Is bottoming exclusively for some people....

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    Oct 15, 2014 10:10 PM GMT
    I feel like I should bottom but for the few occasions I have tried it, it is quite uncomfortable and just too physical for me. I have succeeded in cumming, in fact the very first time I came without having to touch my D and I came more than once in one round-the guy was exemplary and treated me like a beginner should be treated (hats off for that guy). However, I feel my cumming is more psychological that physical stimulation-what is going on in me because of my mind imagining some cute nice guy is busy pleasuring me but not from the pleasure itself.

    I do not see myself topping. I "top" girls. When I try topping a man, it doesnt quite work out even though God blessed me with a tool that I should use quite well on someone's "the river between", but the snake just doesnt respond favorable to that river except the other one...

    I am not sure if anyone has been in this situation ever? Just a bit of a background to help you put things into perspective. I have had just subtle G feelings growing up but the overwhelming feelings just came out about 2 years ago and since I have lived in a relatively closed society, I haven't experienced much.

    Call me what you may, but please also say something I can learn from...I think that is one of the reasons for such a closed forum of many people with varied wonderful experiences....
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    Oct 15, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    Of course there are exclusive bottoms, actually most gays prefer to be bottoms.
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    Oct 15, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    Bottoming just feels natural to me. I've had trouble cumming the few times I have topped.
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    Oct 15, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    For me it is not as natural. It is what I want like badly but not as stimulating as I would wish unless I am too tensed...may be I do not give myself a way, forget myself and let my *** get attended to nicely ha ha ha. Sometimes it makes me wonder why in most cases, the bottoms moan more than the tops. I feel the tops could be having their way more...but may be it is just one inexperienced view point.....
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    Oct 15, 2014 11:11 PM GMT
    they moan cause it hurts like hell icon_biggrin.gif the poop shoot is not like the pussy. gotta be careful or else its gonna hurt!
  • disasterpiece

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    Oct 16, 2014 12:07 AM GMT
    We gotta keep in minde that we're talking about two different types of stimulation and orgaasms here.

    Topping is fun, but the pleasure usually follows an exponential curve with a high peak at ejaculation, which is followed by a drop in libido. The whole thing gravitates around the stimulation of your penis, more specifically the glans/head (which is anatomically homologous to the female's clitoris).

    Bottoming is different because it actually stimulates the prostate, which is said to feel more like female's stimulation of the G-point. It then can explain multiple or more intense orgasms. I don't necessarily think bottoms moan because it hurts, but more likely because it's a different kind of stimulation which is like a stretched out orgasmed, that just gets above anything else when you actually come from down there while ejaculating.

    I've had experiences while bottoming where I'd have orgasms similar to what women describe as theirs, with the spasms through the body, shaky legs, heavy shivering/tingling (or very nice pins and needles) through the body (face and hands especially) for several minutes after the orgasm. Nothing I've ever was able to get while topping.
  • Iota

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    Oct 16, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    I like topping more then bottoming, but I think the experience is different. I moan when bottoming because the simulation is different and I like it. I think you may just need more practice with bottoming till you get more experienced with it. Also I know a lot of guys who have a hard time cuming from topping, I wouldn't worry about it very much. You might more practice there to find what you like when your topping.
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    Oct 16, 2014 12:16 AM GMT
    Disasterpiece said
    I've had experiences while bottoming where I'd have orgasms similar to what women describe as theirs, with the spasms through the body, shaky legs, heavy shivering/tingling (or very nice pins and needles) through the body (face and hands especially) for several minutes after the orgasm. Nothing I've ever was able to get while topping.


    ^ This is true, bottoms having orgasms (only by getting fucked) is another kind of orgasm that goes longer and sometimes they dont even get erections while doing it. True bottoms should never use their dicks and only get to cum that way.
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    Oct 16, 2014 12:17 AM GMT
    Why not try getting your dick sucked and jerked instead. Why only focus on getting fucked up the ass?
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    Oct 16, 2014 11:22 AM GMT
    On this I can say that I'm a verse kinda guy , I do love buttholes and I do love dick.

    But in a real since I love a hard dick in my mouth and sliding in an out of my buttholeicon_biggrin.gif, I will let the top guy know by telling him to fuck me give me the dick.icon_surprised.gif

    Yes , everyone is different in there own way , I've known a few tops who will only expose there dick through the fly nothing else.

    And I've known bottoms who will only pull pants down enough to be fucked.

    For me , totally nude is the only way to have sex , it gives the pleasure to explore the body.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 16, 2014 6:14 PM GMT
    No, I think animals do it too.
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    Oct 16, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    True people are different...sometimes just slightly but other times as day is from night. I like styles that enhance because body contact..I like to embrace and be embrace in the heat of the moment. Even in porn, I Lk the "let me rid you of clothes moment" more. I hate it when the process starts with everyone stark naked. May be coz am a bit into undies..kinda.
  • 5100s

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    Oct 17, 2014 2:07 PM GMT
    I don't like topping or bottoming, and I think a fair number of men feel the same way I do, although for some men it's not a popular "position" and I've been really grilled about why.

    But I hasten to add that I'm fully supportive of other men doing either or both if that's what they enjoy.
  • OuFeng

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    Oct 17, 2014 3:10 PM GMT
    I am a dye in the wool prison bitch bottom!! Its the only way to go for me.
  • mybud

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    Oct 17, 2014 7:00 PM GMT
    OuFeng saidI am a dye in the wool prison bitch bottom!! Its the only way to go for me.
    I wouldah never guessed...
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 17, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    5100s saidI don't like topping or bottoming, and I think a fair number of men feel the same way I do, although for some men it's not a popular "position" and I've been really grilled about why.

    But I hasten to add that I'm fully supportive of other men doing either or both if that's what they enjoy.

    Well, now that we have your support...icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 17, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    David3K saidOf course there are exclusive bottoms, actually most gays prefer to be bottoms.


    Funny how I have the opposite impression. I guess you find what you're looking for...
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    Oct 17, 2014 9:55 PM GMT
    bachian said
    David3K saidOf course there are exclusive bottoms, actually most gays prefer to be bottoms.


    Funny how I have the opposite impression. I guess you find what you're looking for...



    You think most gays are tops?
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 17, 2014 10:43 PM GMT
    bachian said
    David3K saidOf course there are exclusive bottoms, actually most gays prefer to be bottoms.


    Funny how I have the opposite impression. I guess you find what you're looking for...

    It has been said here before and I can't verify, but there does seem to be a real cultural impact of top/bottom percentages with the more macho societies turning out more (self-proclaimed) tops.
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    Oct 18, 2014 12:51 AM GMT
    kevex saidYou think most gays are tops?


    Well, most guys I meet spontaneously out there are top or mostly top. I even seem to evangelize a few versatiles who say they're gonna be top with me. icon_lol.gif My bear friends say they attract more bottoms, so maybe looks have something to do with it.
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    Oct 18, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidIt has been said here before and I can't verify, but there does seem to be a real cultural impact of top/bottom percentages with the more macho societies turning out more (self-proclaimed) tops.


    Well, the ones I've met were most definitely top in theory and in practice! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 18, 2014 10:16 AM GMT
    Goodlucklumu saidI feel like I should bottom but for the few occasions I have tried it, it is quite uncomfortable and just too physical for me. I have succeeded in cumming, in fact the very first time I came without having to touch my D and I came more than once in one round-the guy was exemplary and treated me like a beginner should be treated (hats off for that guy). However, I feel my cumming is more psychological that physical stimulation-what is going on in me because of my mind imagining some cute nice guy is busy pleasuring me but not from the pleasure itself.

    I do not see myself topping. I "top" girls. When I try topping a man, it doesnt quite work out even though God blessed me with a tool that I should use quite well on someone's "the river between", but the snake just doesnt respond favorable to that river except the other one...

    I am not sure if anyone has been in this situation ever? Just a bit of a background to help you put things into perspective. I have had just subtle G feelings growing up but the overwhelming feelings just came out about 2 years ago and since I have lived in a relatively closed society, I haven't experienced much.

    Call me what you may, but please also say something I can learn from...I think that is one of the reasons for such a closed forum of many people with varied wonderful experiences....


    With certain guys I can enjoy topping very much, especially if they are more sub or fem than I, but I FUCKING LOVE being bottom, both physically and emotionally, love the physical and emotional to the point of ecstasy, love that love inside of me and love to please him, submit to him, held by him...Oh my.... icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 18, 2014 10:27 AM GMT
    JuanPablomv89 said
    kevex saidWhy not try getting your dick sucked and jerked instead. Why only focus on getting fucked up the ass?


    Because getting fucked up the ass feels AMAZING. I love riding hard dicks


    Exactly icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Oct 18, 2014 10:34 AM GMT
    bachian said
    Destinharbor saidIt has been said here before and I can't verify, but there does seem to be a real cultural impact of top/bottom percentages with the more macho societies turning out more (self-proclaimed) tops.


    Well, the ones I've met were most definitely top in theory and in practice! icon_lol.gif

    I think this is some hispanic/latino thing. I had similar experience when I was living in Spain. Now, here in Germany bottoms are just too bottom i.e. FF & BDSM are quite normal here.
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    Oct 18, 2014 11:30 AM GMT
    I believe that every man can btm in the right circumstance and enjoy it. I will also add that it takes a certain mentality that would be unwise to try to change to want to be more btm than top. There is some truthh to both the physical stumualtion and the psychological arrousal as both are most times present

    .. If you want to top an occasional or reluctant btm you need to pay attention psychological ques such as ensuring you take your time and they are comfortable and avoid the porn style 'take it bitch' crap as your going to make it really tough for them to enjoy it, natural or self labelled btm's can deal with that on the other hand.

    Just remember that many btm's are doing so coz they like to pls but some tops do to so don't mistake the 2 as being the same. The psychology of allowing your ass to be filled with a hard penis is the most important thing to set up a good fuck as if you neglect it you will not ever be a good top.

    I am a recent convert to btming even though it is only 10-20% of the time and often half drunk. The top who wants to fuck me must not make me feel like I am 'his bitch' or to fucking rough without ensuring I am ready for it. There are many who are opposite and even like to have a cock up em with little to no 4play and many in between.

    Regarding orgasms I had the best one from a hot Chinese Australian 6.5" but he knew how to make the whole experience about fun for us both. I was feeling it 15 minutes after I left the place and waiting for a cab. I don't often get a lot of stimulation out of being fucked because to me only prostate stimulation is possible and the other zones within the anus are only able to be experienced by relaxing your mind into a thinking of really wanting a cock inside you up to what you believe is your personal limits

    Selfish lovers are usually give you terrible sex as it is just about them. I say that ackowlegiing that some want to be dominated ect which is not selfish as it is what btm and top both want.

    I am in reality a top who will btm more just as a change up than any particular 'love of cock' btm's have. Versatile guys are just the majority in the middle who will have a preference either way

    There is also the 35% estimated that do not engage in anal at all as either