bisexuals have a hard time accepting that people don't really care.
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    Oct 14, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    go_dreaming saidIf the bi guys on this forum were only to read topics that they are specifically invited to, we'd be left out of 99% of conversations. The only exception would be in the threads where our identity is called into question, or when we get accused of being promiscuous and unable to keep a stable relationship.

    You created a topic about sex with women. That will likely pique the interests of bi guys. Rather than insist people need permission to comment on a thread, just leave it alone and wait for other gay guys to weigh in.



    I never considered myself bisexual. I'm not with any females now and don't want to be. I'm with a beautiful hot man and I'm am secure in that.
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    Oct 14, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
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    go_dreaming saidIf the bi guys on this forum were only to read topics that they are specifically invited to, we'd be left out of 99% of conversations. The only exception would be in the threads where our identity is called into question, or when we get accused of being promiscuous and unable to keep a stable relationship.

    You created a topic about sex with women. That will likely pique the interests of bi guys. Rather than insist people need permission to comment on a thread, just leave it alone and wait for other gay guys to weigh in.



    I never considered myself bisexual. I'm not with any females now and don't want to be. I'm with a beautiful hot man and I'm am secure in that.



    Elaborate? What motivated you to have sex with a woman? That's the question.
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    Oct 14, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Even though I like guys and hard clicks I have slept with and had sex with a few females.

    The three best one's are , 1) Joetta whom I dated in high school, she loved to suck and swallow.we w dated only a few months.

    2) Then there was Pamela, she was kind of a nympho, she loved to hike her skirt and take it in the rear, she loved suck in and would spread her legs for any one...always wore condom with her.

    3) Lisa Palmer whom I almost married, she would suck me off then get me hard again so I could do her doggie , missionary or how ever, luckily I was in the Army and transfered before we could set wedding date.

    But now , I'm mainly a mans man , I'll look at women some but mainly guys.
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    Oct 14, 2014 10:28 PM GMT
    u try to tell yourself that u can fall in love with a women, at least thats what i did. its terrible. sometimes u just want to be loved or liked . thats my problem!