Is this guy at the gym gay/interested?

  • nico1991

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    Oct 16, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    Well, here’s the deal, its about this guy at the gym that I used to see everyday but then from nothing i stopped seeing him… well, like 2 weeks ago I saw him again (ive always found him attractive). I sat on a bench to wait while a friend of mine who I train with everyday arrived, and this dude was next to me doing legs, so I sat and warmup with the bar (chest day) while I waited for my friend to arrive, then I stood up and I felt like someone was talking to me (but I played dumb because I was with my earphones), so that guy touched my shoulder, and I turned around and he asked me if I using some dumbbells that were around there (when he knew I had just arrived) and I just answered him “no” (im a moron, I know). so, he took them and did only 1 series of exercise that had nothing to do with legs, so basically we were next to each other for a couple of mins and I saw he grabbed his crotch for a second (coincide?)… well, later, my friend arrived, and we moved to another area and the guy went to do cardio to the treadmills… then, when I turned around, he was looking at me and when I stared back, he looked away and I was like oh…. Then, he left and I felt like he was looking at me but I didn’t look at him because im shy, then he stayed a while on his car on the parking lot (at the gym I go to you can see from the parking lot) and he stayed on his car for a while… I don’t know whats up, he seems older than me (btw 25-30) and im 22, I always see he never interacts/speaks with anyone so I don’t know (he's also always with his headphones). Also, I don’t want to sound stereotypical but he was wearing white shorts, white sports shirt and a white cap…
    Well, last Friday I saw him again and he was was doing cardio on the treadmill and I was doing legs, and im pretty sure he could see me, and specially I could feel someone was staring when this another ugly dude came say hi to me, then, the guy I liked went to another cardio machine that would give his back to me and was closer to me (first time I ever see him using that one) and started stretching in front of me before using it (nice ass btw)… then I moved to another machine to the other side of the gym but I went outside to my car to get my gym belt and when I entered (the cardio machine he was at is at the entrance of the gym) he turned around and saw me, then when I walked pass behind him, he turned again to see after I had already passed by (I saw through the mirror) then we just shared glances throughout the day. Later, I went to warm up on this random machine (and I saw he turned around to see me) and then i continued to do the exercise I was planning on doing that's next to the machine I warmed up on, and the guy I like went to use the machine, we were next to each other but never shared a word....
    Finally, I saw him again today (I arrived first today, the other days he arrives first) and when we looked at each other he smiled but he was talking on the phone (which is something I do when someone I like is watching me)... So... Thoughts?!? Do yall think he's interested or even gay? Remember I'm 22 and he's btw 25-30, if not even older.
  • xBEHEMOTHx

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    Oct 16, 2014 3:04 PM GMT
    Just talk to him
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 16, 2014 3:04 PM GMT
    Yes. He's gay and he's interested. Why do you keep mentioning the age thing? What does that have to do with it?
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    Oct 16, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    Offer to shower with him. He if he accepts then yes, he's gay/interested.
    If he reacts with shock and horror, it's an act and he really wants you but on the down low.
    If he punches you out then no, he is straight.
  • xy28

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    Oct 16, 2014 6:41 PM GMT
    I would just say hi and ask how it's going. Most guys at the gym are pretty cool about that and it sounds like he might be interested. If he isn't you can still be friends. I have a lot of straight guy friends (way more than gay friends).

    Maybe ask if he wants to grab drinks later if he engages in conversation. Not in a date kind of way lol just say man it's been a long day I think I am going to grab some drinks later tonight with some friends. Want to come?

    I'm 22 as well and some people may look 25 - 30 but they are actually younger. Most people say I look 25. Why does age matter anyways? I find older guys are more mature than guys our age and 25 - 30 isn't old. Old is your own definition and age is just a number.
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    Oct 16, 2014 7:12 PM GMT
    wow u talk more then i do lol, just go talk with him, he is older if he wants u he will make a move, just let him know ur interested icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 16, 2014 7:34 PM GMT
    Place an ad in the missed connections section of Craigslist. That's what everyone seems to do instead of just talking when someone is right in front of them.
  • nico1991

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    Oct 16, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidYes. He's gay and he's interested. Why do you keep mentioning the age thing? What does that have to do with it?


    I've always considered it important (for some reason). I've just recently started to be more open about my prefences as well, so it's hard to tell when a guy is interested or not.
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    Oct 17, 2014 11:12 AM GMT
    nico1991 said
    Destinharbor saidYes. He's gay and he's interested. Why do you keep mentioning the age thing? What does that have to do with it?


    I've always considered it important (for some reason). I've just recently started to be more open about my prefences as well, so it's hard to tell when a guy is interested or not.


    Go for it...When he looks over your way smile broadly...that will give him the courage! Trust me! FMB and BS dudes are very handsome as you show. I go there once a year.
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    Oct 17, 2014 1:11 PM GMT
    First of all you should chill and stop with interpreting every single bit you percieve.
    If you manage that, just say hi and try to chat him up.
    If he doesn't want to get in touch, the chat might just lead nowhere and that's it.
    If he does want to get to know you, you did the right thing for either if he's just looking for a bud or if he's attracted to you.
    Just chill and have some small talk.
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Oct 17, 2014 1:30 PM GMT
    he's interested and you know it. what you really posted this for was to help find the courage to overcome your shyness and talk to him. Start with. "Hey can you spot me?" duh. this is common sense
  • madsexy

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    Oct 17, 2014 1:41 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidOffer to shower with him. He if he accepts then yes, he's gay/interested.
    If he reacts with shock and horror, it's an act and he really wants you but on the down low.
    If he punches you out then no, he is straight.

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    Oct 17, 2014 2:14 PM GMT
    First of all, YES, he's interested in you. What are you waiting for? An engraved invitation? He's probably just as shy as you are and you're giving him the impression you're not into him. Eventually he will give up and start ignoring you. Override your shyness and just speak to the man.

    Also, why do you keep bringing up his age? You're attracted to him, so why is that so important? I've noticed young guys are so obsessed over age. One day you're going to look back and realize all the hot guys you dismissed over a stupid number that means nothing.

    FYI: Headphones and your cell phone are ruining your sex/social life. Leave the headphones at home and keep your phone in your damn pocket. They're preventing you from having real life interactions.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 17, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidFirst of all, YES, he's interested in you. What are you waiting for? An engraved invitation? He's probably just as shy as you are and you're giving him the impression you're not into him. Eventually he will give up and start ignoring you. Override your shyness and just speak to the man.

    Also, why do you keep bringing up his age? You're attracted to him, so why is that so important? I've noticed young guys are so obsessed over age. One day you're going to look back and realize all the hot guys you dismissed over a stupid number that means nothing.

    FYI: Headphones and your cell phone are ruining your sex/social life. Leave the headphones at home and keep your phone in your damn pocket. They're preventing you from having real life interactions.

    Yup. This.
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    Oct 17, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    You both seem quite shy , so one of you has to make the first step .
    Next time he smiles at you , strike a few words like " How are you doing mate " and then bring some fuel to the conversation and see where it goes .
    Try something or you always will wonder ...
  • FRE0

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    Oct 17, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    neffa saidYou both seem quite shy , so one of you has to make the first step .
    Next time he smiles at you , strike a few words like " How are you doing mate " and then bring some fuel to the conversation and see where it goes .
    Try something or you always will wonder ...


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  • josephmovie

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    Oct 17, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    If you are too shy to talk to him then set yourself a couple of goals. When you see him staring at you just nod at him and smile. The following week, no, smile and say hello. Keep moving up from there.

    Small steps will get your confidence up a bit.
  • Ethan_1990

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    Oct 17, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    helloandgoodbi saidhe's interested and you know it. what you really posted this for was to help find the courage to overcome your shyness and talk to him. Start with. "Hey can you spot me?" duh. this is common sense


    Listen to this guy. Seriously.
  • FRE0

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    Oct 17, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    It is too difficult to find a suitable partner to let opportunities pass you by. DO SOMETHING!!

    Even if he isn't suitable for a LTR, at least you might make a good friend.
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    Oct 18, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    That... was great. I laughed, I cried, I died a little (inside). Not that I don't sympathize with shyness... but more so that this was an entertaining, and at times, confusing stream of thought vomit spewed forth onto the computer screen like a Pollack painting.

    Thanks... like such as.
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    Oct 19, 2014 8:11 AM GMT
    go to the gym one day without ur friend.. and say to the guy u like "ohh my friend cudnt make it today to work out together.. do u mind helping me spot" icon_smile.gif just to strike up a conversation.. ull get more info out of having a longer conversation with him then just sharing glances.

    then say something like "u look very familiar" .. "do u workout around this time a lot?" .. so its not obvious uve noticed him icon_smile.gif then if he says he noticed u before around.. then u can tell he was starin at u haha.. ;)

    that will help break the ice.. so go for it icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2014 11:15 PM GMT
    Definitely seems like it if you guys keep making contact. Next time you see him at the gym, ask if you can work in on a couple of sets or ask for a spot. He'll probably make a move if interested.